They must know everything about your life , and they will "consider " a person a B*tch or a jerk if you don't share your business with them ?
2007-03-17 07:08:20 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
How can someone become more social without sharing too much information ??
2007-03-17 07:09:04 · update #1
Some people are so sorry...they have nothing better to do than gather information on others, and then spread what they've learned around (makes for gossip).
You can answer people in generalizations - this way they think they know something, but they actually know nothing.
I've always tried to keep my distance from this type of person - people who are into gossip are not really friends.
2007-03-17 07:14:13 · answer #1 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all people like that should NOT be part of your social circle. Second should they call you names when you do not share your business then report them to the school authorities for harassment. The words you use is "So-In-So is creating a hostile work environment for me and others." This invokes a federal law that should the school officials do not intervene then they could go to jail. To make sure that you are safe start a journal with all you can remember up to now and then put down everything that happens including dates, names and what is said, about 3 weeks of daily put downs and threats will be enough to prove your case.
Standing up to her should make you a hero for the rest of the "out crowd" Choose wisely because interesting smart people included into your circle of friends will teach you all the social skills there are. Getting on well with people who are different from you is the real social skill.
2007-03-17 14:27:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pssst! Ancient Chinee Secret...,
"Change the subject" when someone starts asking too personal a question.
Lets say someone asks you about .., your love life and you feel its non of their business but you don't want to be rude as they might not be intending to be snoopy. Say "OH! WOW! What a great.. necklace.. (ring, sweater, whatever) as if you suddenly just that moment noticed it and its do die for (even if its gaudy, brag on it).
SHIFT the flow of speech to flattery about that person. Vanity is a fault of pretty much everyone. I mean even Non Self Centered people are agoo when people dote on them. Know what I mean?
If they recover from the flattery and return to the question, change the subject again..., "Oh! By the way, did you hear about so and so... he/she got a new....".....
Be a boxer of words. Shift, dance, shift, dance. Practice ahead of time on things to talk about in the future so you wont be left thinking at the last minute and drawing a blank.
2007-03-17 14:22:55 · answer #3 · answered by Victor ious 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to talk about yourself and someone is bugging you about your personal life try changing the subject to something else...like something random etc. the weather. If they still keep bugging you about yourself try changing the subject to them...if they seem like the type of person who is wouldn't be offended ask them about their personal life and who knows...maybe they'll forget all about the subject of you. If those two sugestions don't work then you should just tell the person upfront that you really don't feel like talking about your business and that you're uncomfortable. If they call you a b*tch or jerk then they're just plain not worth talking too!!
2007-03-17 14:15:19 · answer #4 · answered by Loraine 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
they might be curious or bored
they might also be a person who wants to know all about everything,
There are so many in the world and no offense to anyone but just about everyone in the world has been like that at one time or another for maybe even just a day
2007-03-17 14:34:55 · answer #5 · answered by blonde_goddess2992 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for ur first question:
curiosity or boredom i guess
ur second:
i have many secrets that make me me
i am in high school and my few good friends no my secrets and they understand me better than my friends. it is hard to make friends without telling them ur life. i would like to tell my friends my life but then i would be outcasted and labeled. so i get very lonely when i need to tal to a friend but cant because i cant tell them my prblems because then they would have to know my life secrets
its really hard
2007-03-17 14:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Casey 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG...This is the story of my life!~
I don't know...I don't think this is possible. I have someone presently trying to torment my life becasue I don't want them in it. If I don't tell them something then they will make it up.
I just want to let you know that you are not alone.
People who want to know all your business are usually very insecure.
2007-03-17 14:14:57 · answer #7 · answered by ssc23b9d 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Say "I'd rather not say" when asked. Sounds like some people may not be worth being social with.
2007-03-17 14:11:55 · answer #8 · answered by Over The Rainbow 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They need drama in their lives, or they need a life period. Plus its so much funner to bring other people down for their mistakes, make fun of when they got herpes from their friend named pablo in the Navy from brazil that you met in a TGI fridays... wait....
2007-03-17 14:13:37 · answer #9 · answered by Clint 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
throw the dog a bone once in a while, but don't give anything away that makes you too uncomfortable. Or start avoiding those people!
2007-03-17 14:16:54 · answer #10 · answered by juliEmAnia 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋