My DAD.......?

Question

IS REALLY MEAN TO MY MOM.He complains for EVERY SINGLE THING! he bothers me when i study and when i get low grades, he yells at me. he yells at every1 in my family, and he fights with my mom ALL THE TIME(more like CONTINUOUSLY!)As we areIindains, i cannot talk back to my parents, or anything!This is affecting me VERY negatively!My mom also has a very SERIOUS illness, and she still does things normally(she has 30 blood diahhreas a day!)and my dad doesn't EVEN appreciated that. instead, he yells at her, and doesn't even care.I ALWAYS side up with my mom.I REALLY need help!how can i make my mom feel better?????????

My dad Gets REALLY irritated for EVERY SINGLE THING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!IT GETS ON MY NERVES!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Confront your dad about how selfish he's acting. Actually, tell him everything you just mentioned in this question, and mention how much it's really hurting you to see him acting like this toward your mother, especially in her current condition.

Tell your mom that you appreciate everything she's doing, that she's an amazing person that you really respect and look up to, and that you wish your dad could realize this like you do.

Actually, how does your mom react when your dad yells at everyone like you describe? Does she do anything? If you really want a change, you might have to forget the 'not talking back to your parents' idea, and let him know that his behavior needs to change. Visualize the arguement, and like one other person said, maybe you could write him a letter, but he might just throw it away lol. Talking to someone at school is also a good idea.

Answer 2

There is a family in my hometown that went through the exact same thing. They are Indian and the father insults everyone in his household, refuses to take responsibility for anything, and even abused his wife. The older children didn't even come home once they were in college because they couldn't stand him. If your mother is sick then something needs to be done. The mother in the family I know eventually secretly left one day and took the children to CAPSEA (Citizens Against Physical, Sexual, and Emotional Abuse, I don't know if they have anything like that where you are and I'm not encouraging you to do anything on your own). Even if it may not be the norm in your culture, you need to take serious action. It is a basic right to be respected and taken care of no matter what nationality/culture you belong to. Talk to your mom about how she feels about the situation and her health and hopefully she will make a good decision regarding her wellbeing and yours. Good luck.

Answer 3

Are you kidding me? Everyone on here is saying to go be nice to your mom and stuff and nothing else! As if that's gonna make a difference. Sure it'll make your mom feel better, but you're dad's just gonna make her feel bad again ten seconds later by what you said. Obviously don't be a jerk to your mom and do be nice to her, but don't only do that. I think your parents should get divorced. If your dad is being that bad to you and the rest of your family then what's the use of staying that way? Your mom probably won't divorce your dad because she wants you to have a normal family or she doesn't want society to frown upon her. If you want them to get divorced then just explain it to her. Be like "Mom, I know you're probably only staying with dad to make our family seem normal. You're probably afraid that we're gonna be frowned upon or something but think about it. People in the US get divorced all the time. Britney Spears was married for like a day! Plus it's not gonna make the rest of the family happy to watch you get yelled at all the time for us. It makes us feel guilty and we'd all be happier if you would do something. You wouldn't have to put up with him anymore and we wouldn't have to watch you get yelled at anymore." If you don't want them to get divorced but want your dad to stop then first try talking to him. If he's abusing you or your mom then you should alert the police or tell your school guidance counselor. That really stinks that your mom has that illness too. When she's on the toilet try talking to her through the door (I know it sounds GROSS) and try saying stuff like "It's okay, mom. You know I love you" stuff like that

Wow I sound like a corny corndog (okay that makes like no sense) but I hope this helps.

Answer 4

Tell her that you love her a like the things that she does. Give her postive from you and tell her to forget your Dad. Love her do things with tell her WOW you did that really nice!! It helps to know that at least one person cares and takes time to tell her that. It may not seem that it matters but it really does to your mom

Hope it help

Answer 5

The best thing to do would be to go talk to your school counselor. They are trained how to help people like you in your situation and can give you some ideas and, if you want, can mediate between you and your dad. It would still be a good idea to go talk to him/her, it will probably make you feel a lot better and help you.
Good luck!

Answer 6

you can help your mom by taking care of your self first,if u r not healthy and have good grades your feauter is in limpo..you are not the mom sweete you need some one to take care of u and give a hug and talk to u about whats going on in your live.your choose to stay with your dad she can always leave go with her, the only thing u can do is love her as much as u can, u cannot change athers.

Answer 7

make her a card, tell her how much you love her! Write to your day saying... i really hate it when you yell at mom and i...
is this helpful?

Answer 8

Just take care of her and do what she says and dont be bothered by your dad one day he will look back on this and probubly feel bad

Answer 9

help your mam and try to talk to ur teacher in school about the problem and maybe they can help in some way. you won't get in trouble for asking for help or advice.

Answer 10

looks like ur momma needs to give him the boot called divorce if its really bad