What do you think about...?

Question

...fat girls???...I have a friend who is very shy and bashful because of this problem and I would like to help her be more self confident...

Answer 1

She is just as good as anyone else. She may even be more sensitive and caring than others, because of experiences she may have had to face, because of her problems. Ever one has something that isn't the best quality, and we all have to work on it. Some of us can hide our problems but with weight, it's rather hard to hide. Remember God doesn't make trash! God made us all and we have had to take what was given us. So the people with turned up noses, didn't have anything to do with what they received. They are NOT better. Think of your best quality and use it to help you the best you can. Be proud of your good qualities and be true to yourself. Always treat others the way you'd like to be treated and if you have to change friends - sure it's hard- but if you want to be really happy, there are lots of people out there who don't care about weight They care about the good, caring person who can be trusted and care about others. Do something special for yourself, color your hair, have your nails done, and change style of your clothing. If you can, move and then start pretending. Pretend that where you lived before, you were very popular, well liked that you have lots of self-esteem. It's kind of being like a salesman. Your job is to sell yourself as a person everyone wants to meet and be around. No body has to know you were shy and timid before. Never tell an untruth, practice in front of a mirror and tell yourself how great you are, how pretty you are, how special you are, how everyone likes you. Just look into the mirror and practice over and over again- say each saying over and over. Make a list of thoughts you'd like others to think about you and most important, say good things in the mirror about how you want to feel about yourself You are one of God's children and He loves you and thinks you are very beautiful inside and out.If you can, do something for someone else. It doesn't have to be big, but the feeling it give you for helping someone else can give you the most wonderful feeling imaginable and it will shine and show all over yourself and that will give you a better feeling and you will have helped someone else and helped them to feel better. Older people just love someone paying attention to them and you will receive a wonderful feeling from them. which will give you a boost and help you get out of being so shy, older people think you can do no wrong. That will help build your self-esteem. You are soooo special and you have sooo much to give and you still have lots of time left to do it. I hope I didn't sound like I was preaching to you, but I have had some of the same problems you are trying to deal with at the present time. And I know it is quite painful. I will pray for you and hope things get much better. I wish you lots of love and and luck. I you want to drop me a note, I'd be happy to hear from you.

Answer 2

I don't think anything about fat girls.

I think some girls are very nice and worth my time.

Some girls aren't.

I think beauty is more than weight/height proportions.

I think people put too much emphasis on the outside of a person and not enough on the inside.

I think it's very sad that seven year olds are suffering from eating disorders because of this.

I think if I ever hear any of my children refer to someone as "a fat girl" after they start school, they won't be able to sit for a week.

Answer 3

You know what. Treat her like a human being. Stick up for her. Go hang out with her with your other friends that will help a lot. Nudge her to a person you think she would be compatible with. (Don't be mean about it and don't judge the other person you nudge her to by weight either as you could insult both) But Really to get over being shy, that is a step she has to make herself. You really can't do that for her. Just kinda help her get her feet wet.

Answer 4

calling a friend a fat girl isn't going to help her confidence

Answer 5

People judge by appearance way too much, I think fat people are cool just like anybody else

Answer 6

The person inside the "outside" is what I think about. Maybe your friend should think about that instead of her weight or what she looks like on the "outside".

To hell with what others think about "appearances"
God just searches the heart.

Answer 7

so what does asking us how we feel about "fat" girls (as you so rudely put it) help you build up her self confidence. do her a favor and dont help her out. someone needs to help you. perhaps you could of asked "i need help in building the self confidence of a girl who is overweight".....

Answer 8

I have nothing against them. If she's a good hearted person, then she must have a few friends.

Answer 9

My bestest friend in the world is heavy set. I think the world of her. I see past it.

Answer 10

Well, They should try and be healthier, but if they can't help it then oh well. I don't judge people by their weight. True beauty is on the inside.