Just because I'm young?

Question

I am 20 years old. I am engaged to be married and I have thoughts about cheating. I love my man but I think about sex all the time. He is 6 years older than me and it seems like all he can think about is work. He's at work now. I've never been a big partier. I'm fine with the staying home on the weekends deal but I don't want to do it alone. Any advise?

Answer 1

You having a very active sex drive is nothing to be afraid of or to feel as if its not right. It is quite natural...however, that said, it may be that your fiancee is not as sexually motivated. Doesn't mean he doesn't like sex or that he doesn't find you desirable. It may just simply mean his drive right now is on a different plane as yours. But......and this is a big but....if this is a big issue to you and it bothers you that much that you two aren't more on the same page when it comes to sex, then you need to address this now.....not wait till you have married him. It needs to be talked out now. You don't want to just fool yourself into thinking this whole issue will automatically correct itself once you are married. The last thing you want is for an issue, that may be a deal breaker, for it to be not resolved by the time you are married. That is asking for divorce court down the road. ....Good Luck!

Answer 2

What do you think about sex? is it sex or are you just lonely for someone to be with? two different things here. Do you use sex to get attention? Maybe you shouldn't be engaged to this man. Maybe you need someone who will give you a little more attention. Don't make the mistake of marrying the wrong man, then having an affair through the marriage. You still have time to do the RIGHT THING! don't get married because it's expected of you or because you don't want to be alone...because basically YOU ARE ALONE.
DO THE RIGHT THING!

Answer 3

In this day and age, 20 is too young for marriage I think. You should be out having a good time, seeing the world, having mad sex with whomever you choose{ always use protection}. At 26 he maybe ready to settle, clearly you are not. Whats the rush though? You need to enjoy your freedom before you settle down, once you are married, it sounds as if you are destined to philandering en route to divorce court. On the other hand you should mention the problem to him and he may cut down on work so as to cater to you his princess, you never know. Or invest in a good dildo to keep you company whilst he makes money. I would give anything to be 20 again, I would do things alot diferrently. Wish you the best!

Answer 4

You are clearly not ready for marriage.Marriage is a huge commitment and you are too young.People don't get married until after they are done having fun.Have fun now and party party,party.Worry about marriage later.Most people I know don't get married before their 30's. If he is not into partying and you are don't be a fool this will never work.Start thinking clearly,marriage is alot of work,you have to give into alot of things you don't want to but it's share and share alike.

Answer 5

Your age is almost immaterial. A person that is seriously considering playing around when they are engaged shouldn't be engaged. Sorry. This doesn't necessarily mean you are a lousy person, just that you probably not ready to marry your fiance, or that you don't really WANT to marry him. I urge you to wait to marry, until the marriage, and the person, are what you want.

Answer 6

Well love is being able to contribute the art of happiness without expecting it back.My advise to you is to not get married if you EVER thing about cheating because you will just hurt him, if you EVER have question yourself about loving him, and if the two of you want different things because if will just never work and then you will have to go the divorce and stress and it just isn't worth it...hope i help

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Answer 7

Well, you are young, but that doesn't matter.
If you really do think this is your man, tell him the truth about what you are thinking. Tell him that you are still young and that you are thinking about sex.
If he is interested about having it with you tell him he has to wear a _______ so that nothing happens to you!
Tell him that you think he isn't with you all the time and that he seems to be more focused on his work than you. Just sit down and retake this over about how you two are going to do this together and help eachother out ok???
He will tell you the truth and you will have you answer.

Answer 8

maybe you could go shopping with a friend, or out to lunch or dinner? do you have hobbies and interests of your own?

even though people are engaged and married, they still need to take time out to do things which are fun for them, and separately from their partner. we can't depend on a parter for constant fulfillment.

There is more to life than sex (although it can be loads of fun!)... if you want to spice up your sex life, i'm sure you can find all sorts of information on line about that -- and if you and your partner dont' seem to have sex often enough for you, talk with him. He will never know unless you tell him?

i hope things work out! take care and enjoy life!

Answer 9

You should probably wait to get married if you are thinking about that. Because do you seriously want to get married then cheat and do that to him and then have to pay for a divorce? That would be a horrible thing to do. DO NOT GET MARRIED!!

Answer 10

Talk to your fiancee' about how you feel. Set him down at the kitchen table during dinner (if hes home then) and tell him how you feel about the whole thing.