i look after an 11 month old boy who constantly cries but with no tears..even after a sleep, food, a cuddle and clean nappy. He is extrememly loud when he 'cries' and 9 time sout of 10 stops crying when picked up. he is rocked to sleep and at times will only sleep for an hour all day. his mother doesnt seem to think anything is wrong. He gets himself so worked up, screaming and crying, i have sat next to him on a pillow and made him stay until he has calmed down, then he sits up and is happy and laughing, at the click of fingers hes a different child! Do you think he is just attention seeking or do you think there may be something deeper?
2007-03-17 14:24:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Being a parent myself, and haveing been through a few scary medical things with my kids, I can tell you right now that he might be in need of attention but one thing you wrote said something else. No tears. When a baby really cries and has no tears it is a sign of serious dehydration. And that's bad. If he get's enough fluids and still is that way real good idea to seek medical attention and find out if he is ok. Small things like that could be a sign of serious medical distress. At 2 months old, my son was doing a few weird things that didn't seem that big of a deal, until I found out he has a serious condition called " Pyloric Stenosis". Serious condition that reguired surgery to fix. So please, check him out with the doctor and don't let it go. Takeing care of it now could make all the diffrence in the world to the little one.
2007-03-17 14:34:54 · answer #1 · answered by pantyhoselover2182 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
OMG you must be watching my son! I love my son to death but he is so needy and cranky most of the day, that sometimes i think it is hopeless. I have tried everything that you can possibly think of to better the situation, but sometimes there is just no answer. It must be especially hard for you because you are not his mother and do not have that connection with the child. When my son was younger I wouldn't leave him with anyone because I knew that i was the only one that could handle the situation. My advice to you is to not give in to his screaming so easily, before picking him up the best thing you can do is try to distract him with other thing. Maybe a little more each day. Of course all children need love, but the little one also needs to learn that being independent is ok as well. It can be very difficult for a mother or sitter to listen to the cries, but you need to let him learn that being on your own is ok sometimes too. Im not saying to neglect him in any sense, but just be a little more firm and eventually there will be progress. About the being rocked to sleep... THAT NEEDS TO STOP! I rocked my son to sleep for that long and it will never end if you don't put an end to it. Put him in his crib and let him cry himself to sleep. It may take 20 minutes and it may feel like 20 days, but it works. I did it with my son and after 3 days of tears he realized there was no point in crying and he just started to go to sleep on his on. It works Trust me and I am not the only one who has done this. For those people who think I am cruel, it was reccommend by many doctors. A little independence in a child is vital. Just have patience and you will see progress.
2007-03-21 12:33:23 · answer #2 · answered by lyndsyherard 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he knows what he wants and how to get it. I used to do daycare and one child I had since 5 weeks old, and he would cry everytime I put him down, but was not like that with his mother. He just knew that I would pick him up, rock him, spoil him and he knew how to work it at a early age. Just the way it works sometimes. Sometimes the parents don't hold or cuddle and they get that with you so they work you alittle differently than they do the parents because they are not used to it with them.
2007-03-21 03:48:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just attention seeking? There's nothing deeper. more than 10 hours separation a week from mommy is deeply traumatic to children under 3. This poor child is in despair at the abandonment by his mother. You note sleep, food, cuddle, clean diaper, yet far more important need is the biological need for mommy.
how heartbreaking that his mother cares so little about him. oh, i know she pretends she does, but obviously....
2007-03-17 14:40:49 · answer #4 · answered by t jefferson 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Babies at this age do not really know how to manipulate you or be "attention seeking". Could the baby have colic or some other type of medical issue?
2007-03-17 15:01:21 · answer #5 · answered by Tracy F 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
remember that is his only way of communicating. he just wants lovin's. maybe he misses his parents. just be patient with him. as his caretaker you need to try anything and everything until you find out what his needs are. good luck and just try to stay calm because if you lose it, it will only hurt him in the long run.
2007-03-17 14:41:42 · answer #6 · answered by mom of 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has got used to physical contact is all.
It's not a huge problem unless the caregiver can't physically hold him all the time.
2007-03-17 14:29:53 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's spoiled. He's seeking attention, and people give it to him, so why not scream and cry and make everyone miserable, since it means y'all will pick him up?
2007-03-17 14:48:28 · answer #8 · answered by Angela L 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
is he teething? dos he pull or rub his ears? do you burp him after he eats? if he pulls at his ear he mite have an ear ache. if he rubs his jaw he mite be teething. if you don't burp him he will have a belly ache. check the diaper. check for fever. check for diaper rash. if all of that is OK then he wants attention.
2007-03-17 14:39:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is playing y'all. that is definately attention seeking.
2007-03-17 14:28:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋