priorities?

Question

I have a friend single father, kids has attachment problem and needs nurturing. The father has a gf who is so immature and sometimes treat him bad(not violent). The gf dad's got cancer and in the hospital, my friend was there to support , which is very nice. The gf has a lot of support from the family(they are big family) in town. My friend only have the kids in town. The gf dad's has to go to especial hospital and my friend was thier to support but the kids needs him too since doesn't have any family to hang out with only with a sitter. Is it necessary to leave your kids that way, that you only see most on the weekends or to be with the gf who has a lot of support from the huge family? Do you think they(gf family) will understand you have responsibility as guardian and a parent since the kids needs you?

Answer 1

this person should really reevaluate the situation. yes he should be there for her but not so much that it takes away from the time he has with his children. the children should be his 1st priority. take care of their needs and wants and then the girlfriends. i know when my grandma became terminal at the final stages of her cancer fight it was awesome to have the emotional support from my family, my husband, my friends and my in-laws. cancer is a very bad disease for all who are affected. but he should not neglect his children as he is doing. he needs to create an everlasting bond with them. in my opinion, if he chooses not to be physically there with his girlfriend, she and her family should not have a problem with it because he is taking care of his children and being a good father. if they do have a problem with it then this is not the family/person that he wants to be with. he needs to be with a person that accepts him AND his children and respects the fact that he needs to spend quality time with the children.

Answer 2

That made No sense at alll