Have you ever forgotten about an ex that you hurt very badly?

Question

It seems my ex has forgotten about me. Like I never existed to him. Is this how it goes? This was my first real relationship. He doesn't care to ever talk to me. And we were so close, but it seemed very easy for him to let me go. Maybe I am naive, but how can someone be so cold to someone you were so close to? I even wanted to remain friends and he said yes, but was so cold, like he could care less. If this is how realtionships are suppose to be then I would rather not get involved ever again with anyone, it hurts too much. We are in our 20's. Can anyone relate? ALso, I never did anything to him, if anything I was there for him.

Answer 1

You won't forget, and neither will he, but hon, life is for the living, and yesterday is gone forever. Get into some therapy and get on with your life. People make a big mistake dwelling in the past. What he was, and what you THOUGHT he was became two different things. When you accept that, you'll find life has lots of other men in it. And there is nothing better than a new love, to make you stop dwelling on the old one.... good luck, hon.

Answer 2

I am going through the exact same thing and I have to just tell you what I have learnt, there are 2 reasons people will go cold with you after a break up, one is that they are finding it so hard to deal with that they are just blanking you out completely, as to avoid the pain they feel and try and make it not real. Or the other is that they weren't as heavily emotionally involved in the relationship as you were, and some people are very good actors. Neither of them are a good thing, but they are the only two outcomes, either he will realise he loves you and wants to still be with you or he will realise he has made the right move and wants to stay single. Tell him all you want to say and then you cant do anything more, he will have all the information at his disposal. Try and be happy with yourself, get sone ice cream, a few movies you like and see your friends. Nothing else you can do.

Answer 3

Seems to me that he never really,truly cared for you.Either that or his consience is very guilty.
It's hard to maintain a relationship and still be friends after breaking up but it can happen and does.However ....why would you want to keep hurting yoourself when he doesn't care? I feel it's best for you to just let it go.
Please don't feel that you can't trust or get involved with anyone ever again because you can.There are good guys out there and the right one will come along for you oneday.
You're hurting now but trust me........you will get over this.Give yourself some time
Maybe you gave too much and he didn't give anything in return.Next time take it slow and you will know when the right one has come along.
Good luck to you and God bless.

Answer 4

I can understand your situation as I went through the same situation. But babes-life is like that. We get hurt but that does not make us stop moving. If someone doesnt even bother about us a little bit , then why should we waste our energy on them.To say these things is easy but actually not letting ourselves think about our ex's is tough. But we have to accept this as a fact and forget it considering that we cannot change the situation anyways. Next time be very careful about chosing any guy you want to be serious with. Not all guys will end up to be the way this guy is.And remember time will heal everything.You will forget about this guy in time.

Answer 5

Apathy is the best revenge for exes and it seems like that is what he has shown you, and it has obviously worked. You aren't over him yet and he has made it clear that he has moved on. I know it is easier said than done but you should move on too and not waste your life thinking about someone who doesn't care about you. You only have one life, so why spend it concerning yourself about him? If he knew that you were pining for him, he would love it. It would be a big ego boost for him.

Sometimes relationships end like this but it doesn't mean that you should avoid them. You might go through a few boyfriends before you find the perfect man. IMO you shouldn't go through life being afraid of rejection or being hurt because then you might never find happiness.

Answer 6

i was in your situation. it was so bad. what i did was, i tried not to talk to him, tried keeping myself busy by hanging out with friends and work more hours. Later on, when i come into senses, i realised that he has already moved on and i should not give any false hope to myself (by hoping he would come back if i acted this way or that way). I know you loved him so much and it is hard to simply follow what everybody has recommended. i am sorry i cant help you much, but dont give up in love just becuase of this unsucessful relationship. Move on trust me. There are many other good guys that will love and cherish you. Try it and trust me you will be surprised with how strong you are and that everything that had happend had made you a stronger person. Keep it as a lesson for life.
Remember to never give up and dont blame yourself for nothing.
Godd luck dear

Answer 7

seems like you are still holding on to the hope that he will come back... I know that this hurts and I know that you really don't see life right now, but there is... Woman love really hard and when we have put so much into a relationship that does not work out, we almost loose out selves... Honestly all you can do is take this one day at a time and start doing things to keep you busy.... Find things that you like doing and get to know your self better... this man have obviously moved on, he did it pretty quickly but that should not stop your healing process... I know that you think about him when you shouldn't but you have to find something to focus on that can take his attention.... if you have little sisters spend some time with them so you can teach them how not to focus to much energy on a man that is not their husband... have them learn from our mistakes... Every woman has been in your position before, but we all handle hurt differently.... You just have to start loving your self again and making sure that the number one person you think about and try to make happy is you.... good luck girl... i just got done doing this...so you are not talking to someone who does not know how you feel.....sister power.....

Answer 8

Yes I sure have lol and so should you. Be glad that he has forgotten about you and move on with your life and be happy for it. There is a reason he is your ex hon so just be happy he is not in your life anymore. He wants to move on with his life and so should you as you will be a much better person for it. I know this hurts you BUT you need to let him go and not worry so much or read into this as this is not important now.

Answer 9

did you ever stop to think that you ex is acting like you no longer exist or that he does not care is just his way of dealing with the fact that he lost a good thing. sometimes people don't know how to act in these situations. give it time, eventually your ex will have to smile and say hi one day. It takes so much more energy to be negative towards someone, ya know. And hey, worst case scenario, that he does not ever acknowlegde you and/or your past relationship, well I would say you are better off without him in your life! let the next girl fall victim to his insecurities!

Answer 10

That's part of being an EX dear...if they wanted to remember you chances are you would still be together. Move on...apparently he has. It is not a bad thing...like I said you are an EX for a reason. When you break up with someone you won't move on if you cannot forget about them.