When and if your parents found out, how did they react? Bad? Good?

Question

My mom caught me and my girlfriend in bed when we were both 19&20, one day when she came home and we didn't hear her pull up because we fell asleep.

My friend, very petite, liked to lay on top of me kind of cuddling, my head was turned facing away from the door. Suddenly she fliped her head the other direction waking me up and I could see her eyes she was scared and I could feel her heart pound. I turned my head and my mom was sitting on a chair with it turned backward leaning on the back just staring at me...saying absolutly nothing. I broke the silence saying "I guess this means I'm moving right?"

Shockingly, she didn't require my friend OR me to leave. Instead, all she wanted to know was for how long this went on and how many other girls I did it with (at the time only one). She is now used to the fact and my dad had very mixed emotions about it but after about a year was supportive.

I continued to see regularly and they got used to the idea.

Any similar stories? LOL

And YES we were under the blankets when Mom came in! LOL

Answer 1

They reacted a lot better than when they caught me smoking pot, lol.
I had been dating my first girlfriend for about a month. My parents knew I was dating someone, but her name was Erin so they probably thought it was a guy named Aaron. Anyway, one weekend my mom asked if I wanted to go on a double date. I live with my dad, she and my him got divorced a few years earlier, and my dad had told her that he was gay. So I was hesitant at first, but I asked my g/f and we thought it would be fun.
My mom and her date were late to the restraunt and when they arived my date was in the bathroom. When she came back I stood up gave her a kiss, and introduced her. My mom just starred at us for what felt like an hour, she finally managed to ask if this is "what I really want". It kind of made me angry that she would ask me that, and we spent most of the dinner arguing. She said it was my dads fault I was messed up, that he gave me the "gay gene". Well we left the resturant and I managed to hold back tears until we were in the parking lot.
I drove my girlfriend to her house and went home. I walked through the door still sobbing. My dad ran into the room and grabbed me, he asked what's wrong but all I couldsay was "I'm not a freak am I?". I calmed down after a bit and told him what had happened. He just hugged me and told me everything was ok. I think he had known, or at least suspected what was going on.
I didn't talk to my mom for almost a year, and even now we're on unstable ground. I figure she will get used to it or not, but it's not my fault if she's not open-minded enough to accept me for me.

Answer 2

My parents were as accepting as I could have hoped for... I think they knew before I did in some ways.

I was always kind of "sensitive" even as a small child and they used to have trouble understanding why I was a wimpy artistic kid and had no desire to play sports or be a fireman when I grew up...

When they finally "found out" it was because my Mom got up the gumption to ask me straight out...

She cried and my Dad avoided me for awhile but that only lasted for about a week...
Now they are completely accepting and never miss an opportunity to tell me how much they love me and that they are so proud of me.

I sometimes wonder if my mom might have played a hand in my first boyfriend relationship... after all, she knew him and his friends before I did... kinda "different", huh?

Answer 3

During the summer before my first year of highschool I had found out that I was bisexual.
For most of my 9th grade year I had been contemplating whether or not I should tell my mom and stepdad.So one day during the month of February while I was on the phone with my mom(at the time I wasn't living with my parents) I told her that I had something very important to tell her.She asked if I was alright with school and everything and I said I was fine.I finally got around by telling her about how she told me before that she had always wanted to stay true and honset with her about what was going on in my life and myself.I then told her that I wasn't gay but I wasn't straight either.
For about a minute I could hear nothing on either ends of the line except for my own baited breath and rapid heartbeat.
Then I asked my mom if she understood what I meant and she said that she thinks that I meant that I am bisexual.I told her she was right and I asked if she was okay with it and she told me that love knows no gender and that she accepts me for who I am no matter what.
Then she told me that she loved me and asked if I wanted her to tell my stepdad for me.I said yes and then she said she would tell him and that she would be right back.I waited on the line for about a minute expecting to get bad news from her but instead to both of our surprise he already knew.
She said that he had figured it out long ago when I had been depressed for a little while and he put two and two together and just figured it out.

Answer 4

I guess your mom is normal.

Normal people love their kids first. I mean, losing the chance to get grandchildren, hurts some and others may have religious concerns or fear for "lack of life enjoyment for their kids" but still love their kids intensely. When you love your kids, your concern for their well being trumps all the other stuff.

Then again, I think my mom probably would have knocked.

(Despite the attempt to make a big deal about it during the election, one gathers that D i c k Cheney whether one likes him or hates him based on his politics has a strong relationship with his daughter and is pretty content with her personal sexuality.)

Answer 5

i was 14 when my parents found out now 43. i did a stupid thing one day after school. i came home from doing my paper rout in a apartment complex were i had stolen some panties they were pink nylon hipsters. i took off my stuff and put on a pair of panties i was hooked i put my shorts back on went for a walk when i came across a neighbor that had wash out .i turned the corner and there they were 5 pairs nylon briefs i went and stole those to.i went back home and the next thing i no the cops came off to jail i went that's how my parents found out.

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Answer 7

My family have always supported me and whoever I chose to love. They accept my girlfriend into the family as if she was meant to be there. Her family is mostly the same way but he aunt forbids her chilldren from talking to us and told her she needs to pick between myself and her family.... I guess you can't have it all! Luckily my family has enough love for both of us to make up for the iggnorant people in her family.

Answer 8

Kicked out the house for 2 weeks, until i went back and said i'd been 'joking' so i was allowed home.

Now im sure they know, but it's something that's never spoke of.

I avoid seeing them anyway.

Answer 9

I have no similar story but some support.
No one has control of their sexuality.
You are lucky to have understanding parents.
Many parents have problems coping when they find out that their child is gay.

Answer 10

yeah my mom found me too with another girl
you should email me sometime....................i am a lesbien