Am i being a *****?

Question

my friend told me this afternoon that shes getting married in october, but if im honest
i dont realy care.
for the past few months ive felt like are friendship is over and its not like what it use to be ,she makes me feel now that she only wonts me when she wants something we were always on the phone to each other at least 4 times a day ,
I rang her a few weeks ago we talked for a bit then she said ill ring you straight back , it took her two weeks to ring me back and when she did she wonted me to book her mother a flight , i just fell im getting used , please dont say its cause im jelous cause she is getting married im not im married myself ,
im not the type of person that lets things get to me but this has and i dont like the way its making me feel ,any advice

Answer 1

I know the feeling. Had it happen to me lots of times. There are lots of people out there that i call users, and it took me a good few years to learn how to stand up to it...........Firstly go about your life the way you want. Don't contact them, but wait for them to contact you. If they want something from you make an excuse. If they say its been a long time since you contacted them, reverse the saying putting the blame onto them.........Its strange how people like you and me never seem to want anything off others. Be harder, if they don't like it......."TOUGH"....

Answer 2

I wouldn't say that you are being Jealous, But from the way you wrote this it seems that you think your friendship is comming to a complete end. You should be happy for her, and try to support her--Not saying you don't now. Just tell her how you feel about the fact that you guys can't even hold a 10 minute conversation over the phone anymore. I think she'll understand, if not she's not really a true friend. Expressing yourself is the Key! Lots of Luck!~Kayla

Answer 3

I don't think you're a *****. I think she is. She doesn't sound llike she's been such a great friend lately. When she met her finace, she didn't have to give up her other friends. She will be very sorry in a few years when she turns around and has no friends left. I know people like this who ditch all their friends and turn around one day and have nobody but their drip of a husband. A normal guy wants you to have friends too, so he can spend some time with his friends. lol. You did nothing wrong.

Answer 4

Sometimes friendships come to a natural end, in the same way that romances do. She's moving on to a new life with her husband to be, perhaps it's time you did too. Find some new friends that you have more in common with. Good luck!

Answer 5

you dont need a friend like that at all.i had a friend like that and they are more interested in there own needs than yours,you deserve better and do not need to be used. 2 weeks to ring u back is appauling especially if you were really close friends,its amazing what a relationship can do to people isnt it

Answer 6

No, you're being reasonable.

I have a cousin who did this...enough to tell me that I can't see her or talk to her on weekends, because weekends are for her boyfriend. She will only call me to say we might be able to see each other because her boyfriend might be going out of town.

I can say that I'm not going to be all that thrilled when they announce their engagment either, only because in the past year I've only seen or talked to her on holidays.

Answer 7

it does sound like your getting used but maybe there are reasons why your friend hasnt got back to you. However you need to deal with this and the only way is letteing htem know how you feel do it by phone or text and then its upj to them. however you have to accept with this that you might also loose them and you are the only one who knows if it will effect you or not.

Answer 8

I'm not sure there is much you could do. I don't see anything wrong with talking to her if she calls you and be polite to her, but I would stop making any big effort towards the friendship.

Answer 9

she sounds like one of my friends, i hated feeling like a door mat so have just tried to get on with my life and refused to let her use me anymore. and i can honestly say I'm much happier without her in my life. your not being a ***** at all, sounds like shes just using your friendship to her advantage and that's not what friends are about. maybe its time to accept people grow apart and go your separate ways, trust me you will be much happier without her

Answer 10

Well it could be just that she is busy planning the wedding... but then again it is 7 months away, so I think she probably is just using you. You should talk to her about it.