i jus decied friday that i was gonna try and go bac to bein straight but when i told my friend whitney she said she didnt wanna talk to me anymore because straight people make fun of people like her and then she said she dont talk to bi people because they are nasty havin sex with boys and girls and they are jus confusin. she is jus 1 out of the many gay friends i have but she is the only one i have told im going straight i want to be straight so i can fit in but i dont want to lose all of my friends cuz its not worth it. should i stay gay and disappoint my family or should i turn straight and lose all my friends. help me please...
2007-03-17 12:04:47 · 13 answers · asked by NewOrleansSmartGirl 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Do you really think that true friends would ditch you because of your sexual orientation? If they are only friends with you because of that, then they should not be considered a loss. Trying to be straight to please your family isn't the solution either. One needs to find what will create balance and happiness in their life, not choose things that may please others. If you try and change who you truly are to 'fit in' you will be lying to yourself and could potentially lose sight of who you are.
2007-03-17 12:13:10 · answer #1 · answered by kat_sista 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is so "trendy" now a days. "I want to be bi because it's cool" or "I want to be gay because it's cool" or "I want to be straight to fit in"
HELLO PEOPLE! Sexual Orientation is NOT a trend!!!
With that said, I'm completely unable to answer the question because it just sounds like a crock of BS. Sorry.
*Edit* For the chick below dissing what I say, try growing up in the Middle of the country. You will learn real fast how "trendy" people are making sexual orienation out to be. I do NOT believe that you will be happy IF it is possible to change your sexual orientat, which by the way I DO NOT believe that is truly possible.
2007-03-17 19:09:18 · answer #2 · answered by Siren 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just be true to your emotions and desires. If you're 100% gay then stay gay. Don't try to be straight just to fit in. It's not worth it. As for disappointing your family, everyone disappoints their family somehow. There's no way to avoid that if you're gay or straight.
2007-03-17 21:16:20 · answer #3 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HEY you got some good Friends or is it fiends.
why would want a two faced people like that if you were friends (?) before?? big error just carry on you will make many more friends.
Just remember they are rejecting you Be yourself and have fun.
2007-03-17 19:17:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she is acting just like the bigot "straight people" that make fun of her ....and if she still dosen't understand then you really don't need her as a friend
2007-03-17 19:35:24 · answer #5 · answered by kclovebliss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I'm a gay -str-8-bi man and my though on this is you need to be you !!!!! what others thinks makes your life then your life will not be enjoyable ! as far as friends well if they where true friends they would except you for you!!! bi str-8 or others wise! same with your family love is not st8-bi-or gay its love unconditional! your family should just love you and let you be you!!
2007-03-17 19:21:30 · answer #6 · answered by JIM m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel in your heart. Know what you are doing. One thing about being who you really are is that you can't change like flicking the remote to different channels. I feel like you should do some soul searching please yourself and not no one else. You can't solve other peole issues, you have to solve your own. Believe in what you feel, don't let noone influence your decision.
2007-03-17 19:10:46 · answer #7 · answered by mocharvelous1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should do whatever you darn well please. Whoever you are attracted to... go for it. True friends will stick with you if you make the switch, and by asking about it, it gives you some insight on who your real friends are. You'd never make fun of gays and lesbians, and your friends should know that.
2007-03-17 19:09:58 · answer #8 · answered by lifelesswonder 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever YOU want to do.You shouldnt have to change yourself just because your family doesnt like it, plus you cant just "turn" straight anyway.
2007-03-17 20:14:06 · answer #9 · answered by BlondBoy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friends won't support you in your decision to change your sexual preference then they aren't your friends,.Find some people who support you and get on with your life.
2007-03-17 19:22:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋