think about my story before answering my question....
There is a guy who always make me flustered around him, because I like him. there is another guy who never makes my heart race.
should I TRY to date the former one? or I should date the latter one?
I say "try" when i refer to the former one. since i get so nervous around him. i guess dating with him could be an excitement(well, he is the one I like!) or a misery(well, imagine feeling pass-out for a whole day)
for the latter one, pros is: I need not to feel lonely anymore! cons is: I am just lying to myself. Why cant I date with someone I truly like? BTW, knowing that one day I am going to marry a guy that cant even make my heart race is even worst than passing out.
Please give me some advice. I just feel nervous around guys I like! Thanks in advance!
2007-03-17 14:17:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
You need to put this question in a better category. I would rather be single my whole life that date someone I had no interest in.
2007-03-17 14:21:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
First off, let me point out that I'm single. I've never been in love. The optimistic part of me thinks that I just haven't met the right person and that they are out there somewhere feeling the same way & one day we will find each other. The worrisome side of me thinks that maybe I'm just not meant to end up with anyone, which is a pessimistic view to have in one's young adulthood.
So, having found someone who makes your heart flutter, I think that you absolutely have to give it a try. You can't let this oppurtunity pass you by. It could be truely amazing; difficult, perhaps, but worth it. By choosing the other guy, you would be settling & more than likely, unhappy. Also, it would be unfair to the him because he wouldn't have your whole heart.
I've had several oppurtunities to settle, but I've chosen not to. Sure, I may be lonely on occassion, but, singledom has it's upsides & besides; I don't want to be tied down with just anyone when I meet the person who makes my heart flutter.
2007-03-17 21:35:17 · answer #2 · answered by peace_iris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to be lonely, make some friends -- and -- get a pet (dogs are probably more adoring than cats but they need to be walked frequently and can't be left to their own devices for big blocks of time).
I would never seriously date anyone I otherwise had no interest in, no matter what my possibilities were for a long single life.
And there is more than one guy in the whole wide world who is able to make your heart race, believe me! So if this flustery guy doesn't work out, there are a lot more out there!
In the meantime, take a chill pill and CALM DOWN. Dating is supposed to be FUN!
Good luck!
2007-03-17 21:30:15 · answer #3 · answered by pat z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you should always go with your gut! Dateing a person just because they like you doesnt mean you have to and you don't want to hurt that persons feelings or sting them along do you? I know you like this one person but you never know if he likes you until you make the first move, you will never know unless you ask if he is single or if he wants to go get coffee or something. You will know if it is the right thing to do. ME I am a little scared my self to ask guys I like out or if they are single cause I am a little insecure and I feel I am not attractive. My prob is that most guys I think are cute have a girl in the car! sucks! I say go for it! There must be attraction or it wont work!
2007-03-25 20:24:45 · answer #4 · answered by ravendragonwolf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the one you'll like and not the one that you don't. I'd almost rather spend the rest of my life lonely than be with someone that I had no interest in what so ever. And if it doesn't work out try the other guy. Who nows, maybe theres another guy out there for you.
2007-03-17 21:29:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not settle with a person who did not stimulate me in any way, it will only lead to heartache. Being nervous is normal everyone goes through it. Singles and Dating category will help you if you don't find an answer here.
2007-03-17 21:25:22 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with the one that your not interested in . That will probably make the other bloke jealous then dump the one in favor of the other > If the interesting one shown no interest you will eventually grow to love the un-interesting lad. or give em both a blast
2007-03-25 18:46:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's like saying "should I work at McDonald's for the rest of my life because I could flunk out of college if I try to go for a career I like?" Of course not. You should go after the guy you like. If he doesn't like you there will be someone else. Rarely in one's life is there only one chance for love. Plus, you have to consider the other guy's feelings. If you don't like him and he likes you that's not fair to him. Pretending to like him is not doing him any favors. He deserves to find someone that is as into him as he is to them.
2007-03-17 21:25:49 · answer #8 · answered by :) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok if your so nervous to talk to the guy. Just start off slow with a hi and smile at him. Then progress into hi how are you? And so on.
2007-03-25 17:04:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really think these are the only two guys you will ever meet for the rest of your life?!
2007-03-25 00:46:42 · answer #10 · answered by mloraine76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not use somebody to keep you company....don't be cruel.
Go after the one you like and you feel the pain of rejectin before you hurt some innocent.
2007-03-17 21:22:09 · answer #11 · answered by missellie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋