dont pannic your not alone i was 19 when i fell pregnant with my son older than you but not any wiser. you need to decide what you want before you tell anyone because if you decide then nobody can stop you.
i thought my mum would hit the roof when i told her but she was ok. and now i have a beutifull little boy wll i say ittle hes 1 now so take time and dont rush into anything you might regret later on in life that goes both ways. please e-mail me back asap and let me know how you get on and if you need any more help
2007-03-18 11:32:32
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answered by Anonymous
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Well it looks like you will have to tell your parents. You may be surprised to find that they were teenagers once too. Your parents love you and if they are good parents they will help you through this time. Whatever you do, don't have an abortion. There are so many people out there that want children that can't have them. So if you and your parents decide that giving it away is the best option then you will make someone's dream come true.
In the mean time, sit back, enjoy being pregnant, and congratulations. Remember this, too. It takes two to tango and you are not in this by yourself.
In the future, if you don't want the responsibility of a child then don't subject yourself to the possibility of even getting pregnant. In other words, say no.
2007-03-17 11:51:51
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answered by Anonymous
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You are going to need all the support in the world hun!
Having a baby is really REALLY hard
I had a baby boy at 19 - yeh fair enough 3 years older than you are, but i still found it hard and i dont know what i would of done without my parents support ( my parents supported me cause they lvoe me, im sure yours might react shocked, but they will be there for you) My little boy is 3 this december, and my parents love him so much and me and my boyfriend love him loads as well, hes a precious gift, but he is hard work!
If you feel like you cant talk to them how about a dr, nurse, a friend, a teacher anybody else? you cant go through this alone, its too much of a big deal!!
I know too well about people thinking you did it on purpose or just didnt use contraception! they just assume!!! and its wrong!
I wish you all the luck in the world!
2007-03-17 12:02:00
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answered by Jemmax 6
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You are going to have to tell your parents. I know you can go to planned parenthood and get n abortion but please don't do it because you are scared to tell your parents. My friend had an abortion and it was the biggest mistake of her life. It might seem like a good option to you know but later on you will remember and always wonder what that child may have been like and that you murdered an uborn child. You can do an open adoption and all if you don;t want to keep it. My cousin had a child at 14. Her mother was mad but got over it quick and was happy. Then she had another kid at 17. So your not that bad off. But you will know what to do next time. If you are mature enought to have sex then you should be mature enough to take the responsibility to your actions...even if it was an accident. Be adult enough to tell your mother so she can get you the medical care you need while you are pregnant. Thank you . Good luck
2007-03-17 18:38:49
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answered by xxmilitarychikxx 3
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Don't worry. You don't have to be scared. Find someone that you trust to tell. Go see a doctor right away. Start taking prenatal vitamins. If your scared to tell your parents, then go with the person you trust the most. Trust me you will feel a lot better when your parents know. I think parents are becoming a lot more understanding but you need to let them know. They are the one's that have already been through it. They can help you out and give you advice. This is a wonderful thing that is happening to you so don't worry. Take my advice and tell someone you can trust right away. Your favorite aunt, sibling, cousin, anyone. You don't want to do this on your own. Good luck and I hope this helps.
2007-03-17 11:33:07
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answered by karyn 2
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tell some one..especially your parents and the babies father. if you used protection and still became pregnant there is not alot you could have done. if you hadnt used protection it would be a different story. no contraception is 100% effective and unfortunatly you were one of those people to have it fail on you when you werent ready.you need to tell someone and your mum and dad will be the best,like i said there was nothing you could do as protection was used.
if you do decide to keep the baby, i'm sure with a lot of support you will do just fine,many people have had babies at 16.
whatever you decide do not go through it alone..get advice or it will drive you mad!
goodluck x
2007-03-17 14:34:54
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answered by yummy_mummy 3
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OK, first things first you need to go see your doctor and arrange treatment during your pregnancy or to make arrangements otherwise. You also need to confide in someone, so have you an older sister, cousin or aunt that you could talk to and perhaps have them give you some support to tell your parents? There are a lot of helplines and organisations out there that you can also talk to like the British Pregnancy Advisory association, Brook Advisory - they can advise you of your options and about benefits etc that you could be entitled to claim. You sound very worried but you need to see a doctor and get dates etc sorted. Take care, I hope everything will be OK for you.
2007-03-17 11:32:37
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answered by Daisy the cow 5
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you know this is always a diffcult one. i fell pregnant at 19 but still didnt tell my mam until i was 5 months gone but i didnt live with her so it was easy to hide it, i suspect you live at home if so you wont be able to hide it. my mam was a young mother herself and i knew she would've been dissappointed i followed the same route, which she was at first but she came round, the thing was my pregnancy was actually planned i just didnt tell her i was trying because i knew she wouldv'e tried to put me off and i didnt want the arguements. obviuosly your pregnancy wasnt planned so first of all decide what you want its your life and body that this will change then speak to your parents and the babies father being clear what you want and saying you need their support, you will probably get lots of people telling you its really hard being a mum but i disagree because the people you love should be around to help if you need it but i have never asked anybody for much just the odd babysitter when i want a night out every couple of months and my little girl is 2 now and getting very cheeky but its lovely having her round and i dont care i missed out on my younger days when most girls were out partying because i was at home doing something worthwhile as bringing a child up in my eyes is the most rewarding thing you can do and theres also plenty of support groups out there for young mums and their babies so you should be able to get advice and help when you need it and lets face it its not that taboo any more to have a child at 16, 1 girl in my year at school had a baby at 14 and another 4 had babies before we left school, anyway good luck with whatever you decide hun
2007-03-17 11:36:32
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answered by MARIE S 4
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You can go to a pregnancy advisory service such as www.bpas.org. They are impartial and here is a link to a very useful leaflet which may help you. http://www.bpas.org/images/pdfs/Unplanned%20Pregnancy%20-%20Your%20Choices%20Mar06FINAL.pdf
They will not tell you what to do but will simply talk through what the options are such as having the baby, adoption, fostering and abortion. Speak to one of the counsellors and see how you feel. Also your local family planning may be able to help. If you have a decent relationship with your parents, do talk to them although make sure they will not pressurise you into doing something you may not want to do. Most parents are supportive although if they are really against abortion and you decide to go down that road then it could be tricky!
Whatever you do make sure it is what you really want!
2007-03-17 11:35:29
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answered by Stephanie C 3
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Go have a chat with your doctor or your favourite teacher. Why dont you want to tell your parents? Is it because you are scared of disappointing them? If that is the case please tell them. They may be disappointed with you but they will still support you.
What about the boy? Does he know? Tell him, dont shoulder this on your own, you need help to make the right decision. Do you really want a baby? My mum had me at 17. She said it was hard but she wouldnt have done anything else. You can carry on at school/college. You can get on with your life. There are childminders out there who are there to support teen mums so dont think you will have to be stuck indoors with a baby.
Think very hard before making any decisions and please please confide in an adult about this.
2007-03-17 11:31:51
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answered by Dingle-Dongle 4
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