i am 16 and pregnant. i live with my brother and sister in law. my brother is currently serving in Iraq. how can i tell them?
2007-03-17 13:50:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Im a college student and I still havent told my side of the family. I know what your feeling and thinking the best advice I can give you is let them know as soon as possible and be straight with them. No lies. Your parents are going to feel like its about them and you hruting them remember and make sure you let them know that you love them and did not want to hurt them and asking for there love and passion. They will be hurt, but you may be surpise. My boyfriend told his mom and she took it better than I thought I love that women and she told me she loved me and to hold on. One more thing everything you feel the baby feels, so if crying is in need cry your heart out. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-23 17:52:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, but someone needs to know. I would simply go to the sister n law and say, I have something I would like to share with you. I know that considering all that is going on in our lives, this may not be a good time, but I feel I need to share this with you. Then simply say, I do not want to disapoint you or upset you, but I am pregnant. I am coming to you because I do not want to have dishonesty and distrust become an issue between us. I also came to you as I thought maybe it would be best so I can get under a doctors care.
I am also hoping that this does not cause us to grow apart as a family. I only want to do what is right and be honest with you, as this is your home, and you have allowed me to stay here in it with you. Good luck sweetie, and I hope this helps.
2007-03-17 14:46:09 · answer #2 · answered by johnniesgrl_34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the sister-in-law first, definitely. You'll be seeing more of her. She will be able to help. Are you excited, upset? Say so...you don't need a lot of stress when you're pregnant. This is the time when you are going to have to trust that they will have your needs in mind. Good luck, in your pregnancy, situation and to your brother.
2007-03-17 14:00:29 · answer #3 · answered by Wade doesn't know diddley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, there is no easy answer for this one. You'll need to arrange a time with your sister-in-law where you can talk to her with no interruptions. The truth is the best course. Knowing your options and decisions on how you are going to handle the pregnancy and finish school before you sit down with her will also be important. No decision you make will be easy and it will have an impact on you and your family. Best of luck to you.
2007-03-17 14:00:05 · answer #4 · answered by mzbe_haven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i got pregnant with my first one when i was 14. and that was the hardest thing i have ever had to do was tell my family. i sat my mother down and told her. i just said that i was pregnant, and that i was NOT having an abortion. I told her when i was pretty early along for her to adjust to it. My mother was pretty understandable and helped me through everything. If it wasn't for her I would of never made it. Family is always the most important thing to have during a situtation like this.
2007-03-22 16:35:42 · answer #5 · answered by ann w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are close with your sister-in-law, tell her first. being a female, it might be more easier for you. the two of you can decide on what to do with your brother... but i don't think it would be a good idea that he finds out while in Iraq.
good luck
2007-03-17 13:58:05 · answer #6 · answered by wateverinfinity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just, let it out! i would probaly tell your sister in law first with her being a woman and all. And she might help you tell your brother!
2007-03-17 14:00:22 · answer #7 · answered by Cayla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just tell them that ... i know that youlove em and we both want the best things in life for me but im prenat and i know u might be a liitle dissapointed in me but right now is when i need you the most ,im scared and with your support i can make the best decsion
2007-03-17 15:22:00 · answer #8 · answered by mandi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your sister in law. Expect them to get angry, try not to be defensive. Their anger will pass. Just remember that they aren't trying to be mad at YOU, they are mad at what is happening to you and they will be frustrated because there is nothing they can do to change it!!
2007-03-17 14:22:47 · answer #9 · answered by western b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
completley agree with the other person, tell them. listen whats going on with you is unfortunate but holding out on it is not going to help.
i wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-17 13:59:15 · answer #10 · answered by jason e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋