Why is it whe somone is advocating that drugs are bad for pregant mothers they get a thumbs down rating. As if you are almost defending a pregant mother who in my eyes abused her child. I replied to a question in concerns to a friend who was wondering what would happen to her friend who smoked pot during pregnancy and was worried about the baby being taken away. What is this world coming too when the people feel sorry for the person that contributed to these actions. I got a thumbs down and I don't think that I said anything that seemed harsh. I am sorry I didn't defend the pot smoking mother! I do support the friend that was worried; she seems like a concerned sincere friend.
2007-03-17 08:55:35 · 6 answers · asked by pattiof 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I agree. Once a woman finds out that she is caring for another living being inside of her, she should no longer do the bad things that she knows would hurt the baby. A woman's body is a temple especially with a baby in it. Drugs are bad for the mother and especially the baby. What did she think was going to happen? They would just say, oh you made a mistake here, have your baby. Those are the kids that end up in the streets at young ages.
HERE -HERE!!!!
2007-03-17 09:01:46 · answer #1 · answered by Brittney U 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I TOTALLY AGREE!
I am the concerened friend who wrote that question- and I agree with you 100%!!! I think the answer you gave me was appropriate, and I don't see why people would rate you badly. Even I think what my friend was doing was wrong. (BTW everything turned out OK, and she is making a sincere effort to be the best mother she can be from now on- all she needed was to see that beautiful baby!)
I am glad she didn't lose her child because she changed her ways, but a lot of people don't. I know a few people like that and I wish their children had been taken. Anyway, like I said, I think that you gave a good response, and the only reason you didn't get best answer was because another person gave me links to sites where I could find out the actual laws...
The reason I was upset that some replies were harsh was that some people were responding like she was on crack and should never see her child again, and while her actions were wrong and irresponsible she's a good person, and research shows that what she was doing causes minimal harm, if any. (For links to information to support that claim, see my best answer.)
Your response was honest and helpful, and I don't think it was harsh at all. I am sorry some people felt the need to rate you badly, I think it was very well written and polite considering the material. Kudos to you, screw the nay-sayers!
*THE ANSWER SHE GAVE ME*
Unfortunately I must say that your friend should have been aware of the reprecussions of smoking while she was pregnant. If the state does infact take the baby; which they very well could and should. She compeletly deserves it. I know that it will be sad but what is even more sad is to think that that baby will continue to be exposed to that type of enviroment. Perhaps it will be a wake up call for her, she more then likely will have the child handed back to her but will have weekly visits paid to her by DCFS. My sister has had DCFS at her house several and I mean several times for other reasons. We live in the state of IL, so personally it is a lot harder then you think for them to uproot the children from there home. Her family will be also provided the option for temporary foster care. I wouldn't blame your sister, although she is not a possitive influence, but I can see not thinking very highly of her for that either. The fact remains is that she was mature enough to have made the baby, then she should have been mature enough to stop smoking. I have absolutely no sympathy for her. I know that you were bothered that some replies were harsh; but what did you expect when you put the question up. Your friend putting that baby in this type of situation to me is considered "Child Abuse". Good luck to you and I am sorry that the outcome may not be so pleasant for your friend.
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Mother of one beautiful 6 year old girl. That I would give my LIFE FOR!
2007-03-17 17:36:34 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Klara♥ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is awful. Why in the world would anyone feel bad for a mother to be who is selfish enough to do drugs. That is abuse and forgive me for being too harsh, but if she's doing this kind of stuff before the baby is even born, maybe she should get her child taken away. I am on not on the side of the mother, but on the side of the baby who has done nothing wrong here. Im with you on this one.
2007-03-17 16:25:50 · answer #3 · answered by Miri 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know. Sometimes I tell people things that I know to be facts, or just give plain personal experiences and still get thumbs down. I dont know how a personal experience can be a thumbs down, but whatever. Some just dont know any better.
2007-03-17 16:09:26 · answer #4 · answered by Blondi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey I know what you mean this world is messed up , everything is backwards . ppl do some of the most dumbest , stuff and then want us to feel sorry for them , well I am sorry I am a firm believer in you make your bed you lay in it , and the choices we make not only affect us they affect everyone around us .....
2007-03-17 16:02:46 · answer #5 · answered by littlebitty06 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What YOU judge to be abuse and other's judge it to be are two different things...EVERYONE on this board is entitled to their opinion whether YOU like or agree with it or not.
2007-03-17 16:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋