vacations with my friends and getting crazy, and stuff like that. I don't do it but sometimes I want to. What do you do when you feel this way? or did it all stop when you got married?
2007-03-17 12:06:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Travel ➔ Asia Pacific ➔ Philippines
you shouldn't have get married. what you should do is that you should go out and make plan with your wife, and invite both your friends.
but you should also have time for yourself, but you have to remember that you have a responsibility as a married man.
TO: ST. ANTHONY BELOW...
shut the **** up! you don't know nothing, Filipina's are not whores.
2007-03-17 12:45:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've been married just over two years as well, and sometimes I know exactly what you're talking about. I became a teacher the same month I got married (now I'm 25) and moved to a new city, so most of my friends were/are much older than I (other teachers). Talk about a shock! I took up knitting and quilting to fit in. I find little ways to have fun. I've taken trips with old friends without my husband and we had a great time. It's not like being un-married however, because everything I do now effects our relationship and future for good or bad. You can choose to go out and be crazy, but when you take your vows, you decide to put your spouse above yourself, so you always need to think about how your choices will play out.
My husband found it extremely helpful to plan a "guys' night out" once a week, that was decided ahead of time. He went out with his buddies, played pool, sometimes got drunk, and always told me all about it the next day. It was wonderful for him to get out, and great for me to have a quiet night alone for tub night, or reading. I never felt threatened by this because there was no secrecy, and we both needed the time apart. If I had heard stories about women or other things going on the situation would have been different, however, so just be sure it's open and planned ahead of time so you don't blindside your spouse.
2007-03-17 19:24:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been married 10 years now. I know how you feel, but you should remember that your life is on a different path now. Your sharing your life with someone, and she is sharing hers with you. I still go out with my friends, but not all the time like I use to because I want to spend time with my wife and my daughters. I still set aside some vacation time for myself each year. So the answer is that it doesn't stop, but you do slow down some, and there is nothing wrong with that. Afterall, isn't she worth it?
2007-03-17 22:25:40 · answer #3 · answered by Brian F 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the world doesn't stop just because you're married!
you could still go on vacy if u choose to--- and if with your wife, wow, much sweeter!
but if alone-- um, senti-time or reflection. Either way it will be for your own good.
If I am in your place, I would do all the things I love except "polygamy" of course even if say I love that.
2007-03-21 02:59:41 · answer #4 · answered by cher_dc_xu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can still do those things and be married to! TIme away from your spouse is healthy and just might strengthen your relationship - remember the old saying of 'absence makes the heart grow fonder!'
P.S. - just be careful not to engage in behavior that would embarass your spouse - i.e. doing things with other women.
2007-03-17 19:15:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Things change when you get married, but you can still do some of the things that you did before marriage, just dont get carried away.
2007-03-17 19:21:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it kinda slows down when u're married, but u should focus on ur marriage & wife NOT on getting crazy and stuff like that
2007-03-17 19:16:53 · answer #7 · answered by AzGirl325 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take my husband with me. We both go out or get invited along with our friends. Try finding another couple that you can hang with.
2007-03-17 19:14:08 · answer #8 · answered by LadyDeathStryke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should give a time to yourself, everybody need it! but dont forget your responsibility as a husband & as the head of the family. you have your right & your wife too.... ;) // just dont forget the GOLDEN RULE!
2007-03-17 21:50:08 · answer #9 · answered by shanny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋