Why do we wait until it's too late to tell them?
2007-03-17 07:48:17 · 12 answers · asked by Ting 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
because at the time you think they are going to be there for ever, and when it unexpectedly happens and they are gone. and then you realize that you should of said something when they were alive.
2007-03-17 07:52:31 · answer #1 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's more difficult to tell someone 'I love you' or 'I'm sorry' or 'You mean so much to me' to their face. I guess you'd call it human nature. We learn after we lose someone that no matter how difficult or uncomfortable it is, we NEED to do it while they can still see and hear us. We all struggle with this and once you start expressing yourself and your feelings verbally, it will get easier. It's only a learning experience. The crime is not doing it once you know you should. Ignorance is bliss but once you know better, it's just ignorance! Start with those around you today. You'll never have to have that same regret again. Feels good, huh?!
2007-03-17 07:55:32 · answer #2 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humans are strange, we tend to take anything we have for granted until something terrible happens, such as death. It's not that we wait until it's too late to say, I love you, or You mean more to me than you would ever know, it's that we don't realize that we should be telling them now while we're still together. Live everyday as if it were your last, and treat everyone you love as if it was theirs.
2007-03-17 08:25:14 · answer #3 · answered by Neko 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We wait because we do not have the courage to face up to the reaction we get after telling them this without feeling vulnerable. We only realize after a persons death that he/she would've understood,and moreover, felt a moment of vulnerability in returning those same feelings as well.
2007-03-17 07:54:44 · answer #4 · answered by cradle2resurrection 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when people open up and tell someone all the emotional stuff they get all akward and take it the wrong way and the friendship is shot. Even if they say it's okay it's still not the same.
2007-03-17 08:00:32 · answer #5 · answered by candiecorn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because people are afraid of being misunderstood and even utterly misused by their friends. Because people may become shy and even ashamed of what they have spontaneously confessed unto their friends, so much that they may not dare meet their eyes again thereafter.
You should never ever reveal to your best friends your sincere feelings about them because if you do it you will be exposed unto them for the rest of your life in the sense that your friends may use your naive sincerity against yourself, they may tend to instrumentalize you, or else they may become irrationally shy towards you.
People may extensively want to confess their most intimate problems and thoughts to strangers, to therapists, even to a distant priest of another religion, or to pictures of saints, and to people they may never meet again or that are so emotionally distant from them as not to evoke the idea of a danger. It may feel safe to do so.
Friends may want to keep you as their hostage, as their sentimental robot. Friends may tend to blackmail you emotionally and thus cause to you and to themselves much trouble.
We may decide to silently tell our friends how much they matter to us while we are escorting their coffin, or after we have escorted them to their grave, because then we may freely say what we really feel to say without being afraid of some real or potential accusing or abusing reaction from them.
2007-03-17 08:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by pasquale garonfolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't wait to tell them. I never end a call with one of my kids or grandkids w/o telling them I love them. I've seen it happen just like you say and learned from their mistakes. We have an uncle who refused to speak to his daughter when she called and she was murdered that night. He has been drunk almost constantly. He was angry with her and never got to hear her voice again. You just never know. Good Luck and God Bless
2007-03-17 07:54:52 · answer #7 · answered by moonrose777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are afraid to say how we feel in our hearts because we are afraid of rejection or someone making fun of us and not being truly accepted nor loved.
2007-03-17 07:51:33 · answer #8 · answered by Terbo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they don't realize that life is short and sometimes they don't even need to tell them because they already know it.
2007-03-17 07:52:07 · answer #9 · answered by stacie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we're selfish...we dont want them to know how much we appreciate them because of pride.
sometimes we act like we're to proud to show someone else how much they mean to us, so we keep it to ourselves....until that day when we loose them. then we want to tell it, but by then its TOO late.
i appreciate you for asking this question....some people STILL dont get it!!
2007-03-17 07:54:05 · answer #10 · answered by so_much_2_life! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋