Do you think I should do something myself ,change myslef?

Question

I really feel quite disappointed really , I don't know if I'm wrong maybe, I'm pretty , but I don't wear any makeup on and I always have my hair tied up and , I wear trousers and a shirt,

I want to better myself , I really don't know, I mean how can a man like me , I want to put my hair out , and some make up on, but I don't, I feel like being me ,

I really don't know what to do with myself , how can I change, I mean I should let my hair out and I don't because I feel easy , but it would look nice out so a guy can like me , I don't know , I feel so stupid I don't even have anyone, and Im between 20 23

Answer 1

Strangely enough, most men prefer girls to be their natural selves so don't try to lash on the make up...Why not add a little mascara to your eyelashes to give yourself a bit of confidence and keep your clothes fairly simple, carry on wearing trousers and a shirt but maybe try smart black trousers and a smart white shirt with black boots.....wear your hair down round the house and get used to it gradually that way you will begin to feel comfortable with your new look........I am sure you are a very pretty girl who just lacks a bit of confidence......

Answer 2

Hi love,

By how you're expressing yourself you sound somewhat insecure. You're not really sure of how you see yourself.
You're beautiful the way you are. If you feel like you want to better yourself, try to figure out how you really feel and why you want to adjust the way you look.

I can say from experience it's not always wanting to look like everyone else. It's more about having the confidence that other women have. You want to do something for yourself but you become inhibited. It prevents you from doing what you really feel to do.

My advice is to never think twice. If you want to wear your hair down DO IT! You want to wear some makeup DO IT! NEVER second guess yourself. Makeup, new clothes, they always boost confidence and raise self-esteem. There's nothing wrong with wanting to look nice. And yes it does attract the guys, just don't try too hard.

Start out slow here's a Lil makeup tip:

(If you don't have an eyelash curler buy one).
Use one coat of mascara and then curl your lashes for 10 seconds. Smile to find the apples of your cheeks. Then lightly brush the blush. A light colored lip gloss for the lips. A little goes a long way. Really you will start to feel better about yourself. (Try it!)

Hope this helps in someway!
YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL!

Answer 3

You are in the process of finding out who you are, what personality. That's a good and healthy process.

You have recognised that styling has nothing to do with concealing your personality or dressing up, which is very smart.

What you want to do to is bring out who you really are. A good help could be if you talk to a stylist / image consultant. He or she will show you ways how you can bring out the best without feeling "it's not me". There are so many ways, don't worry.

If you can't afford a stylist, go to John Lewis, they have a free personal shopping consultant who can already give you some ideas. You might want to contact a design / fashion uni and get some free tips and styling from students.

Or talk to someone you admire for her styling and ask her for tips and tricks.

Answer 4

Before you change anything, you have to ask yourself why do you want to do it. Is it because you want to insrease your self-esteem or beacause a guy wants you to. If it's the second one, forget it. I've done it once and gained nothing. That guy didn't like me at the end and although I did everything he asked me to, he dumped me for a girl that simply dresses nicer than me. Of course, now I've got plenty of admirers but no one wants me for something serious. Is this what you want? Anyway, if you wish to change something on yourself, start with your hair. You mustn't neglect it as it's one of the first thing someone notices on you. You don't have to wear any make-up if you don't want to, especially if you have a nice skin without any blemishes ect. As about your style, get some ideas from different magazines such as Vogue and so on. Good luck!

Answer 5

There is no need to change yourself. Guys should like you for who you are not what you look like. I to wear trousers and shirts. So who cares exactly how you look it is what is inside that counts. True, it is nice to experiment with different looks but even I feel uneasy. To me it sends a wrong signal. So just be who you are and if the guys don't like it then they must not be looking hard enough. Well I hope this helps you!

Answer 6

If you dont like make up,
then just some lip gloss and maybe eye liner will suffice.
Lip gloss keeps the lips supple and also looks great.
As for the hair,
why not, if you go somewhere different,
then let it all hang out,
go on show people that you have a wild side :-)

Answer 7

You don't like yourself very much do you?? Not a good sign. But this is what you need to do girl.... First off all like yourself, very important.. Then buy yourself something sexy, try it on, put your hair down, than put make-up, just try it on your own, and see how great you look, than go out looking like that, just watch you will get complements from people, seriously try it. But try and love yourself first, everything else will come one by one.... Good-luck............

Answer 8

Try and think of what you would be most happy wearing or what you might like to do to better yourself. Don't try and change yourself just because everyone else is though, you might find that you miss your old style and personality : )

Answer 9

You don't have to change yourself, but some make up and hair did will be nice.then you gonna feel more confident and ppl will notice that.

Answer 10

a guy will like for who u are not ur hair so wear what u r comfortable with...and if he is interested he will come