How can i make new friends?

Question

I have never felt more alone, i used to have my sister around me who's only a year older but she has moved to another part of the country. I have two best mates, one of them has recently had a baby and the other has been with a guy for a while and spends all of her time with him, it feels like i dont exist sometimes. Now these people who im closest to no longer have much time to spend with me, my social life has suffered and i feel very alone, this is making me feel depressed, when im usually a very happy girl. I am really shy and do not have a lot of confidence, so i do not make friends very easily. If anyone could suggest ways for me to meet people i would be grateful.

Answer 1

This is something that I have also struggled with. It is not easy to make friends. I have a lot of colleagues and people that I interact with because of social activities and work, but a friend/companion is something that is much harder to come by. The best way to create a friendship is to be a friend. Join social groups, church, volunteer work, athletic groups, etc. and simply look talk to people and eventually you will click with others. Don't be afraid to exchange phone numbers with someone that you truly hit it off with. The more times you are out and about interacting with people the more likely you are to create a long lasting friendship.

Answer 2

you be a member of an association if you like social and civilian work (association for children, or any kidn of activity), join a club of music, theatre,.....
or simply do like i do, i joined a gym club, and i meet a lot of new girls over there, then we talk and we meet each others, we go to coffe shops and to watch a movie after the gym, sometimes we meet the week end, ....
if you have no time for this, try the internet, get a yahoo messenger or a skype or whatever, to talk and to look f ro people living around u...
talk to people while waiting for the bus every morning(i do that from time to time, and i'm shy too, but sometimes i feel bored and i feel in need to have more friends)
hey, u have a new frioend if u don't mind, but unfortunatly living far away, unless you are from Morocco too!! yes, Me!!!!

Answer 3

One important thing bout making friends is being yourself. if someone doesn't like you very much, don't try to change who you are to try to impress that person.
Join clubs, get involved in sports, don't be afraid to say hello to niehbors around you. You need to build your confidence and be happy for yourself, rather then being so rough and hard. I learned that part of having a good self-esteem is feeling good about youself, keeping your life positive, staying healthy, and speaking up. If you had good confidence people will know the reall you, and know how intelligent, and bright you are. or know your personality well. Just stop being depressed. Keep your head up at all times. I
I'm very sorry if I sound like a grown up or anything, but I just wanna help you, and help you feel better about yourself. I learned how to do that by hanging around good people, and raising my hand alot in class. I use to be the quite shy girl also and didn't talk much , becuase I didn't feel confident. But now I'm in the 6th grade,and everyone talks to me, and I recieve much more attention from people then I use to.
One more thing... being confident about yourself doesn't mean walking around acting all that, or being popular. keep that in mind. Bye, Bye!!! have a happy Saint patricks day.. :) LOLZ

Answer 4

hug hug


helps to know a city and country so can suggest places to go


Maybe you should go travelling and live in backpacker hostels

or go to backpaker type nightclubs or bars such as

www.thechurch.co.uk in london (not relgious... complete opposite more like club 18-30 minus yobs and twats.


Go in fancy dress... helps break the ice. Likewise take part in party games or anything on stage.

Maybe not poker or maybe yes... bars do poker nights and thats a way to get started ie some ongoing game things , maybe a pool comptetion...


again detail details girls... inc age.


The reason for backpacker places is nots travelling on won and the nuaghty games are actually designed to get people mixing...


Things like foam parties through foam on boys etc and they want to get you back.

Hug.

Things like the jelly wrestle night in the octoberfest bar in london, first sunday of the month (see why need city and country)


www.octoberfestpub.com take part then its easierr to chat to the boys especally if still have jelly here or there.

And to win just have the most fun and silliness. Or cover the bar manager in jelly.


Rock and metal clubs are usually more friendly as well. Stick out where something wild or go for it on a dance floor so people notice you.

Answer 5

You don't tell us how old you are Sparkle. Do you work? Most of the others on here have said. join a club or something. Good idea. Check out your local library, they often have notice boards with interesting things to join. Also book clubs. I joined one last year and made several new friends. Think about taking a course at your local community college. Good luck anyway, hope you meet some nice new friends.

Answer 6

First I would just say, go out and do something that you love or that makes you happy. I'm sure in doing these things not only will you feel better, but you may come across people with your same interests. Take a class, join a gym.... stay active. Don't force anything, the best things come along naturally.

Answer 7

Hi sparkle,
sorry to hear u feel so down ...... ive felt like this as well, i live a long way away from my family and brother, and it is horrible, my 2 mates used to see me,but when they got boyfriends, u dont see them much, i keep telling them to come and see me, sometimes they do......
What hobbies do u have ? if there are any clubs near u, or colleges, where u could join, and be with people who enjoy the same things as u ? plenty of things to talk about to them ...... are there any neighbours near u, who u could become friends with ? u might see them, when u go out, or come home ? give them a big smile, and say hello. u never know ? they might have been waiting to make friends with u ? and been 2 shy and nervous as well ! u might make very good friends out of them ? i hope ive been able to help ? it is horrible if u feel shy, i used to be like that, it took me a long time to get confidence, and one of my sons is shy as well, it is hard, but try to keep smiling and chatting to people. u can email me, if u would like to ?anytime ?it is always good to have someone to chat to, a problem shared is a problem halved....... sharon. it is......... [e-mail]

Answer 8

maybe you could join some sort of club, get a new hobby where you can meet people easily. look around see whats available and see if you can find something that might interest yu
its the best way to make friends
good luck

Answer 9

You have really been left behind, haven't you? Are you in school? Is there a church, library, coffee shop... somewhere you could go to regularly to meet new people?
When you're around people don't be shy, there's nothing wrong with saying hello & talking to people.

Answer 10

Go to the gym, go to some clubs, maybe take some short course. You're bound to see people there who are also looking to meet people.