my recent ex bf for nearly a week has been showing me mixed signs about our relationship. when he broke up with me he called it off because of trust & communication. after all things were said & done, he still wanted to be friends. in my opinion, being friends it too much to handle when there is too much history between us. i understand that we have trusting issue because he has cheated on me in the past, &that is why it has taken me 4 years to completely get over it, but now i have began to give him the benefit of the doubt & trust him a little more each day. well, since the break up, he has been calling me constantly, & i feel like I am being pulled in for an emotional rollercoaster. i have tried to speak to him about our situation, & yet he is the one with bad communication &trying to avoid the questions. i just wanted 2 know whether he wanted to be with me or not at all, but no answer. so i had to let him know that i cant just be his friend. when will he realize that i am the one ?
2007-03-17 13:33:28 · 7 answers · asked by sophia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
LMFAO!!!!
Lady, you're in serious denial. Move on, quickly. May also be obsessing.
2007-03-17 13:37:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships shouldn't be so hard. A healthy relationship doesn't need emotional roller coaster rides either. Trust is a huge factor in a good relationship and it sounds like yours was quite shattered from the start. Four years is a long time to spend "getting over" someone cheating on you. There must be more to it.
Listen, as uou get older (and wiser) you realize that life is just too short for all of that drama. Who needs it? Wouldn't you rather be with someone who you feel secure and confident with?
There are reasons that things don't work out. Many times it has so little to do with you, but as women, we often tend to think it is our fault. We spend the next weeks/months/years trying to "fix" things. We don't even stop to consider that maybe it is they who have the real issues and NOT us. Soem things are just not meant to be fixed.
Believe in yourself first and foremost. Never accept less than the best that life has to offer. If you do accept less, you will only settle for that from every new man that enters into your life. You will ultimately get exactly what you fear the most.
Please also take it from someone who knows, find a good relationship Counselor and go alone. Work on yourself. It is the best gift you will ever give to you and to anyone that enters into your life. Learn how to set healthy boundaries and love yourself. You will soon notice that you will start attracting a different (much better) level of partner.
Good luck. I really wish you the best.
2007-03-17 13:46:25 · answer #2 · answered by Singthing 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 07:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you want him back after all he has done to you? there is someone else out there for you and this guy clearly isn't that person, sometimes in relationships there is no turning back, you are the only person willing to try to work on this relationship and he doesn't and he is the one who made the things go downhill in the first place, if he really was willing to work on things then he would be showing you more effort, not telling you he wants to be friends and using your emotional feelings for him against you and putting you on a roller-coaster, it is obvious that this guy doesn't not want a relationship with you he just doesn't know how to tell you and that is why he has been avoiding your questions.....
2007-03-17 13:51:23 · answer #4 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's dicking you around and wants some break up sex. Trust me, that's all he wants. If he is avoiding questions that is a clear cut sign. Remember, If you have sex with an ex and it's bad, you just had sex with an ex. But if it's good, you'll just be thinking, "Damn I don't have that anymore."
2007-03-17 13:39:37 · answer #5 · answered by Jamie B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell tell him to stop avioding the questions or you can not speak to him what has he got to hide if he wants to be mates there's no chance as you say there's just too much history but ask him why he is avoiding things maybe he will tell you
2007-03-18 01:42:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it and move on. I know it might be hard to do but try.
2007-03-17 13:39:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋