Ok well its a long story but I have custody of my little sister (Shes 15 I'm 25)She has been in a rehab center for 3 monthsfor an eating disorder and self harm a year or so ago. It didn't help at all. Shes been to a phsycologist. That didn't help either. I talked to her and found out she doesn't want to live and shes been cutting since the forth grade and doesn't want to stop. What should I do to make it better? I'm willing to do almost anything. Please help.
2007-03-17 14:34:27 · 16 answers · asked by FICRB 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It sounds like you are doing the right things by trying to get her help. If she is still in a treatment facility right now, inform the staff members of her statements about not wanting to live so they can monitor her closely and continue trying to help her. If you haven't already, I would suggest taking her to a psychiatrist to see if she is in need of any medication. Continue having her see a counselor and make sure she knows she can come talk to you when she's upset. Make sure she doesn't have access to any sharp objects or other potentially dangerous items. If she is actively suicidal and considering a plan to end her life, call the police or your local crisis center or 1-800-SUICIDE. You can call 24/7. It sounds as though something may have happened in her past that has caused her to feel this way... maybe an experience you shared also? Maybe by sharing your feelings and concerns for her well-being with her, you can get her to open up to you also. You need to get to the underlying cause of her emotions. Good for you for stepping up and caring for your sister! I wish you luck.
2007-03-17 16:57:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to tell you, I took a friend under my wing with similar problems. She had an eating disorder, and she was cutting. She had also been to a psychologist that didn't work. I can only tell you what I did to help her. I told her every day that I love her. I talked to her every day about what was going on in her life, what she was worried about, what she wanted out of life. It is very important that a person like this have goals. Find something she is passionate about and help her immerse herself in it. Part of the reason that she may be doing this is that she feels that noone cares. Make sure you let her know very often that you care.
My friend has now completed an Early Childhood Associates degree, she just bought a car. She got a job in a preschool. She is still hard on herself and needs constant reassurance, but I am very proud of her and the steps she has taken to live a better life.
I do want to let you know that this is what worked for me and her. If she is trying to kill herself, she needs to be in a situation where she can be monitored by a proffessional.
2007-03-17 23:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by gottabk8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for the situation you find yourself in. Not only are you dealing with the responsibility of caring for your sister at your young age but the reason she came to be with you may be very hard for you too and then you have this problem with your sister.
Since you are so young yourself it could be possible that you don't even have the insurance to care for her if this is the case then I would suggest that you call on your county services...where I live its called Seven Counties but I'm sure its different in each area. There is also public health facilities that will not charge you or will charged you based on your income.
One thing that could be of huge help to you would be to seek out some christian counseling for yourself and your sister. Getting her involved in a christian environment will help her to understand why she is here. She needs counseling not just christian but mental health counseling because she is obviously suffering.
I don't know what happened that she ended up in your care but if something bad happened and you are all that is left or regardless of the situation, sometimes bad things just happen but you do have each other and you should always have an open line of conversation between the two of you. You both are stronger than you think and God is always there for you to lean on when you aren't strong. God bless!
2007-03-17 22:44:40 · answer #3 · answered by Kellie~Baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just breaks my heart to hear such a sad story. I am 31 yrs old, and I just realized about a year ago that my best friend from high school used to cut herself. I was oblivious to her situation. I remember seeing her with bandages around her wrists and I just didn't figure it out. I had a 4.0 GPA and did not know the signs of a cutter.She was 12 and her sister was 14 and died from leukemia. She resorted to cutting herself. I feel sick about not being able to be there for her when we were 15. What your sister needs is help. She needs to see a doctor about her disorder. She needs help now before its too late and she cuts too deep. Call your insurance company to see if you have mental health coverage. She needs the help. Obviously some things have gone wrong for you to have custody of her, so what she does not need is to be a ward of the state. She needs you to be there for her. I wish I could be there to help you. May God be with you in these times that try the soul.
2007-03-17 22:26:26 · answer #4 · answered by janelle b 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have her commited to a mental institution for a weekend. My sister in law did this when she was 16 and she is now 28. She hurt herself, tried to od on pills and did all kinds of crazy stuff. Her parents took her to every doc they could think of and spents thousnds of dollars on treatment but nothing worked. Finally her shrink said to admit her into WesterState, a mental institution for a weekend. Her doc said she was doing it for attention and she needed *shock* treatment. So she stayed for a weekend and when she came out she was an angel. Her being there with ppl that are really crazy, being on suicide watch not even getting to use the bathroom with out a nurse kinda brought her to her senses. She needs to see what real crazy ppl are like and let her know that you legally can have her commited for years. Talk to her shrink about it and you may only have to have her there for 1 night just so she can see what its like. You cant just stop trying to help her. Maybe also tell her you may have to put her in foster home becuase you can not control her. DOnt listen to these ppl here, really. Is she on pills? Maybe get her some crazy pills also..there is nothing wrong with her going on pills either..if she needs help you need to do everything in your power to help her. How will you feel when you come home one day to find her in the bathroom OD'ed or slit wrists? Help her now before its to late
2007-03-17 22:25:57 · answer #5 · answered by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk with her.You should try to the best thing for your sister.Ask her why is she cutting herself.Try to take her to the mall or go and see a movie.buy something for her like a basket of candy and flowers.Tell her the reason you are living on this earth cause god brought her to earth to be something,to be a somebody. He has a purpose for everyones life.And that god is the only one that can bring her home.
2007-03-17 21:55:53 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Queen 106 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am so sorry... I hope she gets better with time, If its at all possible ,, maybe the two of you can take a long road trip. Talk alot , and try to reconnect, as well as let her reconnect with herself, with out all the noise of day to day drama and requirements. God bless you for being there for her.
2007-03-17 21:43:57 · answer #7 · answered by derangdlilmonkey 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you need to put her in a psych ward, i know it sounds extreem but she needs to be in a place where she is carefully monitored at all times, once she realises she doesn't have to cut and life goes on she will stop, and you might want to get her some anti deppressants becuase you need to come to the reality that if you dont do anything about her she WILL kill herself
2007-03-17 22:45:35 · answer #8 · answered by rollin with the homies 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
God bless you for being there for her. jsut talk to her let her know you love her n try to get to the root of the problem it could be something she out grows
Best of luck to the both of you. I'll say a prayer
2007-03-17 22:22:49 · answer #9 · answered by carrol d 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I Know u tried everything but what I can tell you is never give up. Try taking her out movies,vacation,shopping whatever you think is fun.
2007-03-17 21:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by Winter 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋