Ok so this girl I really like went to a movie tonight with me and a friend. A few days ago out of no where we kinda started hugging/cuddling, and there was a bit of making out. I asked her if it ment anything the next day and she said that for the moment no and she wasn't sure if it would and that she didnt want to lead me on. So today when we went I felt like she was totally leading me on... we held hands for about half the movie she had her head on my shoulder a couple times. However there were a few times where she kinda took her hand away when I reached out for it, when she got near my hand. On the way home she asked how long I liked her, I told her, then I thought Id clarify what happened and asked if anythings changed since we last talked about how for the moment she didnt see me like that. She said not really?! But it was a more quiet and mellow and took her a while to answer. So Im totally confused. Her actions say one thing but her words say another...
2007-03-17 07:44:28 · 4 answers · asked by teh_masta_of_all 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Now I dont know if she'll come and lean on me and talk to me as if we're really good friends at school now, or if it'll be as if nothing happened and she'll just act as friends.. I dont know how I should act towards her now... she knows I like her obviously but I have no idea how she feels...
2007-03-17 07:44:37 · update #1
Important thing is not to play desperate, if you really like this lass dont screw it up by crowding her. Play cool and act like you dont want her that much, and if she wants you, she'll be the one to ask you. If a girl thinks your getting clingy, she'll go off you.
hope the helped
2007-03-17 09:02:59 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would bet money that this girl is indeed using you. She's most likely bored or has got her mind on another fella nd passing the time away with you. She'll keep you just enough interested until you have served her purpose. So, how long are you going to allow her to do this? Why aren't you telling yourself that you deserve more than this nice, but flaky gal? At the very least, you will have gathered more dating experience and you will be able to recognize females actions if this happens again in the future.
2007-03-17 08:16:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen... You've broken some major ice, you definately have her attention, you have conversations with her! One piece of advice: Don't crowd the issue or even remotely lead her to think that you are pressuring her (ok, that's two pieces of advice). Pressuring her (especially if she has ANY kind of conflicting emotions [I didn't say BAD emotions, I said conflicting as in confused]) will drive her away quicker than if you were swinging a baseball bat at her. Be happy just to be with her for now. Knock off the "how-much-do-you-like-me-huh-huh-huh?" stuff and let her take the lead for a while. Give her the space to figure out her own feelings and, if this relationship works out, she will definately appreciate you on a deeper level for doing so. It's funny that your next to last sentence says "So I'm totally confused". Welcome to the club, brother! She might be totally confused too.
2007-03-17 08:02:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's trying to lead you on because she knows you like her. Try to act a little cool around her for a while, see if this works.
2007-03-17 07:53:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋