My daughter's gym locker was broken into months ago?

Question

She accused one girl of breaking into it after hearing the girl, who is named Ava, say I hope I don't get in trouble for beak into Madison's (my daughter) locker. Now Madison's old friend who is also friends with Ava, Jade, won't stop harassing and bullying my daughter. When Madison goes to class she is constantly hearing bad things about herself from Jade's mouth. Jade calls her ugly, dumb, stupid, makes fun of her clothes and bags, leaves her excluded from her other friends who Jade and Madison are both friends with. The other day Jade embarassed my daughter so much she left class and went and sat in the bath room for the rest of the period because Jade yelled infront of the class she wouldn't work with that dumb b*tch. Madison has talked to the guidance consulter several times, I have talked to Jade and her parents, this has been happening since January.


Any ideas on how to stop this?

My daughter has tried to handle this just to let everyone know. She's in the 10th grade.

this girl also somehow found out my daughter goes to therapy and is calling her psycho-a$$ ***** to everyone. by the minute it gets worse

Answer 1

Have you spoken to the school about it?

Hopefully something should get done.... if not, then it might be wise for her to move schools. And I think she should frop Jade.

Answer 2

Is your daughter in public school? If so, many of them have wayyy too many other problems on their hands regarding drugs and drinking etc. They won't do much unless you make them.

You have several options since it looks like this is getting really bad- be sure to do something about it though. It looks like it's affecting your kid real bad.

Firstly, go speak to Jade's mother once more (in Jade's presence). Your daughter should be there too, so that she can know what's going on. Tell Jade and her mother that what Jade's doing is called Psychological harassment and bullying.

(Psychological harassment
This is humiliating or abusive behavior that lowers a person’s self-esteem or causes them torment. This can take the form of verbal comments, actions or gestures. Falling into this category is workplace mobbing.)

Let them know that you are highly concerned because your daughter is being affected in every way, and that unless they stop, you can and will bring this to athourities. Just to scare 'em a little, drop 911 or the police into your conversation- If it gets constantly worse, then you do just that.

However, before going to such athourities, take your case to the school principal. A decent principal will start dishing out punishments and preventive measures. However, if he does nothing, warn him that you'll take it to the superintendent's office if you have to.

In essence, make sure that girl, Jade, stops. Also let Jade know that you and your daughter couldn't give a rats *ss whether or not she is still friends with Madison. Let her know that you want her out of your daugheter's life, and unless this happens, you're not going to stop.

Even if Jade stops doing these things outrightly, she may do it subtley- stuff that your daughter cannot take action against, because it's really subtle but disturbing stuff.

In such a case, it's your daughter who has to be really really strong. You have to give her support at home, and try to encourage her to make new friends. Many of them preferably. Being in a group will always provide her with support emotionally (and physically). Also, once your daughter has friends, she should get a couple of witty one liners to throw at Jade's retarded face. Jade will shut up. She sounds like a stupid freak to me.

Your last option, is of course, to move schools- to private school. You may have your reasons for not wanting to do this, but keep in mind that if you do move schools, you'll be admitting defeat. But perhaps this defeat is worth it, because your daughter will have more focus on important issues. However, keep in mind that if Jade ever sees your daughter again, she will feel very much superior, for having driven her out of the school.

It's not an easy situation, so good luck :)

Answer 3

Talk to the principal then go higher up and let him know that if he does not take action on the bullying and she gets physically abused tell the dumb twerp principal, Mr. Lawsuit will come and see him. Seems nothing gets down unless you gonna sue. And tell you you will go to the newspaper and tell them he has not done anything.

If you ever read the newspapers, if you read between the lines how man shootings happened cause the principal was too lazy and just worries about his retirement coming.

Good luck. See if she is able to transfer to another school for 11th grade, just one option to look at.

Answer 4

Schools are too lazy these days and bug the hell out of me that they see a problem and don't do enough to fix the problem. I just graduated hs last year so Im still plenty fresh to the idea of when stuff like this happens your poor daughter is put through hell. As the mother you need to walk straight into that school monday morning demand to talk to that counselor and the gym teacher. Let them know this is serious. Put your foot down and tell them they are letting this happen. Get on their cases about it. stick up for her through the school. If more measure need to be taken demand for her to be taken out of that class. or tell her to kick the girls ***!

Answer 5

Major beat down, in the parking lot...You, Ava's mom, your daughter and Ava.....after school, 3 pm, no holds barred.

That's what Munya would do.

Actually, what Munya DID was to break into the other *****'s locker on a hot friday afternoon, put raw meat all over her sh!t, and then introduce some flies that Munya carefully caught in a jar.


Munya gets pissy when people diss Munya.

Answer 6

confront the school
confront her parents again
if this girl keeps at it tell her parents to keep their child away from yours

that is just cruel

this time have a long talk with her parents and HER!!!
if it still doesnt work tell the school you want this child away from your daughter or expelled!!!!!!!!

these are choices that i thought would cause no violence but it just makes me so mad that a child thinks it funny to call another child a dumb biotch!!!!!!!! i wouldve cussed her out so much by now her ears would be bleeding and falling off!!!!

sorry i get carried away..


best of luck
hope this helps

Answer 7

Hmm... This happens a lot in HS, MS and elementary with girls.

Call the school and talk with the highest person you can, these things CAN get violent. Talk to them and make them go to the counselor, it can be embarrassing, but it's worth it.

Answer 8

hi there,
the best thing your daughter can do is show them shes not afraid, upset and doesn't care what they say about her no matter how much what they say hurts her. they see her pain and they feed of it it makes them feel like they can dominate her. going to a teacher can only do so much and sometimes there not much help at all. i no cause i went through this at school. once i stood my ground they stopped picking on me. if you would like to talk to me you can email me at [e-mail] im more than happy to help.

Answer 9

this is kind of hard to answer because she isn't young like i had expected her to be before reading the entire situation. i am in 11th grade but no one in my small school is very dramatic. anywayy try letting your daughter work this out on her own, if you get involved, she will just look like shes incapable. good luck

Answer 10

you need to talk to this little girl and teel her that you will call the cops on her if she dosn't stop and apolgize and be freinds with your daughter again