the other day i had a argument with a guy at work and its got to me.take that song was on the radio Patience, he said thats what i have not got and also i get wound up to easily i do agree to an extent but he always has to say things to wind me up and then when i do react he will say god i was only kidding which i dont find the least bit funny. i told him that he finds a weakness in a person then plays on it.then tries to put it on the person he has upset, which in this and many other times happens to be me . i was quite harsh too. i also said that he wasnt perfect and he needs to take a closer look at himself. he knows iwhat im like so why keep winding me up all the time.
2007-03-17 07:05:45 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
he does know he does i have told him before but he always has to rub it in.also he says i have a spilt personality becauase i go funny with him for winding me up. i have tried to ignore him but most of the time i cant. i do get irritated most of the time all my friends andfamily know this but some people tend to play on it . i thinkdeep down i have very little self value and dont like myself very much.
2007-03-17 07:30:02 · update #1
Sounds like you need to get laid.
2007-03-17 07:08:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, I agree with the others. He can wind you up because he can. So the answer to your dilemna is to relax. Try meditation. He pushes your buttons, but you really can't blame him for your reaction. You are the only person in control of how you react. I would suggest stepping back from any discussions with him, taking deep calming breaths, and laughing. If you can laugh at yourself about this whole thing, well you've won. It is kind of funny.
2007-03-17 07:18:48 · answer #2 · answered by Steph717 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That kind of "Wind up" i name as a vampiring. He is getting some kind of satisfaction when he winds you up. The best thing against that - lough. I had similar situation with friend of mine. After 3 times in a row I had fun instead of getting really annoyed he started to wind up himself. like a balloon. He stopped that completely
2007-03-17 07:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by Everona97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a form of bullying. Bullies can only intimidate their victim if the victim allows them to. I know it's difficult, but if you can be indifferent to his remarks, (even if on the inside you're hurting) then he might move onto someone else. He can only get satisfaction from what he's doing to you, if you react. Indifference is the way to go |I think.
2007-03-17 07:10:56 · answer #4 · answered by jet-set 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple, he winds you up because he can. I know it can be hard not reacting with certain people, but that's what you've got to do. Just grit your teeth and ignore him, or say "whatever", he'll get fed up eventually and move on to an easier target.
2007-03-17 07:14:04 · answer #5 · answered by Loxie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite simply, he is winding you up because he can.
Its going to be very hard but to get the better of him you are going to have to ignore his comments entirely, that way he will become bored and stop eventually.
Dont rise to him. I wish you the very best of luck hun
2007-03-17 07:10:17 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a jerk. Make it clear to him to stop bullying you, 'cos that's what it sounds like. If he doesn't stop, tell a senior member of staff about it. Bullying the the workplace is not tollerated in most places.
2007-03-17 07:41:04 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those that dish it usually can't take it. Give him a taste of his own medicine and see how he likes it.
2007-03-17 07:27:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much caffeine.
2007-03-17 07:11:51 · answer #9 · answered by rann_georgia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
some people aren't aware of what they are doing
2007-03-17 07:09:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋