and make problems for you ? Not romantic problems but he realizes you have better things going for yourself and he wants to mess it up for you, because he is so misrable and makes him angry to see your better off without him ?? He's willing to hurt you from being spiteful ???
Can anyone tell me why a man becomes jealous when he thinks a women doens't need a man in her life ??
2007-03-17 07:00:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you all for your answers !
2007-03-17 15:48:14 · update #1
Sounds alot like my ex your better off without him and you know it!
2007-03-17 07:04:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy has a major problem and needs help for this if he is this jealous and possessive of you. He seems to be a stalker and i would run and hide from him if i were you. I also would get an order of protection against him. He scares me. You do need a man in your life but not this man. I suggest you move somewhere where he cannot find you and you get the police involved asap. Also change your phone number to an unlisted one. And do all you can to avoid him and stay away even if it means moving to another city or state for that matter.
2007-03-17 07:08:27 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it depends on you and sometimes it doesn't. Some men and women are just troubled and no matter how nice you are to them, no matter how much you try and act like their friend, they spit it back in your face and hurt you.
Sometimes though, if you really want a person to stop trying to spite or hurt you, you can solve the problem by just being friendly to them. Just talk to them and act like you are interested in their life, you know, ask them questions about how they feel about this or that, and try to make helpful suggestions about their problems to them.
If they want to get intimate and you don't, the best way is to tell them right away that you simply don't have those types of feelings for them but that you don't mind being their friend.
2007-03-17 07:09:36 · answer #3 · answered by octo75 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my personal opinion about this, most men in general carry the word 'provider,protect,and most of all they want to feel like females depend on them for those things. When a female leaves the man, most likely whats going to happen its that they find themselves in a situation where, their always trying to hide their feelings, when they don't express themselves it stays inside and makes them angry, they can get angry about anything, especially when you're showing him that you don't need him, he wants to make your life miserable because in his thought he cant be happy without you. He's trying to make you feel like the same way he feels inside. People in general gets mad when they get hurt from another person. I'm not saying you hurt him intentionally, but he just might feel that way, so his goal is to make you feel the same. He hates the fact that you don't need him, he wants to feel like you depend on him for every decision you make. He wants top be part of your life. The only thing you can do right now, is to ignore him and no matter what childish things he do, keep showing him you don't need him, that he's not good enough for you. After a few weeks or months, he'll realize that he's doing nothing but wasting his time, and he'll just leave you alone and move on. Good Luck!
2007-03-17 07:22:41 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Lucky Charm♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heh heh
Men are VERY prideful. They must have the feeling they are needed, otherwise what can a guy do? I world without guys would be just fine. Girls could get along and rule things just fine. Alot less fighting. So they gotta make you think they are worth something. How? Well making your life miserable so you come crawling to them and making them the hero.
lol. Good luck.
2007-03-17 07:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by lightriderangel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Easy I am a man and he feel very threaten thats all, he in his mind thinks that makes him less of a man and i guarantee that this is not all him, but his friends peer pressure you know how the guys are...the old "oh you got beat by a girl attitude" and although his friend might be kidding he is taking this to serious which suggest that he might need a little bit of counseling if he start to get violent.
2007-03-17 07:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by salem 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are like children...they think that the only thing a girl need to be happy about is them. Many of them will go out of their way to spoil any happiness you get from other sources. It's a pity, but it's true in most cases.
2007-03-17 07:58:36 · answer #7 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question!!
Because he is so miserable and makes him angry to see your better off without him. He's willing to hurt you from being spiteful.
This is not a man your dealing with. THIS IS A CHILD!!
Who can't get over the huge wall he's in front of and it pisses him off to see you leaping over it! A CHILD! he needs his mommy right now.
2007-03-17 07:13:04 · answer #8 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the spitefullness is just there ego's being hurt, not jealousy. But mainly this type is a control type of personality, they can't control you and your actions and they can't stand it, so they go out of there way to try and make you miserable. It's all about controlling another person.
2007-03-17 07:10:24 · answer #9 · answered by K_Seeks4Answers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is all the EGO baby. They think you should be dependent on them. They are the hunters and gatherers, for a woman to hunt and gather for herself is seen as failure at being a man. Get away from this man before he destroys you!
2007-03-17 07:09:10 · answer #10 · answered by lee911 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm guessing you guys were dating and he broke up with you...i'm in the same situation.. my ex of 2 years just broke up with me almost 2 months ago..and since then he hasn't stopped trying to make my life miserable..people say dont let it get to u or bother you, but sometimes the things jealous guys can do can really hurt a girl..i just keep a smile on my face because although he does upset me, i really am better off without him...the sad thing is..he may not even realize he's doing it..i'm only 18 and my ex has more issues than i can shake a stick @ (ocd, adhd, depression, bipolar and he's a chronic liar...which means that he'll lie about something and then literally not even realize that it was a lie)...but he was put on antidepressants and 2 weeks later once the meds kicked in he broke up with me, then asked me out 2 days later, then broke up with me 3 days after that..we havn't talked since the breakup, until yesterday we talked for about an hour when he confessed to me that "he just wants to see me happy" and that "nomatter what, he willl always care about me" meanwhile jsut days after the breakup he was going around telling anyone and everyone he was going to "get laid over the weekend" and he hooked up with 4 girls in just 4 weeks..he told people not to talk to me, he trash talked me, he blocked me on the internet, then imed my twin sister and told her how much he missed her, put songs in his info about how hes so much better off w/o me..but the moral of the story is that if theyre so much better off without you, then why are they going out of your way to act like they are... its as if now that my ex and i are broken up he's going out of his way for me more now than he did when we were together..its almost pitiful..and all you can really do is laugh because when it comes down to it theyre making a fool of themselves...hope it helped if u still have more questions feel free to email me because i have a ton of explanations on why guys do the crazy things they do
2007-03-17 07:09:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋