I've heard you're supposed to like your kids better, which makes some sense to me but I don't agree with if the couple really loves each other and aren't married for other reasons, and I've heard you're supposed to like your spouse better, which I don't like at all (how would you feel if your mom loved your dad more than she loved you and your siblings? Not very good).
Most people would probably say they like their kids better, or they like them equally. Today, you can divorce your spouse, but you can't divorce your children.
I think an ideal couple will see each other, and their children all as their babies. Sadly, most marriages don't have unconditional love, and a lot of parents don't have unconditional love for their children.
2007-03-17 12:53:19 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No, I agree with you, there is nothing wrong with that at all.
2007-03-18 16:36:18 · answer #1 · answered by Tony M 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My short answer is "no, there's nothing wrong with it".
Trying to determine who you love (like) "better" doesn't make a whole lot of sense to me. Human relationships are complex, and each one is different. People are likely to love their spouse and children in different ways, but is there really any need to try to say one is "better" than the other?
If forced to give an answer, I would tend to agree with you.
2007-03-17 20:18:16 · answer #2 · answered by SpaceSquirrel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love isn't supposed to be judged as being more or less important dependent on whom it is for. Love is love, and it is offered unconditionally. If the pretense of love has condition, it is not real love anyway.
However, you can like someone more than another. But that is not love, that is just preference.
Your children will always be your children. Even if you and your childrens other parent part company, they will always be as important to your kids as you are to them. So, at the very least, they deserve your respect, if not your love.
2007-03-17 20:18:13 · answer #3 · answered by wonkyfella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never been married or had children. However, I think they should love their spouse and children the same, but in different ways. Take, for example, you probably wouldn't romantically love your children but hopefully you'd romantically love your spouse.
2007-03-18 14:39:16 · answer #4 · answered by Me Encanta Espanol 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If were to like my children the way I like my woman I'd be in big trouble: that would make me into a child molester. I like them differently... and no, I can't see my woman as a baby and I hope that she sees me as a man, a real one.
2007-03-17 20:04:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋