If your getting a divorce...And the husband wants you to use the same lawyer...Would you...If the husband makes all the money and the wife makes nothing because of a health issues...What would you do and have you gone though it yourself...Would you tell the court you want him to pay for a lawyer or would you use the same lawyer...And would you meet his lawyer first???
He is asking and he was the one who cheated!!!
And theres a 11 year old daughter as well...
2007-03-17 09:53:20 · 4 answers · asked by `~Its love~` 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm asking in regards to my cousin!!!
2007-03-17 10:11:10 · update #1
Unless you agree on everything - splitting the money, property, kids, etc - than you should absolutely not use the same attorney.
Your husband probably doesn't want you to know this, but....
He will be paying all your attorney fees. He will also be forced to support you during the process.
It's the law - if you can't afford an attorney, he's got to pay it. This also makes you in control because the longer he drags it out and doesn't give you what you want, the more legal costs he will pay.
Go out and get an experienced, reputable attorney. Do it now! Explain your situation and see how fast he takes your case.
2007-03-17 10:20:51 · answer #1 · answered by ManOfTheHour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, you can't use the same lawyer. Conflict of interest. As a matter of fact, I solicited 5 firms in my area before I retained my current attrourney. I did this because once I go to them and plead my case, their firm can not be used by me soon to be ex-wife. So she had to find an attourney a little further from home, pushing her costs higher. (IE Drive time). If you can't afford an attourny the court will appoint one for you. In your case, he had the affair(s), and that's the reason for the divorce, I'm assuming. He'll have to pay court costs and legal fees if you fight hard enough.
My wife had the affairs and she's the reason we're getting divorced. Yet, in order to protect the sanity of my two boys (4 and 11) I gave up my fight and gave her everything she wanted. Just to be done with the whole divorce thing. We still had to wait a year after separation before the divorce is finalized and April 20'th is the date. Hope everything goes well with your divorce. It's sad that it has to happen. But it is what it is. We live in a throw-away society now. It's common-place to simply say, (ok it's not working so throw it away). That's really screwed up. But after 13 years married and being faithfull to her, I couldn't live with the second affair. Turns out, I found out about others. You think you know someone and then you wake up to reality!
2007-03-17 10:06:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it is not wise to use the same attorney as the husband does... Not a good idea. She needs a lawyer who will be unbiased and totally devoted to just her and her case not one with conflicting thoughts and ideas to jumble up the case. She needs her own attorney for sure.
2007-03-17 10:31:05 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should get it sense it was her husbands fault he cheated
2007-03-20 15:33:31 · answer #4 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋