I attended a costume party dressed in my sister's USC cheerleading uniform and was immediately hit on by a guy who didn't realize I wasn't a girl because I am small & thin with medium length hair and make a more than passable female. He asked me to dinner and I am thinking of going because - even though I don't consider myself gay - I've always wanted to know what it feels like to be treated like a girl. I know that I should tell him the truth, but couldn't it at least wait until the end of the evening?
2007-03-17 09:32:21 · 20 answers · asked by Auburn 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
He might already know, but you should tell him before he takes you out to dinner. If he doesn't mind, you could end up having a very fun & interesting evening.
2007-03-18 18:44:08 · answer #1 · answered by J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is an awesome opportunity. I understand your desire to see how the other side is treated. Mainly because I'm a female who occasionally gets mistaken for a man (not because I try to look overly masculine either). I think you should go for it. You can always work the topic of homosexuality into the dinner conversation, to see where he stands- queer, accepting or homophobe. Then play out the rest of the night by that. In any case, don't go farther than a simple dinner without him knowing the truth. In the worst case situation, have your mace in hand and a friend on speed dial to come pick you up. And make sure you play your role well, talk to your female friends and make sure you use the women's bathrooms. I think you can pull it off. Good luck!
2007-03-17 12:05:24 · answer #2 · answered by blue_devil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are venturing into homosexual/transsexual territory. The fact that you want to know what it feels like to be a girl is not a regular thought of a heterosexual male.
More than likely, the guy already does know you are also a guy, and he himself is a homosexual. He probably likes the idea of you being a guy in drag and passable as a female. There are a lot of homosexual guys who like that. How well did other people at the party know you or him? Your sisters friends had to know you were her brother, so if the guy knew any of them and asked them about you, there is no doubt it was confirmed to him that you are male.
You'll need to think about a few things in advance, in case he truly has no clue. What would you do if he truly thought you were a female and he became angry for the deception once he finds out. Obviously, if he doesn't already know, he will find out eventually - you will not be able to hide it for long.
Go for it if you can handle it mentally, but be careful. There is little doubt in my mind, after reading your question, that you are homosexual to some degree, but whether you chose to accept that or not makes a huge difference in determining how well you can deal with the reality of it.
2007-03-17 09:51:41 · answer #3 · answered by Josh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not really fair to try to satisfy your curiousity and desire for experimentation with some guy who doesn't know any better and is clearly expecting something else. It will lead to an uncomfortable situation at best, and a dangerous one at worst - when he realizes you tricked him and potentially made a fool of him. There are lots of people who I'm sure would be equally interested in helping you live out your curiousities. As long as everyone knows what they're getting into, nobody gets hurt. Just be safe, and have fun.
2007-03-17 09:40:17 · answer #4 · answered by Sullycool 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have two choices if you don't want to get beat up. You can either tell him you are a guy right away or go out on the date but then never see him again and never appear out in public as a female again. I think that going out on the date and telling him afterwards is definitely going to get you physically hurt or worse.
2007-03-17 09:42:03 · answer #5 · answered by Bethe W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do *not* lead him on. He thinks you're a girl, and sooner or later he's going to find out the truth and there's going to be hell to pay, and you know that. Just tell him that you were flattered at the party and that you should've told him then, but you didn't want to b/c you were having too much fun. Apologize to him, and then just shrug it off.
2007-03-17 09:44:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dog. You felt great and got a free dinner. Forget telling the guy you were with and use more men because they are suckers for anything that seems feminine.
2007-03-18 11:58:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tricky..
The guy is going to eventually find out you are not a girl and im not sure how he is going to take that. Bring a helmet just in case. and some band aids...
If you really need to find out then go with him and see what happens. You never know!
2007-03-17 09:39:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Well to be honest just tell him now. He is probably in love with you by now. Just tell him before things could end up being violent. Who know's he just might give you a one, two, three
2007-03-17 09:38:08 · answer #9 · answered by want_to_marry_overseas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love these sorts of stories. In the next chapter you should go out with him and have your sister help you get ready.
2007-03-17 09:38:12 · answer #10 · answered by J J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋