Just out of curiosity, do other lesbians and bisexuals try to date straight women? I find that I'm usually more attracted to straight women than to lesbians. I think that sexuality is a fluid continuum so I don't see a lot of boundaries. But a fair majority of the rest of the world sees a black and white difference between straight and gay. So I'm curious as to if it's unethical to chase after heterosexuals?
2007-03-17 14:03:05 · 22 answers · asked by blue_devil 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think it's fair to say that married, or otherwise involved females are off limits. I don't believe in disrespecting other people's relationships. Nor do I believe on hitting on a girl if I know that it bothers her, I think that's rude as well. I just like cruisin' for those experimental straight women on the fringe. And I've found a few in my time, so I know they're out there. Thanks, for all the feedback.
2007-03-17 14:28:42 · update #1
There are no boundries on sexuality! Did you know that 25% of women did not know they were gay until they had a lesbian experiment. I think that you should follow your intuition. And i wish you the most luck on finding the love of your life. And i so dont want to make gay marriages illegal. The government sucks.
2007-03-17 14:14:35 · answer #1 · answered by Kinka 4 · 2⤊ 6⤋
I don't know if other bi's or lesbians try to date straight women. But AS a straight woman, I would find it very disrespectful and unconcerting to be pursued by someone of the same sex when they are aware that I am straight. I would guess others feel the same. I think you're better off sticking to those you know are attracted to you. You can't turn a straight girl gay, but you can lose her friendship if you try to!
2007-03-17 14:11:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
Well limits are something set by personal motives and not by an entire group of lesbians or gays.
But you'd be suprised how the situation is switched. A lot of straight curious women are attracted to my lesbian friend. And my lesbian friend is of course attracted to beautiful women, straight or gay, but only pursues relationship with lesbians. In my circle of friends who are gay there is a tendency to avoid people who have recently come out of the closet b/c getting involved with someone who is curious or confused will not only hurt them but the person in that relationship.
But that's just my second hand experience. Hope it helps.
2007-03-17 14:09:18 · answer #3 · answered by Tania La Güera 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
the meaning of the word nuisance(as per my understanding at least) is some one or something that causes annoyance to others . are you and other lesbians going to these meeting and incessantly poking people on the shoulder, taking more helpings of punch and cookies than you should, burbing really loud when someone is trying to give a speech. my guess is no? Then it is the women in these "women's" centers who have the problem. and if they are so weak and fragile as to be worried about what folks might suspect about them then perhaps they should have stayed home , baked a pie for their husbands and not gone to the "women's" center at all
2016-03-29 03:36:50 · answer #4 · answered by Diana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't speak for ALL lesbians, but as a lesbian I don't try to "get" straight women. Of course, I have a partner already, but even if I was attracted to a straight woman I would respect her sexuality preference and would never come on to her.
2007-03-17 14:29:30 · answer #5 · answered by ☮ wickey wow wow ♀♀ 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think that for some people sexuality is a gray area and for others it is black and white. With the black and white individuals then your success will depend on where they fall in the spectrum. With the gray area individuals, your success will depend on your charisma. I don't think it's unethical to pursue someone you're interested in. Just be sure you are reading the signals right and don't go after someone who can't be open to your intentions.
2007-03-17 14:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by Sabina 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think straight women should be off limits. I am a married woman, quite happily, and I had a lesbian friend start making a pass at me. I did not appreciate it and quite frankly did not know how to handle it.
2007-03-17 14:09:03 · answer #7 · answered by angel 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I don't think a lesbian is any more likely to avoid straight women as straight men are to avoid them....
I like some straight guys but I know I'll get much further with my own kind...
2007-03-17 14:07:11 · answer #8 · answered by rabble rouser 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm straight and only been hit on by a lesbian a couple of times. I am probably not much help but I wasn't offended but I was not interested.
2007-03-17 14:08:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. Although I'm not gay, but if I were I think I would find straight women more attractive as well. If its just for a fling... I say go for it. Don't try to make her gay though, that would only make one less available female.
2007-03-17 14:12:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋