What do you think of a man who......?

Question

Would never marry me after 14 years together and 2 children.
Broke up with me News Years Eve, after we went out and had a good time.
This is not the first time that he has left, and during that time apart he was seeing someone else.
He went back to her.
She took him back after he had just left his family.
He dumped her to come back to me a year ago.
He is 41.
He moved in with his mother.
He left me because he said that he was just not into me anymore, because I gained 20 pounds.
He said the family life is not what he wants
He said the womans house he is with now is quite, because there are no animals or kids.
If his kids act up he can't handle it, it makes him to nervous.
He said that he always wanted a blond woman, I have auburn hair.
He whitens his teeth everyday
We had family portraits painted, he would not participate because he did not want to see himself as aging.
He makes decions that effect others also, and expects them to deal with it. Not caring who he hurts.

Answer 1

Read up on Narcissism, and Narcissistic Personality Disorder. He fits the bill 100%.

Answer 2

aaaww the old double life story! Well he's going to keep playing that game. And I might suggest you STOP! your the one left with all the responsibility it seems. You need to stop playing his game. He obviously doens't want just you. And right now he's getting it all. You and the OTHER WOMEN! He comes back to you when ever she doesn't want him. Stop doing that to your self and your kids. He's such a child. Didn't his parents teach him YOU CAN'T HAVE EVERY THING? boy some kids are just spoiled rotten. Let him live with mommy. She can take care of him, after all she did raise him. You just take your self to the lawyers office and draw up those nice little papers for child support. AND please take good care of your kids. They will need a strong person in their life. Obviously daddy was way to busy for them.
And DON'T MARRY HIM! it wont change his problems it will only create a much worse situation. People don't change because they get married.

Answer 3

First of all i think this man seems shallow and mean and not committed at all. He is a player and a user. If i were you i would let this guy go as obviously you are not enough for him and never will be. You will be much better off without him in your life. Move on with you and your kids life as you can do much better then this man. He is not worthy of you and of your love if you ask me. Dump him and start looking elsewhere for friends and for love. You can do much better then him! Let him go be with someone else and tell him you are done with him and his stupid and foolish ways and that you are not gonna put up with him and play his games anymore . You can do much better then him and he does not deserve a good woman like you anyways.

Answer 4

I think he is not worth the time it took you to type this.Sounds like a self-centred ego maniac to me and you are well rid of him.
How can any man say their children make them nervous......over some noise and maybe an animal in the house?Let his mother or some other woman have him and put up with this nonsense.
Gaining a little weight and not being blonde?Give me a break.He's just digging for excuses and using petty ones at that.You had auburn hair when he met you.
Sounds as though the other"woman"is tired of his B.S. too as he keeps going back and forth.Wouldn't it be interesting to have a chat with her?
Not want to see himself aging!!! Good grief.
Be happy you don't have to put up with him making decisions for you anymore. Most of all......be happy he's not in your life anymore and I feel sorry for your children.However........they'll figure it all out for themselves oneday.'Like I said:he's a self -centred ego maniac and one with huge problems.
Good luck to you and your children.God Bless.

Answer 5

He leaves and finds someone else because you two aren't married. You made the mistake of living with him, and having kids with him with no commitment. I suggest you start packing your bags, and raise your kids and then find another boyfriend. It's not right what he did, but there was no commitment there. You were not a "family" or else he would have participated in those portraits and asked for your hand in marriage. Move on, you'll never have a marriage with him anyways.

Answer 6

What do I think??? After living with my husband for 2 years, having a 4 year old daughter and another on the way...I told him that if he did not marry me I would only be meeting him at the door on the weekends when he came to pick up his kids for visitation...(child support sucks) and I told him that if he chose not to do right by me and our kids he didnt owe me a thing except the freedom to raise my children and show them true happiness. We have been married for 5 1/2 years, he says it was the best ultimatum he had ever been given. You have to be independant of yourself...especially for your children. You want them to grow up strong and having a mate is only a bonus in life, not a neccesity. He is the one who is so wrapped up in himself the important things dont matter. They will though, someday, and when your kids are old enough to forgive him for his bad choices, they will because you raised them better than that. Pray for him, and move on. Find happiness and your kids will too.

Answer 7

why are you stressing about this loser get your a** up and get yourself together take care of your kids and find another man because that one is a lost cause it might takesome time to get over but for your own sanity leave him alone he dont want to be there fine f*** him do you and be happy and when he wanna run back dont answer the door or phone he can stay out in the street with trash and if he's sleeping around aids is a big thing but its thing you have to live with that they aint got the cure for

Answer 8

I don't think he knows what he wont's and you will never figure him out how can you when he cant even do it for himself . Why do you feel so low about yourself being that you keep taking this how can i say " no where man " back . Are you after him because he has great looks ?Do you think your above and average looking man? I believe your missing out on your and your kids lives thinking this guys going to change . Hes so vain cant you see that hes a lover of himself.

Answer 9

again and again women who do not get married wonder why a man can leave so easily, although many fools do break their marrige vows--it is much more than a peice of paper.
i doubt you could even sue him for desertion.
let him go, he doesn't want you, sounds like he is tired of being in a home life, returning home to mom and dad at his age?
if he ever tries to return, and you do want him; all i can say is get some standards, only after respectful dating and then a marraige ceremony, first. make him work for you, you came too easy like a free gift, all along, i feel bad for the kids,.

Answer 10

It sounds like he is acting like a little boy. Don`t want to share my toys and now don`t want to share my women, can`t grow up and don`t want to. Well it time you let this USER go and make a life for yourself and your children. You deserve better than this and it`s time you made the move for yourself and your kids. You say he won`t marry you after 14 years and 2 children, that piece of paper is not going to make him grow up. GO FOR IT.