has always been nice to me, helping me with my car. etc. When he married my sister, he gave me his old lawn mower (I didn't ask for it), because he said he didn't want it anymore. My parents hate him, and have always said he's a jerk, but I didn't believe them, though I knew he was controlling, but , hey, my sister put up with it, and has always said she is happy with him. Now the clincher...my bro in law showed up at my door today, saying he wanted to work on the lawn mower. I didn't feel like getting it, having had surgery day before yesterday, and I was in my robe and not feeling good. He then said it was his mower, and he was taking it back. It really hurt...it was like he was another person! My sister stands up for him no matter what. I told him that he could keep the mower, but that I was hurt...I though we were buddies. He said "no", very coldly. This was the first time he's asked for the mower back, too. I feel like giving everything they've given me back.What to do?He scaresme
2007-03-17 09:55:27 · 6 answers · asked by Robin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's not worth your time to worry about. focus your energy on getting better. How sad your sister tolerates this type of behaviour.
2007-03-17 10:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by dollynjanie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
oh wow, he sounds like he's NUTS! okay I know that's not nice but who cares....it's the truth. Look he might have borderline personality disorder. You need to be careful with that one. By all means give him the dam mower back. Next time tell him to CALL before he stops by to pick something up. Parents often know more then you kids think I suspect your parents are Right in how they feel
You should be scared not only for you but for your sister AS WELL! He could get physically abusive.
2007-03-17 17:05:38 · answer #2 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand..everyone else sees that he's a butthole, so now you have experienced his personality in full bloom. I would give everything back that he's given you, via your sister to avoid a confrontation and leave him alone. Trust your gut, if you are afraid of him that is you internal alarm telling you that he's bad news. If he shows up on your doorstep again call the police and keep track of the incidents just in case you need to get a restraining order.
2007-03-17 17:36:09 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he and your sister had a fight and he just wanted it back to get back at her. Or maybe your sister had an unspoken issue with the mower being given to you that came to light. There are just other factors you may not know about.
2007-03-17 17:09:11 · answer #4 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm... Dr Jekell and Mr Hyde huh?
I'd sit down with him and your sister and just talk about it. Don't be angry, just say something like 'you seemed angry the other day and I'm confused, have I hurt you in some way?' It sounds like there's more to the situation, like maybe someone told him you said something nasty about him.
2007-03-17 17:02:44 · answer #5 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time, just tell him to go away... and anything else he wants, he can forget... is there anything else he gave you??? return it...
2007-03-17 16:59:30 · answer #6 · answered by Forlorn Hope - returned 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋