I met him 5 yrs ago and we hit it off right off the bat. We have a lot in common and I thought we were a great couple. I went to the grocery store with him and he left his checkbook on the counter, so being behind him, I opened it to make sure it was his before I picked it up, and his checks had his ex name on them. They were divorced x 2 yrs and he said he did not have time to close out the account. Then, he decides to join a volley ball team with her every Saturday nite, no kids, just him and her and the rest of the team. She is still doing his taxes and he says she knows how much he makes anyways, so its ok.
He asked me to marry him and she got mad and cried to he backed out of the proposal. She is re married.
I never tell him anything because he tells her everything about me and my personal business. He told her about a business venture I was on in detail, how much money I made etc. I felt like he overstepped a boundary.
Is it me or is it him. What is the deal?
2007-03-17 08:43:17 · 20 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He was married to her, that means at some point in his life he was in love with her....and some part of him always will be.
That does not mean that he does not love you.
2007-03-17 08:47:10 · answer #1 · answered by Federal Agent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart breaks for you! 5 years together means you are very committed, but it's time to cut your loses. He is way too involved with his ex and visa versa. The person you should marry would not have the time or inclination for another adult of the opposite sex. It's been so long since you've been in an appropriate relationship, your boundaries are all muddled. If this were your best friend, what would you tell her? Be strong, get out.
2007-03-17 08:56:21 · answer #2 · answered by Connie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be upset because this is a mountain of problems. If he's not still into her, then he's just not a very smart man and you should have nothing else to do with him. Just try to break it off. You are not jealous here. If she still does his taxes, and she didn't want him to marry you, she has issues and you will never be free of her if you stay with this man. Especially if they have kids together. Just let him go.
2007-03-17 08:51:11 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, I agee maximum suitable for him to interrupt off the friendship , it has no place on your marriage...he may be preserving up the touch on the grounds that he has some doubt which you 2 will stay at the same time and if no longer he has her to fall lower back on...you have been suited in each and every factor you probably did...he has to coach you which you are the main severe factor to him in his life...the excellent texting factor is particularly beside the point and finished disrespects you as his significant different...in case you think of this might eventuallychronic a wedge between the two considered one of then you definitely get some treatment for the the two considered one of...which isn't undesirable advice ...your situation is easy and helping to boost your courting must be significant to the the two considered one of you without questions or hesitations...sturdy success.
2016-10-18 22:40:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We haven't heard his side of the story, but
"He asked me to marry him and she got mad and cried to he backed out of the proposal. She is re married."
makes me think he is being controlled by her, and you're better off getting out because the two will probably end up doing something stupid together, if they haven't already. What does your man say about his ex's new husband? If he doesn't gripe about they guy constantly, then he's probably over his ex, or he is having an affair with her still.
2007-03-17 08:49:58 · answer #5 · answered by stringfellow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definetley him. This is very plain to see. See there are more than just one kind of cheating. Theres the sexual kind and all but theres emotional too. No i dont know about the sex part but the emotional part, hes got that. Ask yourself, how many men do you know do this? Not that many. Only the ones that subconsiously want there ex back. Now im not saying hes doing anything wrong, but maybe you should try and talk to him. You know see what his deal is. But is this continues, that is really not a healthy relationship for you.
2007-03-17 08:56:25 · answer #6 · answered by lost&confuzed 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's him especially if he did not invite you to play volley ball, and if you have asked him not to tell her stuff about you. Backing out on a marriage proposal sounds like you deserve much better. Wishing you Well.
2007-03-17 09:51:54 · answer #7 · answered by exslidergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's him
2007-03-17 08:50:59 · answer #8 · answered by sjlova86 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's him.
This sounds similar to women who complain about the spouse that never leaves momma-except it's the ex.
2007-03-17 08:48:15 · answer #9 · answered by mt_hopper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if they dont share kids together all ties should have been cut!! He should be your best friend not an ex-wife!!
2007-03-17 08:48:51 · answer #10 · answered by Sheri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋