I've encountered alot of difficult, painful things in the past year. I feel like I’ve become numb. It’s frustrating because I feel so lost, and I just want to cry. But I can’t. If I do, it’s forced, angry tears. I have to make myself, and it never lasts long. I can’t seem to just let it all out. I would like to just cry for once, about all I have lost...but I can’t. I used to be able to just cry. I almost feel like I’ve become hard and somewhat cold inside because if I wouldn’t be, I’d brake down. I’ve lost so much...S. is in heaven and I miss her more then I can express, my guy and I are over yet I still love him, I moved thousands of miles away from my friends, and my life, the list goes on.
But anyway, why do you think it is that I can't just let go, and cry?
2007-03-17 12:27:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Do you take medication? Do you take drugs or alcohol? Medication, drugs and alcohol and inhibit emotions... and end up doing the total opposite!!!
If not, I think that sometimes, when a lot happens, it's almost like you get a control over your emotions that you never used to have.
Maybe you are becoming an adult (no matter what your age is) and you have developed control over your emotions.
What I hope is that you don't bury those emotions deep down inside you to let them form a huge ball that will end up exploding.
Do you wish you could cry? Would it make you feel better? If you're okay with how you've become... great! But if you worry about it, maybe you should ask a therapist.
2007-03-17 12:36:21 · answer #1 · answered by Andrine 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm so sorry for all your troubles,I think you can't cry because there has been so many things that hurt you this last year. So you have put up a shield to protect yourself. If there is someone there you can share these things with ( that you trust ) and will give you the sympathy and comforting you need ( along with holding you in there arms) I think then you will just let go and cry it out. You also might want to get a notebook and start journaling all your feelings and all your thoughts....it will help too. I'll keep you in my prays...I understand , this year has been a mess for me also...I just lost my favorite Uncle last Tues....he died of Lung cancer.....
2007-03-17 12:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by Marie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom was the sweetest , loving person any one would want to know . she wasn't cold just deeply hurt by a sister in low who lived with us while she was sick . Mom helped her so much , but she was just plain hateful in return . Mom wasn't the kind of person that told people what she thought when they hurt her , she just took it & treated them so very kind .
Mom got so she couldn't cry , even when people she loved died . I think she held things inside so people wouldn't see how she felt even though she didn't want to be that way . I find I do the same some times , but then I just cry now & then . I really need to cry , a really good long cry not just a short burst . It washes out the pain & regrets .I'm so much more productive when I do .
Your not alone many people lock up their feelings . I wish we all had a way to open up & just cry when needed .
God Bless
2007-03-17 14:23:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel like you. i often wonder why i can't cry. i wonder if i have become cold too. but i know that i am a deeply caring person,and i will do anything for a friend or family member. i wish sometimes i could cry all day and get things out. i think we have been through lot's of bad things,and we ask ourselves what could happen next,that would be worse than this. we have just braced ourselves for the bad. we try and show our strong points in public,but inside we are crying. my very best friend told me yesterday she has a lump in one of her breasts. she was crying and very scared.i couldn't cry,but i held her while she cried.i felt so helpless.maybe things shock us to the point we can't cry?
2007-03-17 12:53:47 · answer #4 · answered by stacy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im the same way, (you dont want to know all the stuff ive been through) i am going on 10 years without crying, and its actually quite troubling. i feel like i need to vent my emotions in some way, and sometimes try to force myself to cry, but nothing works. ive learned to vent in other ways, but still working on the crying thing. so its not abnormal or unheard of, but it is something you should try to remedy, but if you cant, dont worry about it, just find other ways of dealing with things
2007-03-17 12:35:26 · answer #5 · answered by andrew b 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Fear is one of our strongest and poorest serving emotions. Perhaps you are in fear of being venerable. We have all been there. Know that you are strong. As humans we are in fear of being venerable. Crying is a wonderful release. The brain clears,it is the body's Valium. Enjoy a good cry. You'll be comforted.
2007-03-17 12:42:57 · answer #6 · answered by thirsty mind 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like at some point in your life your brain has been anchored to know that crying is bad. If you think crying is a good thing, you could try to change your minds way of processing emotion.
2007-03-17 12:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
To the person above me, she has stated very clearly that she can't "enjoy a good cry".
2007-03-17 12:51:54 · answer #8 · answered by ... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋