My last relationship I was with a police officer who was emotionally abusive and a cheat. We had a very dramatic relationship although I do felt as though I love him. I think the reason was because we dated for 9 months but I dont think we really ever got out of the infatutation stage. Therefore, it was lust. That was a bit more than a year ago and still he does have a little piece of my heart yet to heal.
6 months ago I started dating this amazing man. He is wonderful, genuine, trustworthy, caring, affectionate, loyal, attractive, good worker, would make a great father etc....The 1st 3 months of our relationship were OUT OF THIS WORLD. I was loving the euphoric stage.
One morning I woke up with the though in my head that I didnt love him anymore. I then became depressed and did not eat, sleep, move for 2 weeks.
I think this has all happened because we moved out of the infatuation stage and moved into the comfort stage. So judging this love to my previous "love/lust" this one is much more neutral. We always get along so there are not many "special" moments. All the time is special because we laugh together. But this love is completely un-familiar to me. I almost feel as though something is missing in it because I dont know what it is supposed to feel like. So the main point of my story is I am scared because I sometimes confuse the comfort stage of love to a lack of love. How can I tell the difference, how do I know if wasnt just infatuation and now nothing?!?!?
2007-03-17 11:10:38 · 8 answers · asked by dawson190154 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
havent you already asked this?
ok well if its true love you will know it
2007-03-17 11:14:26 · answer #1 · answered by lori b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok now if u broke up with u do u think u would cry and cry. if answer is yes then u love him. but maybe ur just afraid of . commitment. but of course u feel this way u just need to do something different with him or introduce him to ur friends and see how they think of him and how they see the way he acts around you and how act around you. friends can always tell if someone is in love or its puppy love. oh u can always tell urself to when u make love to him or when u kiss him. do u feel like u can be in his arms forever and never want to leave. or you can write a poem on how u feel abt him. or think of all the ways u love him and when he excites u.think whats so different abt him then all the other guys u met or dated. u know HOPE THIS HELPED!
2007-03-17 18:24:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take it easy and bring back sparks if u think u have lost them. he probably has lust for u too. Just make sure u get ur point across to him. don't break up with him if things are going well and if he is the best guy, ect.
2007-03-17 18:16:19 · answer #3 · answered by Elie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't knoe if I would be the most helpful person to answer this question but all i can offer is my opinion, If you can be completely honest with this person and be yourself and he feels the same about you then I think you should stop looking and see what's in front of you.
2007-03-17 18:17:29 · answer #4 · answered by Jaylen825 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you say "over-analyzing"??????
All you need to do is answer ONE question:
Am I HAPPY?
Anything else is too much thinking. Let go of the crazy negative thoughts, and enjoy the ride. It may last forever, or it may end tomorrow--you will LIVE either way!
2007-03-17 18:42:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think too much. Enjoy the moment and quit thinking too much! (I know, cuz I used to do what you are, result- I married the guy and it is now 21 years later!).
2007-03-17 18:15:00 · answer #6 · answered by Kimmy K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ummm...i dont know..what half of them words mean..i dont know anything about stages in relatioships im only 15, but i all can say is dont be in a relationship for the sex.
2007-03-17 19:52:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
like sombody would would say
woman are the most fakt up creatures in the universe:)
thats all there is to say
2007-03-17 18:14:47 · answer #8 · answered by infinate wisdom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋