i'm a sixteen year old girl and i'm focused on school and my future. but sometimes i just feel like i'm missing out on everything (friends, family, life, etc.) does anyone have any advice as to what i can do to feel like i'm making the most of these years? are they really that important? how do yall feel about youth/'when life actually starts'? i'll be glad to receive any comments, answers, stories, etc.! just a different perspective.
-brionna
2007-03-17 13:54:58 · 22 answers · asked by brini14@sbcglobal.net 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i'm sixteen, i want to learn to waltz, salsa, belly dance, and tango. i really like the arts and i love to read. i'm just worried because i dont have alot of friends (i have a boyfriend though). i want to enjoy this time of my life and have fun with people but it seems like i just..can't. i really want to, though.
i'm so uptight and worried about my future (college, etc.) and it seems like anything else is a waste. when i see close groups of friends at my school and i examine them, they almost always have wonderful friends, social lives, and great grades. i have no support system outside of school and i dont see how those kids balance school and friends...i dont wanna b 30, rich, and alone. i want memories, but i don't want to have to sacrifice my future. any help???
2007-03-17 14:33:59 · update #1
Keep focusing on school. Get into a good college. There's plenty more fun to be had there than in high school.
2007-03-17 13:57:38 · answer #1 · answered by Darlie 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
First of alI, I commend you for even thinking of how to make the most of your life, and asking for advice. I hope you really consider what people have to say.
Honestly? I became a young mother & didn't graduate or do any of the things that I once planned to do. (I had dreams to graduate, have some kind of carreer, get an apartment with my best girlfriend that I grew up with, travel) But I love (& raised my 3 children)... I'm now 53. Please allow me to share what I've learned.
I've learned that (most) teens think that adults don't know what they're talking about. I also thought that way. I've learned that adults (including myself) remember all too well the emotions, risks, confusion, insecurities, etc. that teens feel.
Though "times" have changed, the basic human emotions of the teens years have remained the same for generations, though I admit that teens these days have alot more to stress about.
I've learned that when adults talk about "wisdom", they have learned from experience. (They have already been where you are) And when they give advice, their only hope is that someone will listen and learn from it. Teens have a need to make some horrible "mistakes" over & over & suffer the pain and consequences before learning.
**If I had it to do all over again, I would have sat and "listened" to some of the wisdom from the experiences of the adults who loved me & tried to spare me the pain of my poor decisions. Seems we always do what they advised in the end anyway.
I've learned alot. My life is good now. And I want to keep it that way... Now, I take the time to "hear" what the elderly say to me. Sometimes, I don't understand, but I retain it in my memory. They've been where I am now, & I know I'll someday be where they are. Something to think about!
My advice is in the following 11 tips:
1- Go ahead! Enjoy being a teen (yes, they are important!)
2- Have many friends (but choose them wisely!)
3- Take responsibility for mistakes you DO make (Don't blame others for your bad decisions)
4- Seek any help if you need it
5- Read, read, read!
6- Study & do well in school (I've learned that an education really IS important... you'll see!)
7- Be an independent person (Learn to be self-supporting ...the days of staying home & letting a husband support you are long gone ... learn to depend on yourself.)
8- Learn all about wise spending/saving and finances while you're young! (This is important!)
9- Family is important! Enjoy them, love them, be there for them, never hesitate to say "I'm sorry" if needed!
10- Be confident, stand up for yourself & never allow yourself to be taken advantage of!
11- LISTEN to wisdom!
Have fun in your teen years! But all the while, think hard about every decision you make... weigh the consequences and try to make the best decision for you. Don't fall for peer pressure. You'll fit in where it's best.
God bless!
2007-03-17 21:45:14 · answer #2 · answered by PJo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's fine to be focused on school and your future, but not to the exclusion of family and friends. You are at a time in your life when you should be establishing friendships that will carry you through the good and bad times. Most elderly people will say that it's not the things in life that they did that they regret - it's the things they didn't do. You should be living your life daily - it sounds like your putting it off. Live a little, sister!
2007-03-17 21:03:31 · answer #3 · answered by postingnut2005 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Um, I was very studious. I did 4 hours of hw in hs and then went to college and went to grad school. I don't regret it but I regret the time I spent studying and not developing social skilss or spending time with my family.
NOw I am 35 years old, married, and have 3 children and one that has some special needs. Now I don't regret not being popular or not hanging with the fast crowd, but I regret studying so much and thus being secluded of my own volition from games and fun and missing out on the carefree things of life at that age. Make changes because life gets serious when you get older no matter what you do.
2007-03-17 21:02:24 · answer #4 · answered by mamato3 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's good you are focusing on school right now but try to have some fun outside school as well. Being a teenager is hard, you have physical and hormonal changes to deal with in addition to learning about all types of relationships all whilst trying to get a decent education. These are the years to experience as many different things as you can, and to make your mistakes so you learn not to repeat them later. My advice is to take time to really appreciate your family and friends. Listen to them, particularly older relatives because you can learn so much from them. You have the rest of your life to enjoy, I wish you happiness and good decisions.
2007-03-17 21:03:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well since ur 16 u shouldnt kill urself with work n school. im 16 as well n im not only focused on school but my grades are straight A's minus 1 B. Try to be more social with your friends. These years of your life are VERY important because you don't want to look back at it 15 years from now and have no highlights, funny moments, or anything else of interest. Of course i enjoy my life as a teen lol because i'm having fun. But anyways try to relax with all the hard work and have some fun
2007-03-17 21:03:12 · answer #6 · answered by mKsTpN0y 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Brionna, it seems to me, that you are a very intelligent young woman, with her priorities in the right order. Sweetie, your life started the day you were born. for 16 years you have worked at becoming the person you are, your parents have had a great influence, no doubt. you're probably feeling anxious about your teens, because of added responsibilities. your not a carefree child within mom & dads sight at all times. you most likely have grown into a young person that they can trust, so, independance is learned. on the timeline of your life, you are only at the very beggining, there will be time for everything. dont run... take your time, take in the sights, & take plenty of pictures...good luck!
2007-03-17 21:07:05 · answer #7 · answered by mighty_mom 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you're on the right track to me. Keep up the good work, it has its rewards. As far as missing out, forget it! You're not missing out on anything that will do you any good later in life.
Your life has already begun and you are doing a fine job of enjoying life. At your pace, you will continue to enjoy life for a very long time.
Please stay on track. Your true friends and loyal family members will support you and be proud of you today, tomorrow and forever!
Stay focused!
2007-03-17 21:07:33 · answer #8 · answered by DEE 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My advice to you is to keep on focusing on your future, that is important but also to enjoy the here and now. Take a break every so often and hang out with ur friends, try something new, etc..You always gotta stop to smell the roses because before you realize it your youth is gone.
2007-03-17 20:59:00 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well its been a while since i was a teen but hell yes the highschool are the most important part of your life.
for starters and this is only is your a major hot girl and want some major attention. try going to class with a skirt on but no panties. im not saying show off the goods but give the guys something to look forward to. then if they ask you out and they mention the panties thing you will know just what kind of guy your going out with. duh hes looking for pussy baby.
also if the football captain likes you ignore the hell out of him it will jsut want you more. get his little nut sack all tightened up then when you get the nerve jsut walk up to him and lay a big wet one on him . but to realy get his juices going kiss him and then tell him your bisexual or a gay. heheheheh.
trust me this **** works. i know the girls used to do it me alot as well.
and if that dont work wait 2 more yers and hell ill give you a go . lol j/k
2007-03-17 21:03:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋