2007-03-17 08:00:32 · 14 answers · asked by Terbo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been married 22 years and we're both still very happy. There have been rough times but just because you have a few troubles is no reason to throw it all away. We still have a lot of fun and laugh together. We are each others best friend and pretty much always have been. We try to change things up sexually, to keep it interesting. Sex is still amazing so we must be doing something right. We don't have the same excitement that we had in the first year or two but we know each other as well as we know ourselves, we are comfortable with each other - we can talk about anything! Things change but that doesn't mean they change for the worse - love becomes deeper and more meaningful.
Happiness is a choice, you can focus on the negative (there's always negative whether you've been together 1 yr or 30 yrs) and be unhappy about what you don't have or you can focus on the positive and be happy with all that you do have. I'll finish with my favorite saying below.
Being happy doesn't mean everything is perfect - it means you decide to see beyond the imperfections.
2007-03-17 08:58:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people don't know how to handle marriage after a few years. They focus too much on excitement. I have been married for 12 years and dated this man for 6 years....so altogether we have been with one another in a stong relationship for 18 years (close enough to 20 I guess). After a point, you have to start enjoying one another on a different level other than pure sexual. The sex also gets to a different level. It means more, happens less and keeps you close. What things arent' you happy with? Talk to your spouse about this and correct it. Don't throw away 20 years just because you are not "totally" happy! We are humans and can never be "totally" happy with anythng. That is how we were made. Sounds like you are happy with most things in your marriage...work on the things you are not happy with! For the most part I am 98% happy with my marriage and I work on the other 2%. People don't put enough effort into marriage anymore. It's like a garden...you have to weed it now and again.
2007-03-17 08:29:26 · answer #2 · answered by sugarbud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have not been married for 20 years BUT i am very happily married to my wonderful husband and we are totally happy with each other. My aunt has been married for 50 years and they are still toghether and happily married and they even still sleep in the same bed if you can believe it or not. Marriage is what you make of it believe it or not. My sister and her husband have been married for 16 years and they are totally happy in their marriage and they have 2 beautiful daughters and my sister was married young to him at 18. Yes this is rare but believe it or not it can and does happen.
2007-03-17 08:07:46 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents have been married for over 20 years and they are VERY happy with each other.
They are my inspiration. Every time I see them, they look so happy and still act like they love each other... and of course, they do. I LOVE seeing them together and be so happy with one another.
Seeing them makes me want to be married already and start growing old with someone special. ♥
Marriage can last only if you want it to. People are not very strong to stay together... some don't really love each other. Some don't have the real trust and commitment to stay together no matter what.
Sure, half of married couples today divorce... but it's only a statistic. If you keep thinking about that statistic, you are doomed to a divorce as well. It's all about your state of mind.
2007-03-17 08:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents have been married almost 35 years. I'm guessing they've had their ups and downs, I know there were tough times, but they seem to be more in love now than I remember them being when I was growing up. They got married very young, had years where money was extremely tight, my dad worked long hours, they had 2 kids. Now, it's just the 2 of them, money isn't an issue, they've grown lots, and seem to have grown together. My mom always told me not to get married as young as she did, and I understand what she was saying, but now, I think she's happy.
2007-03-17 08:33:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They maybe happy but I don't think their excited about each other. I guess they just get use to one another and their life is basically the same life. Far as being totally happy after 20 years , I guess they can but it is not exciting anymore. She dresses and he does to just like they always did, don't put on makeup half the time they don't even look in the mirror, they get fat and sloppy with their appearance, just the same old one . two , three, everyday.
2007-03-17 08:12:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know 3, they are very happy one has about 24 years, another one has 27 and the other 23
2007-03-17 08:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by Magui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been married 20yrs and 1month and we are
happy, happy, and more happy, want to reach the
threshold of my parents married for 55 yrs and
were happy until the end.
2007-03-17 12:43:21 · answer #8 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your techniques are to be carved for ever. Lord Krishna expressed in his life organic love. He has shown to the international that a love with none impurity can exist between guy & woman. His expression of Divine love is misunderstood & misinterpreted Krishna had many females people disciples yet one familiar Radha. Radha found out that Krishna replace into fascinated no longer in her variety yet in her soul
2016-10-18 22:36:42 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sister was married at 18 been married 36 years now and they both still act like they just got married.
strange but true
2007-03-17 08:26:38 · answer #10 · answered by myddad 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋