If you were contemplating a relationship with a married person with an open marriage, would you seek confirmation from that person's spouse that the marriage was, in fact, open?
2007-03-17 07:49:55 · 33 answers · asked by mjb63114 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
EDIT: Actually I am not, myself, contemplating such a relationship. I was asking it because my ex-wife had a number of affairs with men whom she told her marriage was open. I found it very odd that none of them never asked me for confirmation.
2007-03-17 08:56:15 · update #1
id say..DONT DO IT PERIOD!!..
u asked..thats my honest answer..
2007-03-17 07:53:46 · answer #1 · answered by lisa baby... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not get in volved with a married person in the first place open marriage or not. But from a man's perspective if your going to do it then no. If she says it is an open marriage then you are both there for one reason only and you do not really want to find out that she is lying and ruin that opportunity. The truth is never get involved in the first place and be a happier and a higher moral person than her...because Marriage is a commitment that should not be shared with others open marriage or not.
2007-03-24 15:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by Dennis J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is ever completely open, there are always secrets and things the other spouse does not know. Of course because many people say they are in an open marriage just so they can fool around. For me, I wouldn't get involved with a married person even if their spouse told me to my face that it was okay. Because that means there's a lot of dysfunction going on with that couple and I would not want to get in the middle of it. Open marriages mean people are sleeping with multiple partners, be sure you are not the only one he or she is sleeping with. Which means there are a lot of diseases you can and will be exposed to. I love sex, but I am very cautious about who I am sleeping with and I have them get tested for diseases including AIDs.
2007-03-17 08:02:20 · answer #3 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most open marriages you will meet both spouses before the offer is given. For example, you're in a bar, approached by someone who strikes up a conversation, introduced to their spouse, a friendly rapport is built among the three of you (or the four of you if you have a partner) and then you would be propositioned.
2007-03-25 07:14:40 · answer #4 · answered by adollorthreeninetyfive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell, yes! But only if you don't mind what sort of "presents" you might bring home to your spouse! I was in the final stages of my divorce when a guy at the local restaurant I was hostessing at tried picking me up...I politely refused...Apparently, it just made him more curious, so he unexpectedly showed up at my other place of work uninvited the next day, and asked me take a trip with him (after already telling me he's married), I asked him point blank, "Won't your wife mind?" He claimed they had "an open relationship. I asked him if we should just call his wife to find out! (I was NOT even remotely considering his proposition, I was testing him...) Anyway, he's been in the restaurant since with a different date each time. Uuuuugh! Glad I stayed home alone! Good luck to you!
2007-03-22 00:26:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why worry about the other spouse? By being concerned about that persons feelings shows "SOME" morality on your part, but makes no sense at all when the act of adultery, (whether ALL parties are consenting), is very immoral. P.S. Sorry to hear your ex treated you and your marriage so shabbily. I take it and would hope that you didn't know any of her affairs, if so, then they would probably not feel an obligation to confirm with you. However, if you did know them on any level, I think they should have checked first.
2007-03-17 07:58:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Open marriage no, such thing is just plain out cheating. What is the point of being married. Your ex-wife did not have enough courage to speak her mind and just tell you she wanted to see other people.
2007-03-23 10:04:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think a person who was willing to have an affair with a married woman would be least bothered about any such confirmation! Afterall, her relationship with her husband is none of his business, he'd probably think! It would probably be too convenient for him not to know!
2007-03-24 17:06:59 · answer #8 · answered by vkaapai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definetly confirm with the spouse that it was an open marriage. I was almost in that same situation. The guy wanted to date me and even brought me a "note" from his wife (?) Fortunately I think better of myself and told him he would have to go somewhere else.
2007-03-24 16:42:58 · answer #9 · answered by Carmela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No such thing as an open marriage, and there is
no liscense for it also. It's an invention by couples
and causes trouble in the end, so unadvisable,
better to stay single as you do not have to explain
anything to anyone ,
2007-03-17 12:47:14 · answer #10 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally wouldn't contemplate such a relationship, but if you're determined to do this, then yeah, you should confirm it. You don't want to come home to a jealous, armed spouse one of these days. Yike!
2007-03-17 07:55:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋