What is a good way to make the abuser see what he is really doing? I'm not talking about Physical Abuse, but EMOTIONAL abuse.
2007-03-17 13:05:17 · 12 answers · asked by mcpark2004 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
He knows deep down what he really is doing. He knows he can control you by making you feel worse about yourself. Emotional Abuse can be as harmful if not worse. Broken bones can heal a broken spirit needs counseling. You have a decision to make. Are you going to continue to try to help fix him? Or are you going to fix yourself. Maybe if you get help for yourself if he truly loves you he will be willing to get help for himself. He must first admit to himself that he is emotionally abusive and want to stop. There are groups for thees kind of men. There also are groups for women who are emotionally or physically abused, and Please don't brush emotional abuse off as not as serious.Good luck!
2007-03-17 13:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that being assertive is the first step. Stating something like...
Putting the focus on the behavior rather then the person will help the person understand that it is the behavior and not the person that you dislikes.
The second step is to make it clear that you will not put up with the abuse. If you continue to put up with the abuse, it is sending a strong message that it is OK to abuse you.
Good luck!
2007-03-17 20:13:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have everyone else in the family get counseling so they can learn to no longer bow to the abuser's falderal. ...Really.
Until the abuser finds that their method is no longer working - they will never look long enough at themselves to stop the behavior. They have to go into counseling themselves to truly stop it. ...And they won't do that while they are still getting what they want out of their existing behavior.
Until the victims get help and get away, the emotional abuser will always fall back into their comfortable patterns.
Sorry hon.
I pray you find peace.
2007-03-17 20:17:30 · answer #3 · answered by Depoetic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do to make somebody see what they don't want to see.
It's also possible that there's things going on which you refuse to see. The person who's emotionally abusing you could possibly feel that you're abusing him or her. It happens all the time.
2007-03-17 20:50:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Real men do not do such things.
Are you his wife or his pet.
Where is his love. If you can't
leave him, then get help. If you
don't, then the next step could be
physical abuse. Show some
backbone and don't let it go on.:)
2007-03-17 20:27:30 · answer #5 · answered by PokerChip 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You tell me! After 2 years of putting up with his crap, the baglady gave up on her 'Prince Charming' . His words hurt more than anyone's fists ever could. -Even his. There really was no way for him to understand how much he hurt me. He may never understand. Sorry.
2007-03-17 20:18:51 · answer #6 · answered by baglady 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I started walking out of the house and say when you stop I will be back, after 30 minutes I go back in, and ask are you ok now. if yes I stay if no I go back out. now she doesnt do it much, because she knows I wont put up to it...
2007-03-17 20:19:27 · answer #7 · answered by skcs11 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't. the abuser never accepts that they are doing anything wrong, even if you taped the screaming and yelling and the name calling and the put downs, the abuser only says "well you shouldn't piss me off"
2007-03-17 20:09:29 · answer #8 · answered by Miss T 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
hidden camera with sound.
lots of times the abusers arent aware of what they are saying and how it hurts us until they hear it themselves. Dr. Phil uses this technique frequently with much success. i recomment hidden camera and counseling together.
2007-03-17 20:08:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
i'm not sure about your question..but it seems like your asking that how could you show to the abuser that he's already abusing you emotionally..well i guess a right eye contact with those tears in your eyes..or a sad look in your face
2007-03-17 20:11:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋