I think he only does it to show out in front of friends and family because he doesn't offer to give it to me. When I need help he says your on your own......(example When I was wanting to buy a vehicle) But a friend can ask do you have ### tool that cost 1,300 and he will buy it to let him use. plz help hes already 40 years old.
2007-03-17 13:53:41 · 12 answers · asked by Kim 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I work and try to save my money, but it takes 2. He is several years older than me. If that has anything to do with the problem.
2007-03-17 14:08:59 · update #1
It appears that your husband cares more about his friends more then you. If I was you I would tell him either he starts paying more respect and attention to you may just have to end the marriage. i know that sounds harse but he is being irresponsible and selfish couples are suppose to help each other out that includes finances. I believe he doesn't understand the whole theory of marriage when you marry you do not have your own money everything is to shared that is one of the main reasons joint accounts were created. I would just go and get yourself a loan and then both of you would be required to pay on it if you do not have a house already or are just wanting to get money saved for retirement start a savings account for this or a mutual fund.
I'm sorry but he is just being childhess and controlling you must have known this about him before you tied the knot so
it's your life to live with your decision or to leave the situation.
God Bless and Good Luck.
2007-03-17 15:28:21 · answer #1 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband could not handle money when we got married so he did not get any he gave me his paycheck I handled everything bills household items everything that the
children needed it was a lot of extra work for me but if I had not put my foot down and taken charge we would have never had anything.NOW THE DOWNSIDE been married nine years and I had to spend the month of February in the hospital
unable to even talk about the bills or children (8,6, and 4)he had to sink or swim thank god with the help of family and friends he swam I'm home now but he still has to do most of the work.He saw how hard it was to run a family and how much things really cost I can happily say he is a changed man.If you don't think you can take control of your family's finances then do like most couples and keep everything separate and split the bills and household needs and you save for your future because i don't think the marriage will last much longer.
2007-03-17 14:17:37 · answer #2 · answered by superwomen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Geeeshhhh....that sounded really weird.
However, with my husband I'm trying to figure out how limit his spending because I want to save aswell.
Its hard cause he gets mad. He basically spends a lot of small amounts on crap and going to the supermarket so much!!!!! And I try so hard not to buy clothes and purses even though I would love to. Good Luck to you.
2007-03-17 14:00:29 · answer #3 · answered by Reading and Answering Your Q' 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your "already 40" year old husband is very immature and I am not sure that you can make him understand how important it is to plan for the future. Maybe he will grow up soon and see your reasoning. Maybe try to talk to him alone and let him know how serious you are.
2007-03-17 14:02:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to get a job and open up your own savings account in your name only. Find ways to make your own cash. Thats the only way your going to be able to save. If he wastes all your money tell him HE IS ON HIS OWN.
2007-03-17 14:01:10 · answer #5 · answered by hbuckmeister 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Kim 100% your husband sounds selfish and immature. I wish I had some advice for you but my husband and I handle our finances together. But I wish you the best.
2007-03-17 16:51:08 · answer #6 · answered by Petra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set up a 401k or 403b. that way you can save money and avoid some taxes.
2007-03-17 13:56:46 · answer #7 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him and if he dont care like say sit on his rocking chair watching tv trying to ignore you then take a stand yell at him show him who's boss
2007-03-17 14:38:52 · answer #8 · answered by ҉Single Chick~a~Dee҉ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds pretty selfish. At his age, he should be more willing to take responsibility.. but that doesn't always happen. When you marry you stear away from his and hers and it should be "ours".
2007-03-17 14:14:39 · answer #9 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 is right - you need to take care of yourself - he is selfish (lemme guess, is he a sag?)
Hang in there if you must - - -good luck.....
2007-03-17 14:00:44 · answer #10 · answered by tirebiter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋