How can you leave your husband when he says he loves you?

Question

I'd just feel sooo sorry for him, that I just couldn't do that.
Thanks for your answers.

You want a reason???????
He upsets me way more frequently then what he makes me happy.

Answer 1

Love is not enough to hold a marriage together. You have to be on the same page in life or it won't be happy.

Why would you feel sorry for someone who upsets you so much?

Answer 2

The big question here is do you love him? Do you feel that the marriage can be made to work. You obviously still have some feelings for the man, since you feel sorry for him. Only you know if that's enough to build a strong marriage on. I can tell you this much though, and this is from personal experience. If you manage to get some counseling, work on your marriage and get it to a point that you feel like it's working again, you and your husband will be much closer than you have ever been. It's the tough times that we go through in marriage that bring a husband and wife closer together.

Answer 3

it's not easy, and your situation is probably not gonna be subject to generalities. Some times two people just don't work, no matter how much they want it to. Feelings of wanting to leave him are probably justified if you're struggling over it, the best advice I can give you is to seek help from a marriage counselor, see if whatever the problems are can be worked out, give him a chance to change if there's a problem with him, or see if the problems are just in your head.

Just remember one thing, once a hitter, always a hitter, and if the problem is physical abuse, he will never change, leave, no matter what he says.

Answer 4

If he upsets you more than makes you happy, then it sounds like something deep inside is bothering you. I felt that way with my ex-fiance and it took me almost 6 months to end the relationship. I still, to this day, cannot verbalize exactly what I felt, but it was not true love and happiness. He always said he loved me, but liek some others have said, guys (and girls) can sometimes say things either for sex or just because the situation is convenient for them.

Answer 5

Hey, Me, I modified the following just for you (Me)

"the problem is all inside your head", I say to Me
The answer is easy if you take it logically
I'd like to help you in your struggle to be free
There must be fifty ways to leave your lover

Although it's really not my habit to intrude
Furthermore, i hope my meaning won't be lost or misconstrued
But i'll repeat myself at the risk of being crude
There must be fifty ways to leave your lover

Just slip out the back, Jan
Make a new plan, Fran
You don't need to be coy, Joy
Just get yourself free

Hop on a plane, Jane
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, leigh
And get yourself free

It really grieves me so to see you in such pain
I wish there was something i could do to make you smile again
I say why don't we both just sleep on it tonight
And i believe in the morning you'll begin to see the light
And you will realize I am right
There must be fifty ways to leave your lover
Fifty ways to leave your lover

Answer 6

I know it can be hard to leave your husband when it has to do with love. Examine why you want to leave him first and talk to him and tell him how you feel. You have to be able to understand why he is the way he is and accept that. In the end you may be able to stay together and accept him for who he is or leave him and still accept him. In the end he will ultimately love you just for letting him be him just as much as he lets you be you. In the end you may find out he may not be the only on who has changed.

Answer 7

It's real easy to leave someone, depending on the reason why. Cheating, constant lies and abuse would make almost anyone walk out without a second look back.

Answer 8

I did it. Sometimes Love just isnt enough.....thats what I told him.
We loved one another, but lacked communication and it made us grow apart.
I tried everything, and he begged me not to do it. To try to work it out, but we had already tried everything.
It was over, it was time to break.
U gotta do what makes u happy.
It was extremely hard on me and him. I was very hurt and so was he. I felt like a failure, but knew what I needed to do.
He has moved on and is happy.
It just takes a little time.

Answer 9

there are many reasons to leave someone, not just because they cheat. i was married. for 8 months to a man,. he said i love you so much, if u ever left me id shoot myself. or hed tell me how stupid and irresponsible i was. how my mom had this umbilicalcord and wouldnt let me go. verbal abuse is more common then you think. any form of abuse is a good reason to leave any man. so dont go tellin these women they cant leave unless he cheats!

Answer 10

You should not leave him you should seek marriage counseling and help for you and for the marriage. Why does your husband upset you so much and frustrate you if i may ask? Does he even realize he is doing this to you?