What would YOU do?????

Question

My bf and I have been together for 13 months and are very committed.

His grandma has been in the hospital the past few days. She is getting a pacemaker.

Lastnight, I left a voicemail saying that I hope his grandma is okay and everything is fine. And that if he's not at the hospital tomorrow (today), I hope he comes and sees me (I just came back from Spring Break). And if he DOES go to the hospital, if he could come drop by the broken camera he still has so I can send it in to get it fixed asap. I also said call me back when he gets the message.

He got off work at 4. He would usually call me afterwards. I understand his grandma is in the hospital. But is it THAT HARD to call me back and let me know what's going on? Is it that hard to return a voicemail..... to your own girlfriend.... not just girlfriend.... someone you plan on spending the rest of your life with?! Am I expecting too much of him to just call me back?

Should I call him? Or should I not bother?

Answer 1

You already asked this exact question. I guess you didn't get the answer you wanted when pretty much EVERYONE said for you to BACK OFF and give him some space. His grandmother is sick, a pacemaker is a big deal. You went off to party on spring break, while he was dealing with a serious illness in his family. Come on now, get a little prospective and think about how you'd be feeling if it were your grandmother (or another family member you're close to)

Answer 2

Maybe he hasn't checked his voice mail yet. Give him a little more time. You don't know what the status of his grandmother. You can call later on today and ask how she is doing. If things are touch and go leave the issue of the camera until later. If she is doing better bring it up later on in the conversation. I'm not sure how far away you are from grandma, but why don't you ask to go visit her or call her; or maybe send some flowers. Be patient honey, grandma's health at this point takes precedent over your relationship. When she is better I'm sure your boy friend will be ready to give you the time you deserve.

Answer 3

No, don't call for a little while. Give him some time. But if you do decide to call then offer to go to the hospital to see his grandmother with him. Maybe that is what he wants you to do. You never really mentioned how old the two of you are and that does play an important factor in his actions. If you have not heard from him at least by tomorrow then call him, but when you do don't start complaining about why he has not called. Make his grandmother your main priority with him.

Good luck!!!

Answer 4

If you care about him so much why are you jumping to conclusions that he is being negligent? Maybe something came up he couldn't help. Give him a little time, or if you need to set your mind to ease then call him. But first give him a chance to explain. Maybe he just has a lot on his mind. It's not like what your waiting on a reply for it life threatening.
If he has no reason, then just explain to him you were concerned. If he understands this I'm sure he will take that into consideration if the situation arises again.
Be patient and understanding. A good relationship is give and take on both ends.

Answer 5

You need to calm down first. Perhaps he didn't go straight home. Maybe he got a call and he had to go see Grandma? My first reaction to you was, selfish, selfish, selfish. I can say this, because I was a "reactionary" type person too...until I realized...life is not always about me. Stop having expectations of how YOU think people should react, then you don't get disappointed when they don't do what YOU expected them to do...it's not worth the stress Honey.....give him a break...and NO don't call him. He'll call you when he's available to...and DON'T freak on him either. Be sweet and understanding...that he'll appreciate.

Answer 6

He may be under a lot of stress with his grandma being in the hospital. I suggest you be a little more patient and he will probably call you soon. You might leave another voice mail and tell him how much you care and to call you if he needs you. Good luck and don't worry. Be strong for your man, he probably needs you more than you know.

Answer 7

It's very possible he didn't even check his voicemail or go home before heading to the hospital. Give him a little time before calling him back. I'm sure the whole situation is very difficult for him. Maybe you should go by the hospital to visit, too. That way, you'd get to talk to him in person.

Answer 8

You need to relax sister.
It seems like you are trying so desperately to get attention.

If you do not call or if you call and when you cal and your grandma blah blah blah.

Stop making it about you, you are coming across insensitive and insecure.

Imagine how his parents are feeling right now, one of them might lose a parent. He a grandparent.

Have surgery on your heart is no walk in the park.

If I was in the middle of a family situation, I hope that my "girl friend" would be mature enough to see that getting back to her might not be as easy as normal.

There is nothing "usual" about what is going on for him right now so do not expect him to act like he normally would.

Give him some room or you might lose him and come across like a spoiled little girl.

Answer 9

Wait for his call. Things can happen in an instant and he may have a good reason for waiting. I know sometimes I take some time to call people back...I lose my cell phone often. Plus, if he had a close relationship with his grandma, he may need a little time to himself. Just give it some time.

Answer 10

if you have not had any relationship problems before this, than you are really blowing this out of proportion. the guy is worried about his grandmother not your camera. give the gay a couple of days at least before you start worrying. you are either way to self involved or a bit to insecure, i hope it is the latter. as to calling him, leave a voice mail telling him you hope his grandmother is well and if there is anything you can do to help that he should not hesitate to ask. other than that just chill out for a little while