My brother got his gf pregnant...how should he tell my mom?

Question

everyone else in my family knows besides my mom...how can he tell her without her getting angry or upset?

Answer 1

This is usually ment for the pregnant mother BUT have him:
1. Stay calm
2. Write a letter if you need to
3. Make a plan beforehand
4. If you plan to continue the pregnancy, be specific about the future. Explain how you’ll finish school, provide for the baby, etc.
5. Bring a supportive friend or relative along
6. Tell them first--don’t let them hear it somewhere else
7. If they freak out, leave for a bit and come back later. Hopefully they will have calmed down a little

Telling your parents you are pregnant is one of the hardest things you will do. You may feel scared, ashamed, embarrassed, nervous, anxious, or depressed. You may feel like you have let them down or that they will never forgive you. Please remember that no matter what their initial reaction is, this reaction will most likely change over time, if you maintain a level of maturity and stay calm. Just make sure that you make a choice about the pregnancy BEFORE you tell them and don’t let their pressure of that of other family members change what YOU want to do, even if they lay some heavy guilt or shame onto you. This is your body and your choice and ultimately, YOU will be the one to deal with it, not them. Just stay calm, stay focused, and prepare yourself for whatever lies ahead.
Good luck. Maybe she'll understand
Hav him explain all of this to her and make sure the girlfriend is there also to support him

Answer 2

There is no way he can tell her and have her not be upset. It doesn't matter how you say anything to a person, she will be disappointed and upset regardless, the only thing that matters is the subject matter. If he can get a girl pregnant he can tell his mom about it since hes such a 'man'.

Answer 3

Before telling her (with a nice cup of tea of coffee) he could write up some things that he intends on how he is going to take responisbility for the situation. Then, even though he might be 'presenting a problem' he is also presenting some solutions?!
All the best; and hope it all works out for all concerned.

Answer 4

As a mom myself- I'd be more upset to be the last person to know. You need to tell her right now.

Answer 5

Best thing to do is to tell her, she has to find out sooner or later but i don't think your mom is going to be mad for the rest of her life. Go for it its better for her to find out by your brother then to find out by someone else that might make up more things in the story.

Answer 6

I don't think he could tell her without her being upset since she'll be the last to know. He'll just have to face it like a man, afterall he's gotta be one now no matter what his age is. Good luck to him.

Answer 7

Have you and your brother have a talk with your mother (and your father if possible) and say that you have something important to tell you, and try you best to tell her that she is pregnant. IT may not be easy though, but try your best.

Answer 8

It's not like her opinion is going to change whether she finds out now or later. He should just come out and tell her. Honesty is the best policy!

Answer 9

Don't say it out of nowhere, and also have her sit down and you both there talking calm like there is nothing wrong and tell her straight up. Make sure after you tell her, its okay its okay etc.

Answer 10

He should just tell her, if she gets upset he should deal with that hurdle when it's time to cross it.