I know my father loved me, and he has died a few years back. People continue to hold stuff that I know he would of wanted me to have. Because of their greed, we dont talk. Anyhow we never really did. The reason I know he had stuff that should be mine is because I also am a father and I know that how I feel about my son would be the same as my father thought about me.
2007-03-17 07:50:47 · 16 answers · asked by Keith N 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A good parent doesn't stop loving his/her child for any reason, but circumstances can require a certain amount of distance. For example,I would still love my son if he murdered someone, but I wouldn't stand in the way of justice if he was rightfully convicted of the crime.
As to your situation, there's really nothing you can do if your father died without leaving a will. Which should be an object lesson to you in regard to what you should do for your child.
2007-03-17 07:59:35 · answer #1 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. A parent does not stop loving thier child just because thier life has moved on.
Its tough knowing that items you would hold dear are in the hands of someone else.Maybe its thier own insecurities that mean they feel they need to hang onto this stuff.
I dont know how to heal that pain but maybe the situation could be useful to you as a Dad.Too many people want to leave sentimental items to loved ones after they've gone.Trouble is by then,as you've found out the items dont always get to the rightful person.Use this to ensure you buy your son significant items in his life-personalise them if you like-a watch,a book anything you think he'll one day treasure.That way whatever happens he will always have things from his Dad with him for comfort.
Try to be reassured-your Dad loved you,and would probably be most proud of the father you've become.
2007-03-17 08:00:18 · answer #2 · answered by bungle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your father had a good relationship. Then don't worry about the material things. Because lets say that you did received the items that he wanted you to have, and you had a house fire or flood...would it matter? I know exactly what you're going through, but the difference is that I am rich in love, and the memories that we shared. I don't need the material stuff that would just sit around and collect dust.
If the family members who have this stuff is soo attached that they can't stand to see you with it, then you don't need them around. Focus on building memories with your children. They will remember that more than anything material that you could ever leave behind.
2007-03-17 08:25:38 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A parent always love their children. Sometimes with a second marriage and another children it is always the second family that seem to think they are the only ones and think nothing of previous children. I am sure that there was things your father wanted you to have but right now there is nothing you can do except make sure your children know that you love them no matter what. Dwell on the future, not the past. You know in your heart that you have your fathers love and material things are only minor.
2007-03-17 08:04:31 · answer #4 · answered by mammafran77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A parent never stops loving their child no matter what the situation is. they will love them til death. and if the other person finds a new partner and has a child. that just makes it better. they have the love to give to all their children and does not matter who they are with. and for those other people who are greedy let them, his belongings don't prove how much he loved you. he is still there in your heart and that is the best gift you can ever possess of his.
2007-03-17 07:56:48 · answer #5 · answered by misty blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think people do the best they can do and even though sometimes it's not what we expect or want, it is what it is. And that if we hold on to past grudges and resentments it gives them free rent in our brain. Parents should always love their children no matter what they do in life, that's what unconditional love is all about. And as parents ourselves we can learn from our parents mistakes and or accomplishments and use that in how we raise our kids or treat our families.
2007-03-17 07:58:09 · answer #6 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things don't matter,memories do.No one can take memories from you so don't let things harbor ill feelings inside your heart because those feelings of resentment don't feel good and the memories you shared with your dad are all you need.No matter how many things you leave your son ,your time spent with him will be the thing that he'll remember the most.The talks and the time spent will be worth more than some relic you had.
2007-03-17 07:59:17 · answer #7 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A parent NEVER stops loving their children.
2007-03-17 08:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by Tara662 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First,second or third child is a child n all parents love their childrens.
2007-03-17 07:56:49 · answer #9 · answered by sherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. Actually, it is the other way around. Children start hating the parent who leave the marriage.
2007-03-17 08:42:57 · answer #10 · answered by kenneth h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋