I have always been the leader of my "clique" and lately some friends of mine (in the group) have been talking s*** about me. They say im mean and rude and care only about myself. but that is not true. i swear, all i have been is nice. So girl in group Erica goes and talks crap about me. She convinces everyone stuff that is not true. And has turned about 5 of my friends against me. I think she just did it because she wants to be leader, but im not sure! Why do you think? And another thing... is she being mean or am I? I want to get far away from her, but 1st i want to know if it is her or me that is mean. because she keeps emailing me saying you only care bout yourself and crap like that. Really, if she does that, thats mean in and out of itself, eh? What do I say back? Anything?
2007-03-17 14:21:29 · 7 answers · asked by ravingbeauty53 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
oh my god, is your name chandler? Well to nswer your question; It's lonely at the top. Think about famous people and presidents and stuff. How many times have you seen a site making fun of celebrities and politcians? Wen your popular theres gonna be even more people hating you than usual! some will be jealoues, others just wont like you. Thats something you gotta get used to. Maybe what your friend is saying is something you've been blind to. Maybe what your doing everyday seems natural to you but is seeming mean to her. If you ARE chandler you said something to me last year that was very true. Sometimes you have to say sorry even if you dont know what you did because you probaly did SOMETHING. talk to her about whats she is saying. tell her you dont want to be rude and you dont want to make her feel inferior but if you did, you are sorry and you wont do it again. I know doing this may seem pathetic but sometimes you have to swallow your pride and do whats best.
2007-03-17 14:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sink as low as her! If those friends were your real friends than they won't be turned against you. Join another clique and do not make yourself a leader. Or you could confront Erica and ask her why she has been saying stuff like that about you. Don't yell at her don't call her anything she could use as proof to prove you as rude or mean. If this has been going on for months and you think and hear that it is spreading around other cliques, fight back! But don't fight with lies, fight with the truth. Find a clique who hasn't heard about it yet and tell their 'leader' "(Leader's name), my friend Erica has been spreading really bad rumors about me. She's been calling me mean and rude and self- centered. If you hear this from anybody please tell them it is not true. I don't even know what I did to her. Thanks." Once everybody finds out it's fake who'll be the embarassed one now?
2007-03-17 21:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by isma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if your clique didn't have a leader this wouldn't be a problem. Nobody should be leader you guys should be equal to each other. Maybe, when you was the leader you was bossing everyone around. Now, that Erica has had enough of it. She tells everybody else stuff and they believe it too. I think you should apologize if you really want them to be your friend.
2007-03-17 21:28:17 · answer #3 · answered by ->Yera<- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing to remember is that girls can be petty and friends will come and go. If ALL of your friends think you're being mean or bossy, maybe you should take a step back and evaluate the way you treat them. ALL of your friends can't be wrong...
You should get together with them and ask them why they feel this way. If in fact it is your actions that is putting a wedge between your friendships, you should consider making some changes. If they don't want to hear it...then move on. It may hurt at the moment but you will make new friends; and you will eventually see that the TRUE ones will stick around
2007-03-17 21:39:47 · answer #4 · answered by ms.mixed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe what she's saying about you caring about yourself is a leetle bit true...you say you're the LEADER. in a group of friends theres no such thing. Just speak to her, asking her to give you exact cases where've you've been mean and self-centred, and apoligise if shes right. then apologise to those in your group too. try and see yourself as a team member. if what this girl is saying to people about wrong and hurtful tell her and get her to apologise to everyone else for making you look bad. girl, if these people are your friends and they act like this, maybe you should hang out with some new people.
2007-03-17 21:30:32 · answer #5 · answered by jgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all i think cliques are ridiculous i have been apart of one. You probably say you are always nice but the truth is you probably don't know but you are rude and mean to other people. Just forget about your clique. I just think you have been reading those clique books by lisi harrison.
2007-03-17 21:32:06 · answer #6 · answered by Ivana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably because your the leader and may be bossy they dont like you. you might see yourself as nice but the might see you in a completely different way.
2007-03-17 21:31:33 · answer #7 · answered by jkl; 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋