We don't really believe in them because whether we have on or not, it does not make us any more or less married, and we don't think it is a necessity. I don't see anything wrong with people who DO have one (because most people do) but some of my friends think that it's weird that we don't. What do you think?
2007-03-17 13:26:38 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't understand, what is so weird about it?
2007-03-17 13:29:19 · update #1
My husband and I don't have wedding rings. I haven't worn mine since I first found out I was pregnant with our oldest daughter back in 2003. He hasn't worn his since he lost it in Korea a year prior to that LOL. It didn't bother me one way or the other though. We were dead broke when we got married... we went to a J.o.P. 1800 miles away from our families b/c that's where he was stationed at the time. In comparison to all the things we've been through in our short-lifespan (yet long relationship in comparison LOL... we're 25 and have been together since 15, married since 19) we've both learned that the physical representation of the "wedding band" means jack squat in comparison to the actual marriage itself. The ones we had were cutesy cheap ones from Target anyway... it's all we could afford :) And now that we've gone so long w/o them, we actually don't see a point in spending a couple thousand on them. We don't wear jewelry that often anyway... and lately we've been considering buying some simple, inexpensive hematite bands to wear in the place of wedding rings as the physical representation of our vows & committment to one another. Since we have children, and just recently bought a home, we have far more important things to worry about financially instead of wedding bands :)
No offense to those of you who have the expensive sets... if that's what works for you, then go for it! But for me & my husband, our marriage is just as strong & full of love & devotion... with OR without the rings :)
2007-03-17 14:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by Jemmie Vee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No rings here either, wore them for about the first 6 months then that was it. It's just a symbol, it in no way changes how we feel about each other.
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History of Wedding Rings and Bands
The wedding ring on a hand of a person symbolizes the person is in husband and wife relationship. This symbol and tradition has a long far back history. It started with ancient Egyptians, seeing the circular band (today’s wedding ring) representing eternity and love, endless devotion, with no beginning and no end. Even the ring hole has the meaning of a door to events known and unknown for two committed to each other
2007-03-17 20:33:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's weird at all. Wedding rings are annoying anyway. It's difficult to carry a piece of lugguge wearing a ring without pinching your inner finger. I've seen some rings that look like they were constructed out of parts of a broken chandelier. Even simple gold bands can yank out a whole parcel of hair when putting your fingers through your partners hair. Rings might be ok for some people but I say props to you for doing what you want. You're friends are just jealous that you won't have any tan lines on your hands.
2007-03-17 20:38:21 · answer #3 · answered by jack jagger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married a number of years, more than allot of these people have been alive and the reason that wedding rings are worn is to advertise to others that you are no longer available. I could never were a ring because of my work but I did (after numerous solid yrs) get a tattoo were my ring would have gone bearing my wife's name. I don't judge or see anything wrong with those who don't wear rings but I will say that the lack of respect for the institution of marriage is bothersome to me. I feel that if people worked as hard to make their marriages work as they do to piss their "ex's" off, it would be more of the loving institution it was meant to be. With or without rings, may your marriage be a satisfying experience that grows to bloom the blossoms of the sweet love it has seeded
2007-03-17 20:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by Gardner? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These rings is a symbol of marriage and yes thankfully or hopefully you have the man and not just the ring. A lot of women has been plagued with this where they just have th ring and not their husbands but this is not about anyone else this is about you. These rings are a blessed symbol of marriage for me yes I wanted something pretty but all I cared about was wearing the mark of my husband. I wear it because I believe in it as something sacred towards my beautiful marriage. It is also what you believe in as well if you don't then make no one change your mind. Your marriage only depends on two people bring in others and it is headed no where more than towards destruction.
2007-03-17 20:42:58 · answer #5 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not a bad thing at all. the whole ring thing is symblic anyway. more of an old way for a stranger or whomever to know that a women is married .
but if your both cool with it and they mean nothing to you, then who cares what people think.
personaly i rather have a pretty ring he got for me , on any finger..as long as it meant something in the giving and receiving... like a special day( childs birth, anniversery..etc)or just cause he loves you so much.
i dont see whats so weird about it either.
2007-03-17 20:33:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, at least if people see the wedding rings on your fingers, they would at least know that you are married. If not, you'd get questions like "Are you married?" or "Where is your wedding ring?". And yes, I find it weird 'cos they are part of the love, trust and bond you have with your husband. Well, that's what I think.
2007-03-18 07:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by Xaelia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many of these answers are a great example of how women are committed to symbolism more than anything else.
You don't need a ring to remind you of your vows or your marriage.
I don't wear a wedding ring and I have been married 18 years.
Why would you want to spend thousands of dollars on symbolism?
Isn't there other things you could spend that money on besides jewery?
You are correct, you don't need a ring to make your marriage any more bonding.
2007-03-17 20:49:22 · answer #8 · answered by Mr R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can start believing. They DO exist. There IS such a thing as a wedding ring. Whether you wear them or not is up to you. They are certainly a nice indicator for the singles out there so they don't waste their time.
2007-03-17 20:30:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isnt odd at all. My parents never had wedding rings at all. Besides they cost alot of money and its just fancy to show it off. Sometimes depending on the work you do they can get in the way or be uncomfortable to wear. But no it isnt odd. Love isnt defined by material things anyway.
2007-03-17 20:35:23 · answer #10 · answered by Sweetheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋