Hi I'm a 13yearold girl and I really need some advice. About two years ago I used to only like guys. Then, sometime last year I startedto fantasize about me and different girls, some much older than me. Now, I still fantasize about girls and even two of my hot female teachers. And it really scares me that if I list all the guys and girls I've ever liked, I have more girls on the list. I don't know what to do about this because I don't want to like gir;s and I don't even have a boyfriend because I don't feel attracted to the guys at my school. Instead I like the girls so I act like their friend. What should I do? Is this permanent? Will I turn lesbian completely? Please help me, anything anything that you suggest will be very very very valuable to me. Please
2007-03-17 14:41:36 · 17 answers · asked by Girl: Lost And Afraid 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Give it time. You are still very young, and sexuality is very confusing when you are growing up. Until then, don't stress about it too much.
2007-03-17 14:47:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Highschool is the wrong place to make decisions about what your sexual prefrence maybe. You are still young. YOu are going through puberty and so your hormones are ALL out of wack and its completely normal to be attracted to both sexes. Woman are very beautiful. Its not hard to fall inlove with the womans body...or even mind. What will determine your prefrence is experience. By this I don't mean getting all your experience in one year! Girls try to grow up way too fast these days. Slow it down (as hard as that may be) get through school. Never mind the guys OR the girs...just have fun. Make "friends" because you will realize after highschool and college are said and done...they are the real keepers. In time you will understand your bodies emotions...but that time is not now. I am 27 and I am VERY attracted to other woman. But I could NEVER "feel" for a woman the way I do for a man. I'm married to a wonderful man. LIke I said woman are beauitful! Just be 13...not 33! Good luck sweetie...be yourself!And be happy with it...
2007-03-17 22:08:22 · answer #2 · answered by armywife 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. You're only going through puberty, where it's normal to fantasize and explore your sexual tastes and orientation. Fantasies are just that: fantasies. They don't say whether or not you are gay or bisexual. The only thing they say is that you like sex. You can't turn lesbian: you are born that way. You might be bisexual, you might be lesbian, you might be gay. But you can't determine it by fantasies alone. Being gay is an emotional and physical attachment towards the same sex, while bisexuality means you have a low preference for either sex (it does not mean you're a lesbian, since lesbianism is a preference.)
You are most likely just a straight girl going through a very normal puberty. If you didn't have these kinds of fantasies, something would definately be wrong with you (such as emotional retardation.)
2007-03-17 23:31:50 · answer #3 · answered by roxusan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, ignore people who try laying a guilt trip on you by saying crap like "homosexuality is wrong"- whether you're gay or not, that doesn't help the situation. I don't know any 13 year olds, and I don't remember what I was like when I was there, so take my advice for what it is. I have friends now that at 22 still have girl crushes even though they're straight. And they're just that, innocent crushes. Maybe part of your problem is that you have a bad selection of guys at your school. Maybe you're more intellegent than they are (I know I can't stand stupid men). Maybe you're more mature than they are. Or maybe you will become bisexual. But whichever path you're meant to go down, you don't have to decide/act upon it right now. Just give it some time, and everything will sort itself out. Keep your female friends and if in the future something romantic comes out of deal with it then. You're too young to have a crisis right now over it. Good luck, and don't let it drag you down.
2007-03-17 21:55:19 · answer #4 · answered by blue_devil 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are kinda young to think that you will turn lesbian completely, although some people believe that they find out about their sexual orientation at ages younger than yours. I do not believe that you are going to go full time lesbo right now.
No, sweetie, this is NOT permanent, we all go through a stage of confusion in our lives. Only some of us recognize this confusion as homosexual feelings.
Talk to a trusted friend, parent, or counselor at your school or local community center. It WILL help. Good luck, young lady!
2007-03-17 22:12:51 · answer #5 · answered by Dee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All us girls are attracted to each other, we understand each others feelings but... that does not make you bisexual. At 13 confusion is OK, no need to make any rash determinatlons, 13 year old boys are just goofs, and totally non interesting. Enjoy your friends, wait at least another 4 to 6 years and see what ya think ... those guys start lookin real good then!
2007-03-17 21:48:28 · answer #6 · answered by jc1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Accept the fact that currently in your stage of life's development, you DON'T really know nor should you yet find answers to all this SEXUAL CONFUSION you're dealing with....other than to let things ride on till you're older---when the hormones have settled.
There's NOTHING PERMANENT going on in your life...chill out.
By default, go with dating boys---so what if attractions at this time aren't there? They'll be there in time--and the time simply isn't now. Be patient.
You'll know when you're way much older about your true sexuality--be it straight, bi or gay--and by such time, you'll hopefully accept who you are.
2007-03-19 14:22:20 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About 13 a lot of people are in that "young and confused" state. Eventually you'll figure out your sexuality. Just remember to not block out or deny your feelings, whether they're for boys or for girls. In a couple of months or maybe a year or two you'll know. Also, being a gay girl can be great, so don't be afraid to be gay.
2007-03-17 21:51:08 · answer #8 · answered by carora13 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are still growing up girl come down. You could just be curious. It happens. So what if it is permanent. If you like men there plenty and if you like women even better. There are millions of beautiful women for you to choose from. If you like both you get the best of both worlds. Sweetie there is nothing to be worried about.
2007-03-17 22:35:16 · answer #9 · answered by SexySlim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. When I was younger, it scared and freaked me out too. I would fall in love with the girls and not the guys, I thought there was something wrong with me, I felt confused and didn't know what to do. Just be patient, you're still young, time will reveal what you truly are. It may not be easy, but it's up to you to fully accept yourself, whatever you turn out to be.
2007-03-17 21:59:35 · answer #10 · answered by myrtle s. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am the same age and almost same problem. I love guys...I think they are hot, sexy, whatever. I look at them, flirt with them and everything. But I fantasize about girls too. Think they are hot or same. Its natural hun. Everyone really is half gay, if they think about it. I mean it's probably just your personality.
I'm thinking your afraid to like girls because maybe your afraid of being different. But that's alright if that's who you are. Let it out and be yourself!
2007-03-19 19:50:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋