2007-03-17 10:35:15 · 7 answers · asked by x3Abercombie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
My parents got divorced when I was 9. I am turning 14 in a few weeks and I still can hardly bear with it. It's horrible taking my things back and forth. I swtich every week. So i am with my mom for a week and my dad for a week. Divorces to me don't just destroy a preteen life, but their whole life. Just think. When your child is getting married, the parents wont be side by side. And for graduations, and birthday parties, and just anything like that. I hate that about divorces. The only advantage is that if you get two of the same things at christmas or your birthday, one of them can go to your moms h ouse and one can go to the dads house. ANd divorces are also bad because what if the child wants a fish, or a guinea pig or something. Who's gonna take care of it while the kid is at the other pareents house? I don't exactly know what age you mean by preteen, but to me that means 11 or 12. Well, at that age, kids really need to start focusing on school.. Of course every age needs to focus on school, but at that age things start getting a lot harder and you are allowed to participate in more things. If the divorce hurts them emotionally, it can be hard to get homework done. Trust me. I had to live with my mom for 3 months becuse my dad was so hurt over the divorce. I felt so bad for him and i hated seeing him so sad. Maybe a divorce is teh right thing to do becuse you are getting along with your spouse, but it really does hurt kids. I would know.
2007-03-17 11:24:48 · answer #1 · answered by Carly 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Before my mom tossed me out at 13, my parents were divorced. My mother raised us the best she could but with a teenage boy who rebelled badly against her authority she really did me a favor I am better for her act of love. I have a wife, two children and one on the way and do the best work I know how to do, I am a Minister of the Gospel so no I don't think so. Divorce has nothing to do with how a child turns out it's in the mind and how you take things that will determine who you become. If you set your mind to high goals you can do what you set it to with positive outcome but you have to set realistic goals and work hard to meet them.
2007-03-17 23:39:48 · answer #2 · answered by Georgia Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well mine got divorced when i was 6 or 7 and now im 15 not a preteen but ill answer anyway it doesnt destroy you... you survive but it changes you. it sucks i dont have much of a relationship with my dad and my mom dates the person she had an affair with so that kinda screws up our relationship. i hate going from house to house worrying about parents dating but you can survive it. its not fun but it makes you stronger.
2007-03-17 18:35:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son is 15, my daughter is 6. The sperm donor doesn't have anything to do with them. I involve myself with them, and they know who they can lean on. My ex was abusive, My son remembers that but my daughter doesn't. They do just fine. They have adjusted well, and seem to be way happier.
My parents are not divorced, however i remember growing up, they faught and screamed all the time. If us kids acted like they did, we would have got our asses beat and sent to our rooms, but no it just continued, I hated to bring friends home because i never knew what was gonna happen. My mom was the abusive one.... and she drank alot.
So i used to prey at night to please let them get divorced. But nope I wasnt so lucky. Its like pulling teeth to get my children to agree to go see grandma, and grandpa.... they dont like the fighting, and just dont wanna go. Im not talking about staying the night, because my kids wouldnt, im just talking about a few hours with me right there. They make "deals" so they dont have too..... They say..."I promise mom i will keep my room cleaned all week, if you dont make us go to grandma and grandpas today" Now thats bad.
So sometimes the kid is better off if the parents do divorce !!!!!
2007-03-17 17:50:17 · answer #4 · answered by tammer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
divorce sux!!!! my parents r divorced and i hate wen they talk bad about each other, and i hate having to go from house to house
2007-03-17 23:06:21 · answer #5 · answered by Gloom and Doom™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
badly. my life sux. my 'rents split up right after i turned 13. i rarely see my mom. my life is hell now... but i guess its ok cuz they fought alot before.
2007-03-18 14:15:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all.
2007-03-17 17:42:19 · answer #7 · answered by *Lizz* 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋