can someone plz tell me why?

Question

why do i always think my g/f is lieing and cheating on me when i know shes not we fight about this all the time to the point that she asking me to leave her and our 5yr old lil girl cuz my temper and actions are making our daughter misbehavei do not hit them just yell and throw things but to me i might as well be plz help

Answer 1

dude that is really complicated i would consider talking to a counselor!!

Answer 2

The first thing you need to do is look at why you are so insecure about your relationship, it is jealousy but it boils down to insecurities that you have in yourself(do you feel that she is cheeting on you cause your not good enough for her or is it that you have cheeted on her and if you do it why won't she) you have to be totally honest with yourself otherwise you will not achieve anything. As for the temper again what triggers it (insecurity and Jealousy) both things that only you can change, you have a child living in an enviroment where someone she loves is behaving in an unexceptable manner and she is learning from this every day, how can you bring up your Daughter to know right from wrong and teach her how to behave if your unable to behave correctly yourself, Anger is an energy which you can learn to use in another way before you accuse your g/friend of cheeting why not treat her why not make her feel so special that she would never even need to concider another man, when you feel your temper rising leave the situation sit down with your g/friend explain that your gonna walk out for a whille to stop you doing this infront of your daughter, then walk away for a whille get out and let off your steam by walking find a quiet spot sit and look at why you just got where you did straighten it up in your head and go back when calm and address the problem again from a different angle. I hope this will help you let us all know how you get on good luck..

Answer 3

There are two ways to look at this. Either you feel that you are not worthy of such an attractive partner and lovely child and therefore assume she must be cheating on you cos you are not worth it....or...you know she isn't but you realise you can drive her away if you keep on this track and deep down that's what you really want as you are kind of stuck in a rut and don't really like your life. Either way, you have to be very honest. If you feel insecure and unworthy then you have an ego problem and should go see your doctor for help as they might be able to put you in touch with people who can help with anger management and self-esteem problems. If its the latter then you should move out, even as a temporary arrangement, to sort your head out. Perhaps if you have some distance from your situation you will see if its for you or not. Please sort it out soon as your child will suffer in this situation and I know you are a good dad and wouldn't want that. If you were a rubbishy person, you wouldn't have posted the question in the first place. I wish you well.

Answer 4

has your lady given you a reason to believe she has cheated on you . I'm sure you are aware you have trust problems , you need to think where this idea has come from , and why it gets you so upset, but above all remember how this is affecting your little girl , children see and hear more than you imagine, you may be scaring her just by shouting , and throwing things, you need to sort this out sooner rather than later, it wont just go away. in the UK we have a charity called relate , which helps with relationship problems, if you are ' yelling and throwing things' I'm sure you know , its time to do something . i hope it works out for you and you family . good luck

Answer 5

My first advice is get some counseling. Every city has free services you can take advantage of. Your local police department or City Hall should be able to point you in the right direction.
Have you been unfaithful? Is it your guilt talking?

Either way you need to talk to a professional to get some help with this.

Answer 6

You could do with anger management sessions, and as for suspecting the g/f, you obviously don't trust her for some reason, or maybe you're just judging her by the standards of your past g/f's? If you can't fix the problem, maybe you're all better off if you both part.

Answer 7

You need anger management classes, you should stay away from your wife until you get yourself sorted out and you should not be around your little girl when you are behaving like a mad man get help now or you will loose your family

Answer 8

You definitely have insecurity, and anger management problems. Just calm down and put your little girl as your top priority. what you are teaching her now is that men behave that way, and as she grows up, that's what she will expect from a man in her life. do you really want to put her through that?

Answer 9

I encountered the very same thing with a man,many years ago and i discovered his problem was; He was terrified i might do the same things he'd been doing...If there is no trust then there is no future...Your daughter deserves better..Make sure she gets it..

Answer 10

You need to get some help and you need the help right away for the sake of your loved ones its not ok and you should before someone seriously gets hurt

Answer 11

looks like you have serious trust issues, maybe you been hurt in the past, but now its time to sort your head out and go for some relationship councilling.