Should i tell my mom i'm pregnant already?

Question

I'm 9 weeks pregnant. I'm 21, and in college (graduating this May.) I'm not sure when to tell my parents I'm pregnant. My school is far away and i wont see my family again until graduation.

I'm worried that they'll worry about me. I'm also worried cause my bf and I have only been together 5 months and my family doesn't know him. He's also been pushing me to get an abortion, which if my overly pro-life mom knew, would pretty much ruin any chance of them getting along ever.

I'm not sure what i'm going to do after the baby is born either. I want to move back home, but i dont know how to tell my family that. Should i wait until i have things more figured out before telling them or as my parents will they want to know now?

Answer 1

If you want to keep the baby then you shoudl tell your parents and let them be your support. Let them know that you are a big girl and you can finish school and you will be ok but you would like to move back after graduation.
You have to figure out what you want to do before you get everyone else involved and don't let them change your mind. Your life is not going to be ruined if you have this baby.
As for your boyfriend, it took him to get you pregnant, right? He should take some responsibility and help you make some decisions instead of trying to take the "easy" way out for himself. It is you that will suffer and be scarred for life after an abortion. He could just walk away from you after that and have no ties.
I would tell the parent you get along with most and let them help you get something figured out.
I wish you the best. Good Luck.

Answer 2

You should tell them right away unless you do plan on getting the abortion. Think about why your boyfriend wants you to get one...........is he the right guy for you? It doesn't sound to me like you agree with the abortion direction so don't go down that road unless YOU believe it is the right path. If you are sure you are going to raise this child no matter what then you are going to need support which means telling your parents ASAP. There is really no point in holding off. When you tell them you will feel like a great weight has been lifted. If you are not sure whether or not you want to raise this baby there is the option of adoption. Do what you feel is best, not what others feel is best. You are in the situation, not anyone else. Just remember that the baby comes first now everything else is 2nd.

Answer 3

Sounds like you jumped the gun in getting pregnant, having known the guy in so short amount a time.

What are your future plans with him? Do you guys plan on marrying soon (before the baby is born)?

While I am very much pro-choice I don't think abortion should be done just because the guy tells you to have one.

Giving the child up for adoption is always an alternative to your situation, in the event that you cannot financially provide for the child, or if you plan on continuing your education into graduate school.

Tell your parents as soon as you can and go over all possible alternatives as I mentioned. Good luck.

Answer 4

It sounds like you have chosen to keep the baby. The most important thing is that you have made up your mind before the news goes out.

As for your family. You will know when its right. Most likely they will talk a whole bunch and sprout opinions left and right before the baby is born and then it will be the brightest part of their life, so just stick to your guns on whats important to you and you should be fine. Graduation sounds like better timing for you. And they'll probably love you moving back home.

You might also want to think about your relationship. For the two of you to disagree on something as big as abortion might not be the best start. Let him know where you stand and that you love him but he can take it or leave it. He needs to know whats important to you.

Good luck and congrats !!!

Answer 5

Firstly, congrats (if it applies). Since you are nine weeks pregnant, I think you should tell your parents. Babies are adorable, and its possible that your parents may not like the idea at first, but will most likely warm up to the idea. Personally, i believe that an abortion is a horrible idea. It can ruin your future because it may prevent you from ever having another baby. Finally, my best opinion for you is to have the baby, and then think about what to do. Good luck.

Answer 6

First of all, YOU need to decide if you want this baby. No one can answer that question but you, not your mom, boyfriend, or yahoo answers. If you plan to keep the child, tell you mother in a responsible way.. and be prepared to anwser 500 questions..( How will you raise it? Will you get married? Are you ready for a kid? How will you financially support it?, etc.) You must understand the consequenes of what your taking on. You need to decide what you think will be best for you. If you don't want to keep the child, there is also adoption. Abortion is so permanent, but with adoption you can know your child is alive and living with good natured parents who care. If you are really confused I would suggest telling your parents,and letting them HELP you decide. Not make up your mind, but help you decide. If you need any help... my email in [e-mail].... Best of Luck, dear!

Answer 7

You're going to be OK. God has big plans for your baby, for He does not makes mistakes, and big plans for YOU!! This is just putting you on a different course now that you are pregnant but it is nothing God can't handle. I would suggest telling your parents, ask them to forgive you for maybe letting them down, and go on from there. This happened with my sister 20 years ago, same situation and her life is amazing now and her baby which is 19 is the biggest blessing to us, he is so amazing! This situation turned my sister to Jesus, who washed away her sins and fully restored her heart (that's His job), and comforted her and gave her a new life. Her ex bf that got her pregnant didn't want anything to do with the baby either and he even wanted her to abort, he is not in their lives (his choice) and my sister found an awesome loving husband that excepted her circumstance and when they got married her husband adopted the baby. They know Jesus on a personal level and are so happy and moved on, and Jesus loves you too and knows your situation and wants to help you, just ask Him, and He will be there with you! Jesus died for YOU He took the punishment for our wrong doings, He covers our sin if you repent and turn to Him. It's ok, you will get thru this. Your parents will be shocked, but they also will get over it. God bless you and hang in there and lean on the Lord!

Answer 8

well i know that i was going to wait to tell my mom that i was pregnant until i got some things in my life smoothed out. yeah, the first time i talked to her i broke down crying and told her. i was ashamed because of some circumstances in my life and didn't want her to be disappointed in me once again. but telling my mom was the best thing i could have done, she has be supportive, and will love her grandchild with all her heart. you may decide to wait but going ahead and telling your parents may be what you need to do. i wish you luck and congratulations.

Answer 9

If you are close to your mom I would tell her and ask her advice about what to do. If you are thinking about getting an abortion and you think you would lose your family ove rthat decision I wouldnt tell her unless you are 100% sure. I personally would tell my mom immediately to get advice and hope for the support you deserve that you obviously arent getting from your boyfriend. GOOD LUCK AND CONGRATS!! KEEP US UPDATED!

Answer 10

only you can make this decision, but your parents would want to know, they love you apparently and would probably want to be as involved as possible, but in the end you have to decide what feels right for you. And PLEASE don't let your bf push you into making a decision that will haunt you for the rest of ur life. wishing you lots of luck.