my husband thinks i cheated with my mothers fiancee(i didnt) but he took my neighbour out "for coffee"says he needed someone to talk to,behing my back,yet i beg him to talk to me most times tell him how i feel but to no avail makes no difference he also made a few visits to my other neighbour without me knowing while her boyfriend was and is still away he says nothing happened although she said she would sleep with him but she didnt want to deal with me if i found out i confronted her with it she denied it i am not sure what to believe and dont know if i should stay with him or just move on we have been together for 14 yrs and married for almost 5 we have 3 children together but i am very torn and confused i have been walking around with a stupid smile on my face and now feeling pretty damn stupid about it all.....any suggestions?all are welcome...thanks in advance.
2007-03-17 12:42:24 · 9 answers · asked by perfectwife06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like he's trying to lay his guilt on you, and make you feel like you pushed him him into something. You need to look at what has happened. If you have not left out anything it does sound like he's cheating or very near to doing it. "Having coffee" (every watched ROSEANNE, she said that's code for "I want you"). He going to the (female) neighbors' while their men are away doesn't sound Kosher to me. As for your children, they will be happy where there is no tension and anger (this makes it hard for them). It's best not to bad mouth the other spouse in front of them.
2007-03-17 12:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by Mary Lou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We women are pretty good at sensing when something is wrong.If you think he did then you can bet your life that he did.If I were to tell you about my husband going to a neighbors house without me and her boyfriend was not there they were all alone what would you be telling me right now?
If I were you I would walk up to the neighbors house and bang on the door when she opens the door I would say to her
b i t c h I no you had sex with my husband don't deny it he already told me all I want to no is how many times did you and my husband f u c k if you don't tell me right now I will tell your boyfriend what you have done. I bet she opens up then.
Find out first what they did before you decide anything.GOOD LUCK !
2007-03-17 20:13:23 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not sure what you are asking here. The whole thing sounds like a huge mess, and nobody trusts eachother. One thing - when someone accuses you of cheating wrongly, it might be a sign that they are cheating themselves...that's not proof, but just another part of this mess. My advice is to get in your hubby's face and get it all out on the table once and for all and see whats left. Good luck.
2007-03-17 19:53:29 · answer #3 · answered by Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being married that long, he may just need a girls point of view on the matter. My husband has girls that he talks to and I don't think that it is wrong. You should trust him, he may need to talk to you and is finding a better way to say what he wants to say with out hurting you. Or he may want to know if he is wrong. Unless he starts acting funny then I wouldn't worry about it.
2007-03-17 20:13:19 · answer #4 · answered by blondieT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. you have to make him beleive you did not cheat.
2. he is using THAT as an excuse to have "coffee"! = SEX
3. he is cheating......by being and having intimate conversations with another woman...and NOT YOU!
4.you have to set some boundaries here or he will just do whatever the hell he wants to.
5. sit him down for a long, honest talk.....then check the cell phone records..his routines, what has changed etc....that will clue you in to what THEY are doing and how far it has gone...
6. just the fact that she says she wants him is TROUBLE.....and he is falling for it.
good luck.......
been there...done that.......got out!
2007-03-17 20:15:43 · answer #5 · answered by STARZ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, keep trying to prove yourself, if you cant prove he cheated and all he does is deny it, then he didnt cheat. All i can say to you is if you love him, and thinks he is worth it, then keep trying to gain his trust on this, y would he think you would be with your mothers fiancee, gross!
2007-03-17 19:49:51 · answer #6 · answered by AJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go shopping! buy yourself something that makes u feel good.
Tell your hubby, not to ever talk about you to the neighbour or anyone else, say this in seriously stern manner.
2007-03-17 19:54:43 · answer #7 · answered by Chloe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to salvage the relationship, go to counselling. If you don't want to forgive him, leave. It truly sounds like cheating, he needs to be completely honest if you try to save the relationship.
2007-03-17 19:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down with him and tell him you did not cheat and tell him you are willing to do a lie detective and also let him do one too.
2007-03-17 19:58:04 · answer #9 · answered by Leana L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋