His mother has been hostile every time I see her, or talk to her, and has had her mother with her every time I see him. I feel extremely uncomfortable around them even when my son is with me. He has tried to keep in touch with her, but she treats him like crap. Since his son was born, he has become a Christian, given up crack and meth, and still smokes pot on occasion and drinks 1-2 drinks occasionally. He has only just come to the point in his life where he CAN be a better dad. I did send my grandson birthday gifts, but dont know if I should try to talk to her when she is so nasty with my son and I. She never contacts me, and never sends photos or anything about my grandson. What should I do?
2007-03-17 12:20:58 · 2 answers · asked by ogopogo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I did send him birthday gifts , a card, a page for the scrapbook I made him, and also a blank page for her to put pics on for his scrapbook. I also sent the obituary for his great-grandmother, who's wishes on her 65th wedding anniversary last year was to see all her great-grandchildren before she died in feb
2007-03-17 12:42:26 · update #1
It sounds like you need a solution that will be easy for the mother and non-confrontational for you. The key is that you want to be focused on the love you have for your grandson, not on the problems you have with his mom.
I'm thinking maybe you can use the mail for this situation.
First, send your grandson a birthday card with a gift card enclosed for a bookstore or place his mom could buy him clothing. It does not have to be a huge amount.
Follow up soon after with a short letter letting her know that you appreciate the care and love that she gives your grandson. (She needs to know that, regardless of what has happened, that you appreciate and respect her role.) Tell her you'd like to receive pictures or updates on him and enclose several self-addressed, pre-stamped envelopes for her to do this. If you can, offer to help her pay for portraits as well. These can get expensive!
That way you are making it easy for her to get the things to you. Even if she had a good relationship with you - running after a 3yo boy frazzles your brain. Making it simple for her to get these things to you can help it happen.
2007-03-17 12:35:25 · answer #1 · answered by gwennthered 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well write a letter to her and just explain how u feel in it she might lighten up u never know. talk to ur son about it or mabey ask ur friends for a solution
2007-03-17 22:42:01 · answer #2 · answered by ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋